Lying about the surgery at work.... Please help!

[anna eve 7]

I wish I was brave enough to go down the open and honest route. Just feeling ashamed and embarrassed at the moment. Maybe when my confidence is back i won't mind telling people the truth. I also worry that work would have a problem with me taking sick leave for something that I guess is elective altho I know long term it's better for your health. The job is going so well I don't wana mess it up! Thank you all so much for your advise ????????????

[LouiseC 1,031]

I will say what I always say in these threads, my advice is to chose discretion or chose honesty. My advice is never willingly and actively lie. Either tell the truth or say nothing.

A lie leads you down a slippery slope and ultimately can compromise your integrity. Value your integrity, you may need it in the future, especially in the work place.

I completely respect anyone's decision not to say anything, not to tell anyone they don't care to tell, just like I can completely respect those who tell all. But lying? No. Just don't. Few people value and respect those they discover to be liars.

[Ms.AntiBand 2,984]

I think it's fair and honest to say you are having personal issues and while you appreciate the concern, you'd rather not go into detail.

No further explanation needed.

Actually, I believe lipstickLady's true words are.. Tell 'em to f'off and mind their own business.

You don't have to tell anyone anything you don't want to tell them. It's that simple.

[PGee 318]

One word of advice, please don't say you are having your gallbladder out......in some cases VSG'ers have to have that surgery later on.......that would be a bit difficult to explain if you told them you already had it out......Good luck whatever you decide (I'll keep it to myself, and haven't a clue what to tell people either)

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Actually, I believe lipstickLady's true words are.. Tell 'em to f'off and mind their own business.

You don't have to tell anyone anything you don't want to tell them. It's that simple.

You know me so well!

[Francieb 15]

I'm telling my clients that I'm having a hernia fixed. I'm telling my co-workers the truth. They know how I eat and will notice the pre-op diet. I don't think I care if people know when I start losing. It's a personal choice, and I don't want to explain myself. The people I work with have been very supportive.