Sleeved May 15 and Regretting it

[RainbowBrite26 8]

I don't know what's wrong with me right now. I'm feeling sad. I know it is all about mental strength and will power. But sitting here at Panera, studying, and occasionally glancing at people eating their delicious sandwiches makes me jealous. I jealously cuss them out in my head. I tell my parents when I get sad but they are absolutely no help. They simply say well you are the stupid one you did this to yourself! they are right... I paid to get my sleeve and now Im regretting it. I lost 15 lbs on my own just with working out and hi prot low carb diet...

Will I ever be able to eat half a sandwich with ease again ? That is my question..

I had surgery may 15. I started week 2 of my liquid diet. I ordered Broccoli Cheddar and asked them to sift out the solids, I had about 4 tablespoons and my tummy hurts. I thought i could get away with the creamy Soup since its low cal, but i guess not. I'm feeling like I regret getting sleeved. I'm in a slump. Any advice.

[danelle235 79]

I don't know what's wrong with me right now. I'm feeling sad. I know it is all about mental strength and will power. But sitting here at Panera' date=' studying, and occasionally glancing at people eating their delicious sandwiches makes me jealous. I jealously cuss them out in my head. I tell my parents when I get sad but they are absolutely no help. They simply say well you are the stupid one you did this to yourself! they are right... I paid to get my sleeve and now Im regretting it. I lost 15 lbs on my own just with working out and hi prot low carb diet...

Will I ever be able to eat half a sandwich with ease again ? That is my question..

I had surgery may 15. I started week 2 of my liquid diet. I ordered Broccoli Cheddar and asked them to sift out the solids, I had about 4 tablespoons and my tummy hurts. I thought i could get away with the creamy Soup since its low cal, but i guess not. I'm feeling like I regret getting sleeved. I'm in a slump. Any advice.[/quote']

I also had surgery May 15, and I do know how you feel. My family ordered pizza tonight and I want some SO BADLY right now!! I almost cried in my 4 bites of broth. BUTTT..... you are not 'the stupid one', and you will ABSOLUTELY be able to enjoy a sandwich (or me, a slice of pizza) again someday soon. Read this blog, and you'll see it's common to feel this way, and these are still early days! You did something awesome for yourself and your future, and it WILL be worth it. Just hang in there, and believe!! I'd also suggest maybe finding a different source to vent your frustrations to cause it sounds like maybe your folks aren't your cheering squad quite yet... give it time, and you'll show everyone that this was the BEST decision you've ever made.

[AmMatthew 35]

First off, this is normal at your time. Second, it's not like you can go backwards. The great thing about the sleeve is that it can't be reverse.

I'm about 2.5 years out. I can eat about half a panini slowly now, even the bread. And save the rest for later. It takes time to learn how your sleeve works, but after just a few months, you won't really notice it.

And after a couple of years like me, your new eating arrangement will seem normal, and you won't be able to understand how regular folks eat such absurd portions and meals. This way is way better, it just takes some time.

Keep your head up!

[Chelenka 827]

The first three weeks post-sleeve are the hardest it seems. You may be able to eat a half a sandwich eventually and most food has become enjoyable to me again but I can only eat small amounts. It is natural to grieve for the loss of your best friend/lover/coping mechanism etc., food. But you made this choice for a reason. So try to focus on that and look for some new ways to find enjoyment and pleasure in life that doesn't involve food. It's not easy but you can do it! If I can than you can too. We are all here in the same boat so you are not alone in this. You had the courage and determination to get the surgery so buck up girly! Food will always be there saying "eat me I'm soooooo delicious and I'll make you feel happy"! That happiness is very short-lived in my experience and soon followed my massive regret which is followed by more eating to assuage the bad feelings, etc. You are stronger than that or you wouldn't have chosen this path.

pre-surgery weight 325; surgery date 2/28/2013; surgery weight 307; 8 weeks past-op weight 281.4

[Iniysa 157]

I'm told the first month is the worst, but it get's better and most seem to come to love their sleeve. You just have to get through that horrible beginning. Good luck!

[JeffNNJ 111]

Okay, yes you will. Now onto your regret. I was 260 when I was sleeved on March 4. Wore 44" pants and XXL shirts. I am now in 32" True Religion jeans and a Lucky Brand size large shirt. My weight is teetering around 199. Now, I don't care how delicious the sandwiches at Panera are, NOTHING tastes as good as these jeans and this shirt.

[Nuchnuch 120]

I too was sleeved on May 15th and I am feeling great. I think it is important to try and make sure you try not to put yourself in situations which will tempt you, at least at this point.

I can't imagine what it would be like to not have such a supportive family, but you need to find you people who will support you because this is one of the best things you could have done for yourself and your health.

In time the extreme limitations will be gone and you will be able to figure out what you can and cannot have which will be the healthiest choices for you.

I wish you luck and all the support!!!

[ebonisekim 1,713]

I've been here before I didn't regret but I was very sad weeks out .. Try not to go to place like that in the beginning until u feel better your a week out rest and work on u ... I'm 4 months out down 82 pounds if you look back on most of ppls post we all felt this way most of use but once you start having more food choices and you lose so much weight ppl don't recognize you it's gone feel so good you won't care about food .. Oh don't take about shopping it's so much fun hang in there make the best of it cause u can't go back so try to think positive and be around positive supportive ppl

[NewSetOfCurves 1,553]

You are NOT STUPID! You made a choice to lead a healthier lifestyle...to elongate your life! Don't let ANYONE make you feel that way!

