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Ok so I'm almost three weeks post-op...and the dreaded 3 week stall has come early... I knew it would, it happens to everyone... but my brain is programmed by 15 years of diets that if the scale is not moving, then I have done something wrong! How do we work on changing that mind set and seeing things from a new perspective?

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Ugh.....stalls.....I'm 4 months out and having one right now. I know what you mean tho, years and years of dieting messes with your head so you automatically assume you are doing something wrong. The fact is, stalls happen. Just keep doing what you are doing and have faith this will work, it's not like before. Try to keep positive and focused. Don't get down, that's the worst, I'm fighting that now. I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing, play with increasing calories or Protein and exercise and just keep going. Chin up, it's not like before. It will come off if we keep on it! :)

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go by a measuring tape! :) you should see your body responding to the weight loss and reshaping.

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I hear you.. I KNEW it was normal, I KNEW it was going to happen but it was still hard to accept! I stalled for about a month. The thing that kept me going was that I had a fancy bodycomposition scale and it confirmed that I was indeed increasing my bodywater % and decreasing my fat% so that helped me Also the fact that my pants started falling off of me during this time helped too... but yeah, even with this, I still felt like I NEEDED that validation from a drop in pounds.

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I always made myself evaluate the amount of food I was eating, compared to what I used to eat. Then logic kicks in, there is no way I could be eating as little as I was and not be losing weight. The stall is just a period of time to let your body catch up.

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I am 6 weeks out as of this past Monday and I have been in my SECOND stall since surgery. The first one started at day 10 and lasted 2 1/2 weeks. Then all of a sudden, for no apparent reason, I started losing again. This time the scale hasn't moved much (bounced up and down but all around the same number) since last Wednesday. Frustrating, yes! I am going to measure myself tonight and see how the inches are coming along. During my first stall I dropped a pant size, I can't wait to see if I drop another one during this one :) It will break eventually. Keep measurements and that will be encouraging for you!

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And stop weighing yourself if you haven't. That has always been the fastest and easiest way to get me to abandon a diet!! Get rid of the scale for a while:)

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Ok so I'm almost three weeks post-op...and the dreaded 3 week stall has come early... I knew it would' date=' it happens to everyone... but my brain is programmed by 15 years of diets that if the scale is not moving, then I have done something wrong! How do we work on changing that mind set and seeing things from a new perspective?[/quote']

Hello,

I feel your pain! I am post op day # 17 and I'm only 10 pounds down. It's so scary! I don't want to fail. My surgeon is out of town so I don't see a nutritionist. He thought I was on track. I have lost nothing in 4 days.

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Flowerchild, I am also 17 days out today and down 11 pounds. Haven't lost anything in 3 days. I fear the dreaded 2 week stall. I'm so impatient!

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I hear you.. I KNEW it was normal, I KNEW it was going to happen but it was still hard to accept! I stalled for about a month. The thing that kept me going was that I had a fancy bodycomposition scale and it confirmed that I was indeed increasing my bodywater % and decreasing my fat% so that helped me Also the fact that my pants started falling off of me during this time helped too... but yeah, even with this, I still felt like I NEEDED that validation from a drop in pounds.

You are soo right about this whole needing validation thing from the scale. I had never thought about it that way before. I'm in the week 3 stall right now as well. I've felt very frustrated. But I've lost 45 pounds and I'm successfully doing a couch to 5K program. My clothes are becoming more loose. My skin is glowing. Why don't these things make me content enough? What's the point in being 120 pounds lighter (my weight loss goal) if you don't drop clothing sizes or gain levels of fitness? I also find (along with my obsession with the scale) that I'm just feeling like I just want the weight loss phase to be over so this life transition can be over. I broke up with my boyfriend a few months before I had surgery and am delaying dating because I worry about it being awkward as my body changes so rapidly. I guess I'm just frustrated with myself because I can't live in the moment and enjoy my body and how great it is now in the middle of the weight loss process. Instead I still am saying to myself it's ok to not live your life fully until you've hit goal. I feel like this is somehow tied to the whole scale obsession thing. I think I've just got to stop weighing myself and focus on living my life and enjoying the present. Thank you guys for your post!!! It has made me realize how normal my emotional response to the stall has been!!

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