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Hi, I need some advice. I have gotten through most of the process and will possibly have a definite surgery date within the next 1-2 weeks. My close co-workers know that I am having the surgery.

The place doing my surgery is trying to work around the week of vacation I have already requested off and they are holding a date right now for me for the week before my vacation. My dilemma is how to tell my boss. I know I have no obligation to tell them what I am having done, but I'm afraid if I don't tell her she will hear it from one of my coworkers what I am having done.

I'm just really nervous. I will have been at my job exactly a year the day I'm possibly scheduled for surgery. Can anyone tell me what u have told your bosses?

Thanks!

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I told my boss that I am having a weight loss procedure and I didn't want anyone else in the office to know. I told her that I appreciated her discretion, and she's not said a word to anyone. If you're not comfortable disclosing that it's WLS, you could certainly just say you're having a personal medical procedure done and you'd like it kept between you and her.

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It is none of their business and you do not have to tell them anything, per the Medical Leave Act. My boss knows I had surgery, but no other details other than I would be out a week (which has now turned into two). One of my employees asked what type of surgery I was having and I told her it was personal and left it at that.

It's none of their business!

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I don't plan on telling my boss anything. If it comes down that there is a scheduling issue between vacation and my surgery date, I will probably tell her I'm having a medical procedure. I think that will make her more lenient about the time off. I doubt she would press any further, but I'd probably just say its not something I want to discuss if she did.

Hopefully the co-workers you've told will respect your privacy and not discuss with your boss. But even if they did, I don't think here is anything wrong with you not telling her.

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I told my boss I am having surgery on August 5th and will be out six weeks. Gave no explanation as to what I am having done.

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I told my boss I was having a hernia repaired (truth). I was out of work one week.

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I told my boss that I was having surgery and her eye brows shot up and she asked if everything was alright? I told her they were more than alright and that I'm having the sleeve done. And that I'm not telling many people about it so I'd appreciate her not saying anything. She asked how long I would need to be out for and I told her 2 weeks minimum (I work in child care and have to lift 2 year olds quite often) and she said she doesn't want me to chance it so she put me out for 3 weeks. I'm already getting my group of kids ready for when I can't lift them and my boss is being a lot more understanding than I expected!

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I have no plans on telling anyone in the office. However, I have 4 weeks of vacation I can use.....good luck....

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I work in a small office so I just told them I'm having weight loss surgery & that's it ... Easy peasy :)

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I've been at my job for 6 years and my boss has seen me struggle with my weight over the years. When I told her I was having wls she was so excited for me and said she can't wait to see my progress! :)

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I just went to my HR person and filled out the necessary FMLA paperwork. I thought I would be out two weeks but when my doctor's office faxed the paperwork back they gave me six weeks. I take my hat off to those who went back to work the next week. I admit I am a tad wimpy! Oh, and HR took care of informing my supervisor.

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Well, everything is out in the open now! I didn't mention what I am having done, just that I am having surgery and that I will need two weeks off. It was a lot easier than I thought it would be. I officially have my surgery date on June 26th!

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Told her I was having weight loss surgery and not to tell others. I told some but certain ppl i dont want them to know. I only told her becuz of the many appointments thats needed & also shes very supportive...

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Well, everything is out in the open now! I didn't mention what I am having done, just that I am having surgery and that I will need two weeks off. It was a lot easier than I thought it would be. I officially have my surgery date on June 26th!

Glad to hear everything went well. I am also having the sleeve done (revision from band) on June 26th. Good luck!

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