I'm not sleeved, but I am on this forum everyday, I go to support groups every week, and my doctor is very one-on-one with his patients. I've learned that these feelings of regret are very, VERY normal! It's such a HUGE adjustment to your lifestyle and the eating habits you've ALWAYS known. One day you will be able to eat those things you love, but only in moderation, never in the oversized portions that we serve ourselves, or that gets served to us at restaurants. This stage will pass. You will have moments of regret and a sense of loss. Allow yourself your human emotion, cry if you must for a little while, but then you need to put your big girl panties on and wipe them away. You will not do yourself any good dwelling on the should'a, could'a, would'as. Focus on your goals, focus on your post-op diet, and before you know it you will be able to eat the things you like. The additional plus is, you'll be a thinner, healthier you when you get there.

Good luck to you!!

[fp9107 121]

I don't know what's wrong with me right now. I'm feeling sad. I know it is all about mental strength and will power. But sitting here at Panera' date=' studying, and occasionally glancing at people eating their delicious sandwiches makes me jealous. I jealously cuss them out in my head. I tell my parents when I get sad but they are absolutely no help. They simply say well you are the stupid one you did this to yourself! they are right... I paid to get my sleeve and now Im regretting it. I lost 15 lbs on my own just with working out and hi prot low carb diet...

Will I ever be able to eat half a sandwich with ease again ? That is my question..

I had surgery may 15. I started week 2 of my liquid diet. I ordered Broccoli Cheddar and asked them to sift out the solids, I had about 4 tablespoons and my tummy hurts. I thought i could get away with the creamy Soup since its low cal, but i guess not. I'm feeling like I regret getting sleeved. I'm in a slump. Any advice.[/quote']

You will be able in time to eat some what normal. You will be able to eat almost half a sandwich. Broccoli is very hard on your stomach, I am three months out and I have only eaten broccoli twice. You need to give yourself and your stomach time to heal. It is a process that we all most walk through .I know that you want to eat normal, but take it slow. Some of the Soups I tried did not do well with. Tomato based Soups did not set well with me. You might want to stick with broth based soups starting out. My taste for foods also changed you may have to try alot of your favorite foods before you find something you can enjoy.

[ebonisekim 1,713]

If u need to talk I'm here I'm not a veteran but I wouldn't mind supporting you or just answering any of your Q

[RainbowBrite26 8]

I also had surgery May 15' date=' and I do know how you feel. My family ordered pizza tonight and I want some SO BADLY right now!! I almost cried in my 4 bites of broth. BUTTT..... you are not 'the stupid one', and you will ABSOLUTELY be able to enjoy a sandwich (or me, a slice of pizza) again someday soon. Read this blog, and you'll see it's common to feel this way, and these are still early days! You did something awesome for yourself and your future, and it WILL be worth it. Just hang in there, and believe!! I'd also suggest maybe finding a different source to vent your frustrations to cause it sounds like maybe your folks aren't your cheering squad quite yet... give it time, and you'll show everyone that this was the BEST decision you've ever made. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />[/quote']

Thank you! You made me smile, something I haven't done in awhile.

[RainbowBrite26 8]

First off' date=' this is normal at your time. Second, it's not like you can go backwards. The great thing about the sleeve is that it can't be reverse.

I'm about 2.5 years out. I can eat about half a panini slowly now, even the bread. And save the rest for later. It takes time to learn how your sleeve works, but after just a few months, you won't really notice it.

And after a couple of years like me, your new eating arrangement will seem normal, and you won't be able to understand how regular folks eat such absurd portions and meals. This way is way better, it just takes some time.

Keep your head up![/quote']

I am happy to hear that I will be able to eat a few things I enjoy! Thank you, you give me hope

[RainbowBrite26 8]

The first three weeks post-sleeve are the hardest it seems. You may be able to eat a half a sandwich eventually and most food has become enjoyable to me again but I can only eat small amounts. It is natural to grieve for the loss of your best friend/lover/coping mechanism etc.' date=' food. But you made this choice for a reason. So try to focus on that and look for some new ways to find enjoyment and pleasure in life that doesn't involve food. It's not easy but you can do it! If I can than you can too. We are all here in the same boat so you are not alone in this. You had the courage and determination to get the surgery so buck up girly! Food will always be there saying "eat me I'm soooooo delicious and I'll make you feel happy"! That happiness is very short-lived in my experience and soon followed my massive regret which is followed by more eating to assuage the bad feelings, etc. You are stronger than that or you wouldn't have chosen this path.

pre-surgery weight 325; surgery date 2/28/2013; surgery weight 307; 8 weeks past-op weight 281.4[/quote']

I am very much grieving. I feel like I'm going through a break up! I did make this choice for a reason. People may think I'm crazy but I went to Mexicali on may 11 and then 4 days later I had surgery. I don't think I was mentally prepared, like others are here. Bu thank you for responding to me.

[RainbowBrite26 8]

I'm told the first month is the worst' date=' but it get's better and most seem to come to love their sleeve. You just have to get through that horrible beginning. Good luck![/quote']

Thanx I definitely need luck and strength