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http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/im-overweight-boyfriends-not-big-freaking-deal-134800157.html

The fact that this is even a topic of an article kind of irritates me. People love people for different reasons and you know if it was reversed i.e. a large man dating a thin woman, it wouldn't even be worth an article.

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It was a rather personal confession by the author, almost as if she had to explain or defend their relationship. I am glad that she found someone that makes her happy. I am with a fit man who is supportive and loves me like I am, but I dont need to blog about it. It was a nice read, but to make it on the front page of Yahoo news is a bit ridiculous.

But yes, this would not be an article if it was the other way around. If it were, it would be to degrade the man and call the woman stupid.

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I was thinking "It MUST be a slow news day".

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Yes it was a slow news day, however, it was this woman's personal story. My mom was fat all her life, yet she was only alone 3 yrs out of her adult life. The day she died her boyfriend was with her.

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I am certainly sensitive to this woman and her story. It is a story that many of us live with every day. The link I read from yahoo made the article sound like it was shocking that a man of average weight would be with a woman that was overweight. Hardly... Of course to the media, women are to be judged almost entirely by their weight.

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I am 5'3 and at my highest weight was 240..my boyfriend is 6'3 and weighs 145 SOAKING wet :) It bothered me at first but I honestly don't even think about it anymore.

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I don't know why people assume that people are always attracted to people who have a similar appearance to themselves.. My exhusband was very muscular and a marathon runner (OMG and a full-on Mediterranean HOTTIE).. we met and married when I was around 315 pounds. My current boyfriend is 145 pounds. I've never dated a fat man. What's the big deal. I also tend go for olive skinned or "brown" men and I'm WHITE as a ghost... Been fat all my life and never had trouble finding relationships where there is a mutual attraction... though I'm a bit concerned about physical attraction when it comes to my future with my current boyfriend.. he is happy I'm losing weight for my health, but he's very worried about me going under 200 pounds as he thinks that's too "skinny"..... Meh, maybe some nice perky breast implants would appease him :-P

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