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I do not like the attention at all. I feel uncomfortable and am not sure what to say to people when they are giving a nice compliment. I don't want to feel like that so I'm wondering if anyone had some input on how to receive these kind of things differently?? Awkward:/

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It's hard! The first thing I always do is negate it by pointing out something negative about myself or making a joke..

But I am trying! I find if you just force yourself to say "thank you" It's over with pretty fast and painless :)

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I hear you...the best, quickest way to deal is to smile and graciously say "thank you" (I know, that sounds crazy hard)...hopefully you will be able to start actually BELIEVING the compliments you receive, but telling the person all the reasons why you don't think you deserve said compliment just prolongs the spotlight you are trying to avoid.

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Just say :"thank you" it's short, to the point, and let's the other person feel acknowledged. You can ponder on what they said later.

Lynda

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Yep, thank you requires no further dialogue. Then a quick change of subject!

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I am uncomfortable too, when the ladies at my office compliment me on my weight loss. But I thank them and then ask them to please not oogle my Buns as I walk away. :rolleyes:

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Yes I hope I can get to the point where I can say thank you without my face going beat red lol.. "Uncomfortable" lol

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I take my compliments well its only when I'm in a group of more than three and someone says like how much weight she's loss and then they all look its a weird feeling I feel like I been but on the spot but I'm learning to deal .. I think what everyone said I have a new name skinny Minnie at my job it's weird but they are very supportive

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I just smile and say Thank you very much.. my works have been so great with me.. I get the new skinny tag too.. I love them all so much.. they are always full of questions too... but Im ok with telling them everything.. including how much wt ive lost.. I work on the cardiac/cancer unit of the hospital.. so we are all pretty close up there on the floor.. so I share with them... they are big supporters of mine.. Im not use the all the compliments.. but I take them graciously and say thanks...

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I just smile and say Thank you very much.. my works have been so great with me.. I get the new skinny tag too.. I love them all so much.. they are always full of questions too... but Im ok with telling them everything.. including how much wt ive lost.. I work on the cardiac/cancer unit of the hospital.. so we are all pretty close up there on the floor.. so I share with them... they are big supporters of mine.. Im not use the all the compliments.. but I take them graciously and say thanks...

How much, if I may ask?

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