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Hello everyone. I am on here frequently.. Reading posts.. And I have to say there are three complaints/attitudes that I can't stand hearing about on here. Sorry for the rant but sometimes you have to tell it straight.

1. The "oh I just got sleeved a few weeks ago and I've stopped loosing weight.. What's wrong with me??!" Well first off obviously you did not read the hundreds of other posts from people complaining about the exact same thing! Stalls are normal and they will pass. If you think the weight is just going to fall off overnight you are sadly mistaken.

2. The "when can I eat pizza/drink pop or other *insert obviously unhealthy meal item here*??" Really you must have missed the part about this being a lifestyle change! If you continue your same eating habits you are going to get your exact same results. Just because you have WLS doesn't mean all those empty calories you choose to consume are just going to disappear. Your setting yourself up for failure.

3. The "I've stopped loosing weight.. Oh by the way I DON'T excercise" ok now this one seriously bugs me. I am pretty sure EVERYONE was given the same information about adopting some form of physical activity after getting sleeved. It's required to help you loose weight, tone that saggy skin and maintain your weightloss when you get to goal.. If your telling yourself "I just don't love exercising" then you are FOOLING YOURSELF. No one loves excercising! It will get easier after a while and more enjoyable sure. "But my bad knee/shoulder" oh boo hoo everyone can do some form of excercise even if its just walking or even chair excersises. If a 30 year old man born with NO ARMS AND NO LEGS can find it in him to play golf, swim, and play soccer then I'm pretty sure you can do some form of excercise! (See attached inspirational video)

So to sum up my rant.. NOTHING WORTH DOING COMES EASY! It takes work and the right attitude to be successful!

http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclass/How-Nick-Vujicic-Triumphed-Against-All-Odds-Video

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The "I've stopped loosing weight.. Oh by the way I DON'T excercise" ok now this one seriously bugs me. I am pretty sure EVERYONE was given the same information about adopting some form of physical activity after getting sleeved. It's required to help you loose weight, tone that saggy skin and maintain your weightloss when you get to goal.. If your telling yourself "I just don't love exercising" then you are FOOLING YOURSELF. No one loves excercising! It will get easier after a while and more enjoyable sure. "But my bad knee/shoulder" oh boo hoo everyone can do some form of excercise even if its just walking or even chair excersises. If a 30 year old man born with NO ARMS AND NO LEGS can find it in him to play golf, swim, and play soccer then I'm pretty sure you can do some form of excercise!

Hi, if you could reach over there and hand me that asbestos fireproof suit I'd really appreciate it.

(Might want to grab one for yourself. ;) )

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This should be in the rants and raves

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And someone posts a thread just like this every week. If you read here frequently, surely you've seen one or three.

No need to be so negative and passive aggressive. Go to those people and use your tough love.

Were all tired of those threads. I'm tired of these.

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New rule: no one is allowed to post anything when they're hungry lol

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I have this at home.

I complain.

My wife complains about my complaining.

I complain about her complaining about my complaining.

On it goes.

I have learned that I'd better stop the train before she gets out the Iron fry pan.

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New rule: no one is allowed to post anything when they're hungry lol

:D :D :D :D :D

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If you have ever skipped flat stones at a tranquil lake you get a perfect picture of our low information populous. Despite the vast pool of knowledge available most people just skim the surface. Hence they touch down only when they have to, refuse to research, ask the same inane questions and vote like morons.

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And someone posts a thread just like this every week. If you read here frequently' date=' surely you've seen one or three.

No need to be so negative and passive aggressive. Go to those people and use your tough love.

Were all tired of those threads. I'm tired of these.[/quote']

Ditto what Amy said !

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I can look back to my first 20 posts on here and feel silly because I did the same thing.

When you're a newbie, you don't know how to navigate the site. It's especially hard if you're doing most of your surfing on a smartphone.

Maybe Alex's first message should include some instructions on how to better navigate the site, use the search, set up tickers, etc.

I don't always mind people asking the same questions, sometimes there are new answers. Being a newbie is part of the process, but we all have the option to pass over a thread if we don't want to engage. I will post if I feel I can add something useful to the conversation, to pay it forward in return for those who put up with me.

-Andrea

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This is a SUPPORT FORUM!

Exactly.

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I can look back to my first 20 posts on here and feel silly because I did the same thing.

When you're a newbie, you don't know how to navigate the site. It's especially hard if you're doing most of your surfing on a smartphone.

Maybe Alex's first message should include some instructions on how to better navigate the site, use the search, set up tickers, etc.

I don't always mind people asking the same questions, sometimes there are new answers. Being a newbie is part of the process, but we all have the option to pass over a thread if we don't want to engage. I will post if I feel I can add something useful to the conversation, to pay it forward in return for those who put up with me.

-Andrea

Not everyone sees every question or complaint, so when someone new posts, whether it is to whine or inquire, you never know who will see it that didn't see the last one posted by somebody different. My husband is an IT Director, he says when it is something he doesn't have time for or no interest in, he pushes delete and moves on to the next. LoL

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The correct response to a repeat post is to help the new member of the family out. If it's simple, give a correct answer and move on. If it's more complicated, the answer might look something like:

This question comes up quite often. The high level answer is xyz. But if you're looking for more details or a bunch of other opinions, check out this thread from earlier this week: [insert link from thread here]. You can also use the search function and look for [abc] to find other threads about this.

That way, you help train a newbie and still give useful info. Look at you, offering the same support that you want! Feels good, right?

Or if it really irritates you, just drive on by to a post that doesn't bug you, as others have said. Someone else will help out the noob.

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