Relationship woes, anyone?

[kmschneiderpac 9]

Trust me, my relationship has been on the rocks for years; but now at 7 weeks post-op I am being threatened with divorce. I am slowly gaining my confidence back and my optimism, but I can't se to fix this one. I guess my weight wasn't the root of all my issues. Anyone else go thru some tough times?

[huskylover 0]

Not me, but I'm real sorry your going through it. I hope you have support or will seek it out.

[beba238 123]

I'm sorry to hear about that. A lot of relationships are tested after surgery. It can be jealousy, selfishness, insecurities, or other problems.

I've read a lot here about relationships post op and you aren't the only going through this.

Just know that this is the time for you to concentrate on yourself. Be selfish. Because in a few months when your looking great and feeling extremely confident your hubby will be begging you back but it might be too late because he'll have to get in the back of the line of all the guys knocking at your door. Good Luck!!!

[smdarbyshire 1]

I'm so sorry you're going through this too. I'm almost four weeks out and I thought my husband was on board but yesterday he told me he wanted a divorce. he's been my best friend since the day I met him. we were inseparable. we had problems but always made it through. Im so hurt I can't see straight.

[louisianasarah 1]

This really shocked me but my doctor told me before I had surgery that a lot of people divorced after surgery.....I thought he meant ppl got confidence back and weren't afraid to leave an unhappy marriage but he said no....he said a lot of men want chubbier wives.... That blew my mind! Maybe as a control reason.... I don't think my hubby will mind! Crossing fingers! Maybe it's because it's a new chapter.... Weird!

[kmschneiderpac 9]

I'm so sorry you're going through this too. I'm almost four weeks out and I thought my husband was on board but yesterday he told me he wanted a divorce. he's been my best friend since the day I met him. we were inseparable. we had problems but always made it through. Im so hurt I can't see straight.

I am so sorry to hear that! I hope u know u have support here. At least we can't turn to our old friend, food! God I miss it right now!!!

[Alyjourneys 117]

I feel that we have a happy strong marriage. We had serious talks about the changes. He is very supportive. Buying the items I need to get healthier. Etc.. So sorry that you are going thru this.

[Vegasme 30]

So terrible! I think everyone fears this a little.... I know it has crossed my mind . I also know that it feels like any change in my partners affection would bother me to some degree.. If he is suddenly all over me - smothering me will I feel like he wasn't accepting of me a little heavier so why should I care now? Or if he is uninterested in me thinner- is he selfish and unsupportive? I guess it is tough- damned if they do or don't. I think its natural to have more confidence and be excited after weight loss .. but you are still YOU! To me it just says that the relationship was more superficial than you thought-- maybe time to just move forward to someone new. If the love of your life cant handle a little weight gain or loss -- it is my belief that it wouldn't have lasted anyways.. it would eventually have run its course even if you were still fat.