am I selfish wife?

[ramirelek 59]

I am sad and depressed. My husband told me today that he wants to travel to colombia to visit his mom who he have not seen for 8 years. I think thats great and I agree with that, but once he told me that he wants to bautize our baby over there I told him what about my mom she would have to travel too. He told me he does not want my mom there or anyone from my family because his mom have to be the one who receives full attention from the rest of his family meaning that he wants his mother to b the central point. I told him his mother could arrenged everythibg and my mom would be there for me but he saif noooo. He wants to make a big party for his family and he does not want anyone from my side. Because my mom has being there always and his mother has not being able to be there becausr she lives outside the us. Now he even call me selfish because I am thinking about inviting my mother. He wants his mother to do everything and according to him if my mother goes is going to take some attention away from his mom. To me thats crazy, but I dont know what should I do. Any sujestions please

[Heartonsleeve 32]

This guy is stealth crazy, file for divorce quick!

[VSGKirk 855]

Why not have two baptisms? The baby won't mind - they love playing in Water

[Ruthie1974 34]

This is just simply a difference in cultures (IMHO). I agree with having two baptisms. Think of it like this, he hasn't seen his mother in 8 years. She has missed everything because of distance. If she was in the States I am sure she would have been there. Try to be understanding and grateful for your mother being there all the time. Good luck!

[GoldyGirl 186]

His mother has Miss a lot, let her have this time. You can plan something else with your family when you are back in the U.S.

[ramirelek 59]

Thanks to all of you.

[LouiseC 1,031]

Another vote for two baptisms. I can understand his perspective if your mother is there bonding with her new grandchild and living nearby and his mother is not able to form the same bond due to being so far away. I can see why he may want his mother to have some time where she can be the grandmother without any competition, real or perceived.