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My husband been really supportive but at points I know he was tweaking out :-( this surgery is very emotionally psychologically and physically draining. It's going to make you feel a bit crazy..depressed..sad..and oh so tired! As long as you realize that and KNOW that it'll pass it should be ok..just talk about it a bit..? -ps..I'm five weeks out today :-)

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Mine is supportive as well but he still had his moments. The second night I was home he left me with the 3 kids and went out to eat by himself and continued to do this multiple times until I lost it on him. He would have a few beers and come back and be quite rude. It was like he couldn't handle any of it for a while. But now that the burden of the children isn't on him anymore, and he's decided he wants to lose weight as well, he's more normal again.

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So far my wife has been very supportive taking off to be at meeting/appointment/dr visit. However, she has been slipping in here and there "Are you going to leave me or cheat when you lose this weight". It was in a laughing joking way the 1st few times but seems to be getting a little more stern as I grow closer to surgery. I hope she really doesn't feel this way.

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So far my wife has been very supportive taking off to be at meeting/appointment/dr visit. However' date=' she has been slipping in here and there "Are you going to leave me or cheat when you lose this weight". It was in a laughing joking way the 1st few times but seems to be getting a little more stern as I grow closer to surgery. I hope she really doesn't feel this way.[/quote']

My husband keeps "joking" about this too. He himself is in great shape and good looking, so I'm not sure why so insecure.

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I just wish my wife and kids would stop eating my special food and stick to theirs.

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WLS has been known to rock the boat in some marriages. It changes many aspects of what was once "normal". Our changes affect everyone around us in a rippling effect. Guessing that the jokes are their way of vocalizing fears without pursuing the issue too much.

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