Molly Sleeved 36 Posted June 28, 2013 I had surgery as soon as I got out of school so no one actually seen me, but I did post a picture on Facebook when I hit the 50 lb mark. (Picture attached). Suddenly, guys that wouldn't give me the time of day are striking up conversations with me just to chat. People keep telling me it's because I have new found confidence, but this is solely based on one picture I posted since we're not in school right now. Was I really invisible before? Because I'm sure with the comments that got made about me, no one thought I was easily not seen! Ugh, sometimes it's just so hard to take the new attention knowing all those years I was ignored simply because of my size. 2 mrs.petethecat and Daddysgirl10 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Shrinkingmom 218 Posted June 28, 2013 You are beautiful and yes, everyone treats me differently now, even women. It is sad but very noticeable! I like the way you put it... "invisible". That is exactly what it seems that we were but now everyone wants to talk and act like you are "normal". Just continue the good work! YOu are doing great! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PainInTheGlass 50 Posted June 28, 2013 Keep up the good work! Remember that you have a choice of who you want to associate with. If they didn't give you the time of day pre-op, I wouldn't associate with them post-op. However, if you did not know them pre-op, give them the benefit of the doubt post-op. 1 neneh_vsg reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andi 78 Posted June 28, 2013 I feel like I used to be a ghost. Some people seemed incapable of seeing me, and the others that could see me.. would stare. I got pretty used to it over the years .. sometimes I'm still floating through the world & don't get it when someone is trying to get my attention to speak to me. A friend tried telling me that it was all in my head. That people are speaking to me more now because I'm holding myself differently, more confident & inviting.. but honestly.. I don't believe that's true. I still see myself as I did before. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
courtoomp 107 Posted June 28, 2013 I think it's a combo of both them and us. But to answer the post question...YES we were invisible when we were heavier! Sad but true. But clearly you're not invisible anymore so enjoy that while keeping a critical eye of who all of a sudden noticed you. 1 SlimDreams reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites