Wife is Upset

[JDoe10108 6]

laura-ven: she tells me surgery is not something she wants to consider. She was enrolled in a program for weight loss, but due to the BMI requirement. The Dr. actually suggested she gain a few pounds so she couldget approved for surgery. However, after she researched it, she felt the surgery wasn't for her and I respect that. Perhaps maybe because she doesn't think its the right route for her, she assumes its not the right path for me either.

[JDoe10108 6]

patiscuba: That is a very good point. That is my outlook on this entire process. When I looked at surgery, I felt the benefits outweighed the risks. All of my grandparents dies from cancer, and diabetes, heart disease, and high blood pressure all run in my family. I felt that this would reduce my risks so signifigantly, it was the right thing to do.

[No game 14,437]

laura-ven: she tells me surgery is not something she wants to consider. She was enrolled in a program for weight loss' date=' but due to the BMI requirement. The Dr. actually suggested she gain a few pounds so she couldget approved for surgery. However, after she researched it, she felt the surgery wasn't for her and I respect that. Perhaps maybe because she doesn't think its the right route for her, she assumes its not the right path for me either.[/quote']

Jay,

I can respect that, this surgery is not for everyone. You are probably right she may think its to drastic of a move for you too. I really hope that she can come to a place of peace with your decision because you will need her support. In the beginning stages my husband didn't like the idea of such a drastic surgery. I was able to get him to come to my appointment with the surgeon though and it really helped him overcome his fears.. I know that you have done your appointments. But perhaps sitting down and going over everything thing you have learned so far would help settle her mind. And yes risks/benefits are a big part of this