Recovering alone?

[JessicaAnn 564]

Sorry for posting so much lately, but now that I have a date I have so many questions!

So my mom and I have both been going through the process to get the sleeve. 2 different surgeons, 2 different insurance companies. My stuff has gone smoothly, she's had a lot of issues with insurance and her office (paperwork stuff). I finally got a date for July 3rd! So she put in for a week vacation time to help me with the kids while I recover (my husband works a job where unless its a serious emergency he can't take time off). So her surgeon calls her yesterday and says her surgery will be on June 27.. The week before mine!! She still thinks she will be ok to help, but I know she can't. So now I'll be recovering alone with a 1 year old, and 3.5 year old. Am I being unrealistic? Anyone come home from the hospital and get thrown right back into mommy life?

[anniemay 150]

You will not be able to lift them. This could be a problem

[JessicaAnn 564]

You will not be able to lift them. This could be a problem

That's what I'm thinking. My 3.5 year old is very self sufficient, but the one year old is needy.

[JessicaAnn 564]

But, the one year old can walk and climb the couch.. It's really just in and out of the crib and highchair that he would need lifting

[wcn1970 239]

I have a 1 year old and a 5 year old and stay home with the youngest during the day, I work afternoons. There is NO WAY you can take care of them for 2 whole weeks. If you try you are only going to negate your recovery, not worth trying!!! Have yours or your moms surgery rescheduled. Seriously, don't attempt to lift, chase and take care of children. Especially your older mother. I would guess her recovery will be longer assuming everything goes well for both of you.

[Itsme! 98]

I had no lifting restrictions and was fine caring for my 2 & 4 year olds. Maybe your mom can come help and you two can work together.

[JessicaAnn 564]

I had no lifting restrictions and was fine caring for my 2 & 4 year olds. Maybe your mom can come help and you two can work together.

This is what she thinks we should do. She's only in her early 50's so she's a young granny lol, but I just feel bad looking at the baby and not picking him up..

[Roserie 302]

I am in the same boat as you as far as having a SO that can't take off of work. My surgery falls on a Monday and I'll be out of the hospital the next day. He will only be able to take 1 day off (and that's pushing it). My son weighs about 30lbs and only crawls. My surgeon told me not to lift him at all for the first week, 2 if at all possible. I'd say reschedule yours if you can. I still haven't really figured out what I'm going to to with getting my son into his crib for his morning nap (my SO does work only about 2min away from home so I may have to see if he can drive home to put him in and take him out). I didn't listen hen I had gallbladder surgery (and after my c-section) about not lifting the little one and wound up really hurting my recovery so do what you can to listen to the lifting restrictions.

[jessica bowling 24]

I would make it work. Start now with your son making him do alot more to help you. Him climb unto your lap. Maybe let him not sleep in his baby bed that week maybe he can sleep with you or. Maybe it's time for a toddler bed. I know my children were very independent 1 year olds and you have weeks to work at it. Your mom can still help you. I mean a week out I went back to work and work with special needs children and adults and I was fine. I just didn't lift them.

[cms213 119]

First of all congrats to you and your mom!

You know some people have a really fast recovery but I wouldn't plan on either of you having a fast recovery (always plan for the worst and hope for the best). I'm 8 days post op and there is no way I could take care of two small children but I am feeling pretty good just not THAT good.

Is there somewhere the kids can go while your husband is at work?

[JessicaAnn 564]

I would make it work. Start now with your son making him do alot more to help you. Him climb unto your lap. Maybe let him not sleep in his baby bed that week maybe he can sleep with you or. Maybe it's time for a toddler bed. I know my children were very independent 1 year olds and you have weeks to work at it. Your mom can still help you. I mean a week out I went back to work and work with special needs children and adults and I was fine. I just didn't lift them.

That's probably what I'll do. My husband is home at night so he can always do bath/bed time. I guess we can eat "picnic" style so I don't have to put him in his highchair.

[JessicaAnn 564]

First of all congrats to you and your mom!

You know some people have a really fast recovery but I wouldn't plan on either of you having a fast recovery (always plan for the worst and hope for the best). I'm 8 days post op and there is no way I could take care of two small children but I am feeling pretty good just not THAT good.

Is there somewhere the kids can go while your husband is at work?

I have a friend that also has a 4 year old. So I can always send the older one to her, but the baby is veryyy attached to me and will only let either my mom or husband care for him (if I'm not there).

[cynthia4722 74]

I don't have kids and I had an extremely easy recovery, However for a few weeks I would get completely exhausted and have to stop everything and lie down. This would happen with no warning. Because of this I would not have been able to care for a child let alone lift one.

Good luck, I am sure you will find a solution.

[Ms.AntiBand 2,984]

My dr showed me how to manage with a 1 year old. Of course avoid the lifting, but at times you cant , you sit and let him crawl onto your lap and then you get up. This is something your mom can do when she's a week or so out.