Afraid to tell people I've been sleeved

[dolores_o 5]

I am afraid on how people will judge me. I am only 6 days in from having been sleeved and this is surely no easy way out.

[Ms.AntiBand 2,984]

If you don't want to tell anyone ... don't. I didn't

[gmanbat 5,889]

If you tell or you don't tell you are OK. There are about an equal number of people here on both sides I think. Some change their mind and switch to telling. Some tell just close friends and relatives.

Then there are characters like me who tell folks for fun just to watch them struggle. It's the mean little boy in me.

[Melixxa 125]

I don't plan to tell people either--only my mom and one of my dearest friends.

There are so many misconceptions about the surgery...ie. it's a lazy choice, an easy way out. I'm a school teacher in a small community and it would be big news for the gossip mills, believe me. I don't ever remember hearing about anyone in my community having the surgery, that's for sure.

But as to keeping it private, I predict I will have enough on my plate without having to deal with the expectations and judgements of acquaintances and co-workers.

[luckysmomma 407]

I didn't tell anyone, either. People can be mean, intentionally and unintentionally. Do what is best for you. Good luck!

[SeriouslyChange 319]

I felt the same at first. Now, I'm 6 months out, and I don't give an f... People can think what they want, the sleeve worked for me and I am proud of my results. The majority of people say hateful crap because their jealous and threatened by you. I've lost a few close friends over my sleeve, but obviously they weren't that great if I lost them so easily.

You may hesitate now, but give yourself time to get use to it

[Melixxa 125]

I've lost a few close friends over my sleeve, but obviously they weren't that great if I lost them so easily.

I should be shocked by this, but sadly, I'm not. I have a friend who would never be able to accept the idea of the surgery. She views all medical problems as spiritual ones--even cancer!-- so because I really care about her, I'll just do my level best to keep it private from her.

[axd0424 33]

I didn't hide it from anyone. I took the approach that I'm doing this for me. Most were supportive some are not. The ones that aren't. Screw them. Most are loving the transformation. Was much easier to not have to remember what I told and who I told. I just don't give a rats ass about those who look down on it. Never been happier and people say I glow.

[gmanbat 5,889]

I also didn't give a rat's ass.

If you have stock in the rat's ass industry I suggest you divest.

People are giving them a lot less these days.

[Melixxa 125]

I know I definitely need to cut down on my contributions of rats asses!

[SerendipityHappens 1,594]

If you want to tell then tell.. if you DON'T want to tell, then don't.. Just remember that once you tell one person.. you can't "untell" so choose wisely!

Personally I've told my sisters and my boyfriend and that's it. I'll let the cat out of the bag to the rest of my family in August when I see them at a wedding I'm invited to. By then I'll be around 240 pounds (hopefully) and it will be pretty hard for people not to notice a 120 pound weight loss! I'm proud of the fact that I'm sleeved...I just didn't want to tell people in advance because I don't want them to have unrealistic expectations.

[Sleeve Goddess 75]

I am afraid on how people will judge me. I am only 6 days in from having been sleeved and this is surely no easy way out.

If ur afraid to tell folks about ur sleeve then you probably shouldn't. Go with your first instinct and limit who u share your personal experience. We live in a extremely judgmental society and only those who love us will accept you and your decision.

I agree with the person on this thread that said " once you tell you can' t un- tell". Also depending who you tell a secret ain't a secret once you tell the wrong person.

[NuLife4me 15]

I'm telling people who ask and then some that don't. To me, I am taking advantage of a medical procedure to help me live longer. Just like the c-sections I've had that brought me my three beautiful children. If I hadn't taken advantage of that procedure, I would be dead. Do I wish I could lose weight "naturally" just like I wished I would have been able to have natural childbirth? You bet! Will it ultimately make a difference? No. Find your worth in yourself, not in what other people think.

[buplee 556]

I told no one other than my wife and immediate family and they won't tell him anyone. It is your choice and no ones business. Good luck to you.

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[Jordo29 17]

I told my closest friends and they came and visited me in the hospital! They were very happy for me because they knew how much of a struggle I had been having. Tell the people you trust. I'm going back to school with people I've known a year and I'm afraid they will judge me, but I figured, this surgery saved my life, why not share it with the world!? So, if someone asks, I tell them .