discouraged and depressed

[Cindigzz 21]

I am 3 weeks post op and I've only lost 20 pounds. All the sudden at 3 weeks the weight loss stopped. I am drinking my Protein and not eating anything that contains fat. I have lost 2 dress sizes but it just seems like I should still be loosing at least a pound per day like I was. I did this surgery so I could get back in the corporate world and to be attractive again to my husband. Am I doing something wrong? If anybody has any feedback please let me know what I can do to go back to loosing the weight. I just want to feel normal and beautiful again. But i must be doing something wrong. Dr says I can't go back to the gym for 5 more weeks so I'm just walking. Any advice anyone?

[Miss Piggy 30]

20 pounds in 3 weeks is awesome!!!!

[HatheryOnHerWay 603]

It's the 3 week stall....do a search for it on the forum, and you'll find it's quite common.

[Itsme! 98]

Just keep doing what you're doing and it'll work. Some people lose 50 pounds their first month. Some of us lose "only" 20. Many people stall around week 3. I did for about 10 days and just lost 4 pounds finally again this week (I'm 4 weeks out). Be patient and keep doing what you're doing. It took years to get where we are today. It'll take several months or maybe a couple of years to get where we want to be.

[SerendipityHappens 1,594]

A pound a day is a 3500 calorie per day deficit.. it is not reasonable to have that huge of a deficit every day even with the surgery. Also, your body will plateau for a while.. My weight loss stalled for an entire month right after surgery. I wasn't doing anything wrong, that's just the way it goes.

I am happy to lose 10 pounds a month.. A 15 pound loss in a month is absolutely THRILLING. I think you need to adjust your expectations a bit. You'll lose the weight, it just may not come off at a rate of 30 pounds a month.

[Cindigzz 21]

Thank you all for your responses. I appreciate it. I've read all these story's and watched a bunch of you tube videos where these women lost 100 lbs in 6 months. So I guess I expected the same thing.

[TapSnap 357]

Thank you all for your responses. I appreciate it. I've read all these story's and watched a bunch of you tube videos where these women lost 100 lbs in 6 months. So I guess I expected the same thing.

100lbs in 6 months i doable but you have to take in account of how much the weighed before hand. Someone who weighs 400lbs is going to loss more weight in a short amount of time compared to someone who ways 300lbs.

20lbs in the first 3 weeks is very good. Keep it up.

[Cindigzz 21]

Thank you roadmap

[oldskoolsooz 24]

Hi there.

I'm exactly five weeks post-op today yaaay! I had a very difficult 2-3 weeks healing process but at 4 weeks I started to feel much better and now I feel pretty good. Im 5'2" and started my journey at 248 lbs on April 1st. I lost 10 lbs during the pre-op diet period and I was sleeved on May 1st. By June 1st I had lost 11 more lbs. I have lost a total of 21 lbs in two months. I can't say I'm not disappointed especially reading how so many people are losing so so so much faster :-( I try to remain positive and keep in mind that I'm losing and not gaining! Unfortunately Ive also become hungry..not head hunger which I was prepared for tnx to this forum..but real hunger! I can also eat quite a lot..a lot more than I expected or wanted in fact =-O I haven't tried to push the limit and get as full as I can. I'm consuming about 1000 calories a day and not reaching the Water or Protein goal :-( I follow the protein first, no water 15 mins before and 30 mins after rules. I'm still figuring it out I guess.

I also watched a BUNCH of YouTube videos and read a LOT of posts in this forum and started to get really discouraged. Fortunately a really positive person will point out just when the years start that..hey! 21 pounds lost in two months is great lol!! Keep as positive as you can :-)

[BlessedBeyondMeasure2012 296]

I'm consuming about 1000 calories a day and not reaching the Water or Protein goal :-( I follow the Protein first, no Water 15 mins before and 30 mins after rules. I'm still figuring it out I guess.

