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Hi everybody, I am about 4 months out and almost 50 lbs down. I adore my husband and enjoy the sex when it does happen, it's just getting there. Please tell me I'm not alone. I don't know what to do or even if I'm doing something wrong. I've been reading that a lot of women's drives are booming... The thing is that usually they also say it was slow PRE surgery. Mine was pretty average before and now it's gone... My guess is that my hormones are off. I will be making a gyno appt. But I'm hoping some veterans can give me some insight on what they have gone through...

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Same here. If you find out what is wrong please tell me. Would like to know.

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Same here. I was sleeved 4/16 and my sex drive went out the window. Never had trouble before. I have had some complications so that may have hindered my libido. I feel so sorry for my hubby. He is being patient though. He'll tease me and be like "just touch it" or "woller it in your mouth". The thought of that right now makes me gag. Never had the problem before. Hope it gets better for us soon.

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Just read something online that says that estrogen is stored in fat cells, which is why your drive can go away with your fat loss...

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I have read that too. Hopefully when my hormones settle down, I'll be in the mood again.

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Prior to surgery, my sex drive was pretty good. The first couple of months post op it was low. But I'm 8 months out and my drive have never been better. So give it time.

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I am the opposite of above poster, unfortunately. I am also 8 months out and have zero libido. It is scary how zero it is. Thinking maybe I need to talk to my doctor about it at least for my husband's sake.

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I have zero drive 2+ months out and newly inserted with Mirena. Unfortunately my husband has no interest either, so we're more like roommates than husband and wife.

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I went through this after a hysterectomy. My gyno put me on testosterone cream that I get from a compounding pharmacy. Works so great I took her flowers on my follow up visit! Hubby and I are like teenagers again at age 52. I recommend it to anyone with libido issues.

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