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I am not a "show off" gloating kind of person at all! But I can't wait to walk back into my old job in 1 year and watch my 2 old bosses jaws drop!

For 4 and a half years I worked at a small family owned grocery store with 2 of the worst bosses ever! They bullied ridiculed and degraded me daily. Made fat jokes and ordered me to do jobs that literally were physically impossible or Extremely hard on my body. And then punish me for not completing my tasks or having to ask for help.

The day I quit my boss and I were in a storage room for back stock. I was organizing products and my boss (store supervisor/manger) starts talking about some song. A country song called "Rockin the beer gut" I knew what he was talking about but I never thought he'd actually say what he said. "So, do you like to drink?.. Is that why your stomachs so big? Rockin a beer gut?"

I walked out that day and haven't been back. I now can't wait to get skinny and get all dressed up walk in there and just watch their reactions, and because I'm not employed there anymore I'm going to give them a piece of my mind!

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I am not a "show off" gloating kind of person at all! But I can't wait to walk back into my old job in 1 year and watch my 2 old bosses jaws drop!

For 4 and a half years I worked at a small family owned grocery store with 2 of the worst bosses ever! They bullied ridiculed and degraded me daily. Made fat jokes and ordered me to do jobs that literally were physically impossible or Extremely hard on my body. And then punish me for not completing my tasks or having to ask for help.

The day I quit my boss and I were in a storage room for back stock. I was organizing products and my boss (store supervisor/manger) starts talking about some song. A country song called "Rockin the beer gut" I knew what he was talking about but I never thought he'd actually say what he said. "So' date=' do you like to drink?.. Is that why your stomachs so big? Rockin a beer gut?"

I walked out that day and haven't been back. I now can't wait to get skinny and get all dressed up walk in there and just watch their reactions, and because I'm not employed there anymore I'm going to give them a piece of my mind![/quote']

Lol you go girl!

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What??? Why would you go back to that? I don't mean to be a downer but a bully is a bully, and they will attempt to find ways to do it again.

These people did not find you so heavy or horrible in some way thaty you knocked their halos off their heads. These are bullies, and someone is catching the crap you are dodging by not being there.

I could consider filing formal complaints against them, and letting the current employees know, too. They don't deserve their positions.

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I would do a write up on glassdoor.com

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What??? Why would you go back to that? I don't mean to be a downer but a bully is a bully' date=' and they will attempt to find ways to do it again.

These people did not find you so heavy or horrible in some way thaty you knocked their halos off their heads. These are bullies, and someone is catching the crap you are dodging by not being there.

I could consider filing formal complaints against them, and letting the current employees know, too. They don't deserve their positions.[/quote']

I think she is gonna just go as a customer

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My ex called me a fat cow when he is about 430-500 pounds..he works at a casino and I'm walking my skinny ass in there and going to strut my stuff :D I mean even if its not to show off I'm turning 21 soon and I'm going to want to go inside any casino around here just to go so its kinda avoidable lol.

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You should have filed a case with the EEOC. That would teach them a lesson!

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^^^ What she said. If you decide to go in there make sure you have tough skin because they might say that all that bulling is what got you to lose weigh. Becareful going back into the snake pit.

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Yes. I will be returning as a customer... But I won't spend a penny in that store!

I filed a complaint with my union rep and with the store owner but it went know where they are all out to cover each others asses. And as far as my former coworkers.. They are all aware of the behavior. They take turns picking on each and every employee. They do it because they know the workers really need their jobs in this economy and because they know if someone quits because of it that worker is replaceable. And no one complains for fear of losing their job. Even if they did file a complaint ... No one does anything about it.

it's been 3 years since I quit i know i will need to have tough skin because they will probably try to take credit for my weight loss so I could easily argue that if they had that big of an impact on my life, I would have lost weight sooner.

I just want to embarrass them as much as they do everyone else. Not sure what I will do or say, but I have a year to figure out. I also feel like the owners will take me a little more seriously when I'm not a blob of fat and get those 2 out of there, or get them help and leave the employes alone. I feel bad for my former work friends.

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My ex called me a fat cow when he is about 430-500 pounds..he works at a casino and I'm walking my skinny ass in there and going to strut my stuff :D I mean even if its not to show off I'm turning 21 soon and I'm going to want to go inside any casino around here just to go so its kinda avoidable lol.

HE was how much?!?! And called YOU what?!?! Oh no. Lol I would call him a fat cow just for the hell of it lmao and I'm so not into name calling!

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HE was how much?!?! And called YOU what?!?! Oh no. Lol I would call him a fat cow just for the hell of it lmao and I'm so not into name calling!

Agreed! I hate it when a fat person calls another person fat. Like really?? Your a hypocrite, grow up!

She needs to go strut her stuff and make sure he sees! Bastard!! Lol

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They sound like callous individuals, I would be amazed if anything you had to say to them would have any effect on them at all. Simply put, don't waste any more of your time thinking about them or plotting to "show them up". They very likely won't give a damn and then you'd just feel silly. Besides that, making "revenge" a factor in your motivation sounds pretty unhealthy long term.

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They sound like callous individuals' date=' I would be amazed if anything you had to say to them would have any effect on them at all. Simply put, don't waste any more of your time thinking about them or plotting to "show them up". They very likely won't give a damn and then you'd just feel silly. Besides that, making "revenge" a factor in your motivation sounds pretty unhealthy long term.[/quote']

Don't be my Debbie downer. I have many forms of motivation. #1 being all about me # 2 my kids. I think everyone has healthy and unhealthy forms of motivation. I just chose to share mine. I'm sure what ever I say won't phase them, but it'll make me feel better to confront my bullies... And to top it off I won't be ashamed to go see my old work friends anymore

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I'm not trying to be a downer, it's just these individuals don't sound like they are worth your time or effort thinking about them to begin with. Either way, good luck!

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Don't be my Debbie downer. I have many forms of motivation. #1 being all about me # 2 my kids. I think everyone has healthy and unhealthy forms of motivation. I just chose to share mine. I'm sure what ever I say won't phase them' date=' but it'll make me feel better to confront my bullies... And to top it off I won't be ashamed to go see my old work friends anymore[/quote']

I'd say go in there and be happy and fabulous without stooping to their level. No better revenge then being the better person inside and out.

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