You may want to look at the things you are eating. I am 10 weeks out now and I feel like I eat more than most people do, and I am not eating 1000 cal per day. I get in 80-100+ gm of protein in most days and I eat really low carbs (I try to keep it between 20-30 gm per day but preferably closer to 20 gm). If you are able to get that many calories in but not all of your protein I'm going to guess that you are eating more carbs/fats than you need at this point. Keep working at it, it certainly is a learing process and I am still learing everyday. You are doing great though with your weight loss.

I too had a stall but mine started at 10 days out and lasted 2 1/2 weeks. Talk about drive a girl crazy! I totally know how you feel, I felt the same way and I'm sure most of us here have had the same thoughts and feelings. If you are doing what you know you should keep that up but maybe try to change it up a little. I know that when my stall started it was about the time that I was on full liquids/soft foods. I was getting in way more carbs than protein. My doc wouldn't let me start on protein until after two weeks out. Anyway, when I was able to dramatically drop my carbs and really pick up my protein my stall broke. I have had once since then too and I think I'm probably starting another one now. The key is to keep chugging along. This will work. 21 pounds is a great loss, more than I lost in my first month and I have WAY more weight to lose than you do . One other thing, try not to weigh yourself everyday. (I really suck at this part, even in a stall I weigh everyday cause I want to know when it breaks). But I have figured out that when I get on the scale and don't see it moving even when I know I'm doing everything right, I get discouraged. If I can stay away from the scale and I know that I am doing what I am supposed to then in my mind I know it is working and that makes me feel really good. I hope it will you too.

When I went through my first stall my body really changed a lot even though the scale didn't. I dropped a pant size almost overnight it seemed like. And people noticed more just all of a sudden. You should measure yourself every so often so you can see how much your measurements are changing even if the scale is being stubborn. Also look for NSV's to keep your spirits up. There is way more to this journey than just what the scale tells you. Keep your head up, you've got this. I'm sure your husband thinks you are one beautiful lady, and even though what he thinks of you is important, you need to BELIEVE you are beautiful even more! Sorry, I think I'm rambling...

[Ms.AntiBand 2,984]

It will happen.. Be patient and trust us when we say you've done an awesome job so far!

[NancyDec20 212]

Hi there.. you are doing a great job.. as you know and have read.. everyone loses at a different rate..we are all different.. I used to watch all those videos on youtube.. before surgery and before I found this site.. and can you say OMG. I was scared to death of surgery.. Im like omg where did they go for that.. it was all horrible stuff.. so I quit watching... I came here..and found others like me.. I have hit a stall too.. im 5mo post op.. depressing well yes it can be.. but I know that will change soon..and im doing all the right things.. but I read up in here..and everyone hits it at one point.. some sooner than others..but I figure.. hey I look good now.. wait til it starts again.. and I will be fabulous... I figure my body is taking a break from all the weight loss ive had.. so hang in there.. you will start again.. trust us all here that have been thru it.. best of luck to you..

[christieouchley 55]

You are feeling exactly like I am. I was sleeved on April 29th and in the first 2 weeks I lost 18 lbs. At five weeks out I have lost 8 more for a total of 26 lbs. I wanted 30 gone by this time. I am eating 600-700 calories per day, and usually get all protien and Water in. I started walking for 30 min a day as soon as my drain was pulled, and was up to 2.3 mi in 30 minutes yesterday (I'm so out of shape so I am proud of that). I just don't understand how with the exercise and such little calories the scale isn' t moving anymore.

[buplee 556]

It's your body reacting to the shock from surgery. I think most of went through the dreaded 3 week stall. Just keep doing what you are doing and it will break. I too was discouraged with a 20lb loss at 3 weeks, but it broke and at 14 weeks I am 70 lbs down. Hang in there it only gets better. Congrats on your weight loss and journey.

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[MCG 0]

Just keep doing what you're doing and it'll work. Some people lose 50 pounds their first month. Some of us lose "only" 20. Many people stall around week 3. I did for about 10 days and just lost 4 pounds finally again this week (I'm 4 weeks out). Be patient and keep doing what you're doing. It took years to get where we are today. It'll take several months or maybe a couple of years to get where we want to be.

You say that you're 4 wks out. How do you feel? I'm 4 1/2 wks and i feel horrible!!! not much energy. any suggestions?