Has anyone lost and then regained ALL of their weight?

[TES 858]

The way I see the surgery for me is that I will get the initial weight off so I can be active. Once I'm active, my metabolism will get in gear as well. The reality is that if you don't change your lifestyle after the surgery gives you the support you need to get the weight off, it could be easy to gain it back. My plan is to be able to resume eating what I like in TRUE moderation, but I need to get myself out and burn those calories - whether it's a hard-core hike, several miles on a bike or an hour or two in the gym several times a week, I will need to keep everything revved up and humming if I want to be successful.

There are others who say they never exercised and still don't, and they're keeping the weight off. I doubt I would be able to be one of those successfully, and I think that would be difficult long term for most.

While I think it's possible for some people with a good metabolism to lose and keep weight off with little exercise, I always wonder why they would want to do that. Cardiovascular fitness is so important, at any weight. The heart is a muscle and needs to be exercised. Thin does not equal healthy. To me, exercise is essential on this journey to optimal health.

[sharonintx 1,275]

Don't give up Aussie lady. You are a beautiful, intelligent woman and you can make it through this. I know there are a lot of people here that are big mouths, know it alls, holier than thou, and hatefully judgmental. Pay them no mind! I'm here for you and there are several others that are human just like you and me. To be honest, I have never been a big drinker but most days I wish I were so I could just down a few and escape from the frustrations that go along with having a sleeve. What have I done instead you ask? I smoke some weed. I wish I could indulge more often but don't have the time or opportunity to do so.

There you have it judgmental people - go ahead and blast me all you want. I'll just hang over here with Aussie lady where we can support each other without all the crap you dish out.

Aussie lady we don't have to care what they think or how they feel. You and I ( and several other reasonable people ) can give and receive support here and say to hell with the rest of them.

You can do this girl! Don't give in and don't give up.

[SerendipityHappens 1,594]

O.T.R., I am trying to work out whether that advice was given as a VST Moderator or as a Sarcasm Specialist. Either way, it's sad to me because I have given up.

I tried damn hard but it was all just TOO HARD. Yes I am slim and at my goal weight. Can I eat, not really. Sunday is Mothers Day and my children are planning a BBQ family get-together. They will go to a lot of trouble and I will try to pretend that I am enjoying the day. I will eat (1/2 cup at most) try not to look like I am in agony then when no-one is looking find a private place where I can do lots of deep breathing and maybe even throw up. I will try not to faint because of my low blood pressure and make sure that I drink lots of Water to combat this, which will mean I will eat even less. This is my life at social occasions now or when my loving partner cooks or takes me to dinner.

Then I will go home and drown my sorrows with lots of alcohol and diet cola and maybe even a chocolate bar.

So, go ahead, I have given you lots of reasons to burn me at the stake. Tell me I eat too fast, or too much or or or...........I have tried it all. And now I will go and curl up somewhere that people don't want to burn me because I am a quitter. You are right, this isn't a comfortable place, I need to find a support group who gives those who are struggling most support.

As a VST Moderator maybe you should open your mind and heart to that concept.

And by the way, I don't see myself as a quitter, I played the game the best I could, but had to admit defeat.

Aussie, I recognize your experience as valid. Some people do have perhaps too much restriction after the surgery.. that does not mean that this is everyone's experience. I am only 7 weeks out and I still enjoy food immensely. I progressed through all my phases of the post op diet easily and was eating at near the "maximum" ammounts suggested by my doctor. I had a longer than average stomach.. so even with a sleeve that is done properly.. and mine was done properly with a 32 bougie triple line staple AND an oversew.. entire fundus removed, my sleeve is still going to be bigger than many other people becuase my stomach is LONGER so it can hold more volume! I eat around 3/4 of a cup of food and feel "satified" If I wanted I could eat more until I'm "full" but I try to avoid that. I was told that I can expect to eat around 6-8 and at times up to 12 ounces of food once my sleeve has matured completely... that's TWICE what you can eat. Now if I threw in some Snacks like say a handful of my beloved cashews.. some ice cream while watching tv at night, a bag of chips on my way home from work... well you can see where I'm going with this.. I HAVE to log everything carefully and pay attention to what I'm eating or I will not lose this weight. I recognize that your experience is different... but please recognize that your experience is YOUR experience, and there are many MANY of us out here who have to work really hard to realize our weight loss goals.

[No game 14,437]

Wendy,

I'm sorry I missed you this morning....

I'm really worried about your situation, please listen to your partner and also know that I, along with your other friends here will be here to talk to.

You've gone through to much to give up now.

And when you get away from the situation I know that you will be able to see how much there is in your life that good and worth fighting for.

Aussie it's time.

Your friend,

Laura

[vsginnj 415]

It's going to be hard to find someone on this forum that fills that criteria.

To gain "all" the weight back one would have to completely given up. Well' date=' someone who has given up is not going to hang out here. We specialize in supporting all those who share our common goal & burning all quitters at the stake. This just wouldn't be a comfortable place for someone who has given up.[/quote']

So true but I would be willing to bet the people who give up probably say things like; I didn't get this surgery to be on a diet for the rest of my life , I don't have to set aside time to exercise my job is strenuous , support group is too far, too late,or not for me, long before they pack it in. P

[leeann71 539]

O.T.R.' date=' I am trying to work out whether that advice was given as a VST Moderator or as a Sarcasm Specialist. Either way, it's sad to me because I have given up.

I tried damn hard but it was all just TOO HARD. Yes I am slim and at my goal weight. Can I eat, not really. Sunday is Mothers Day and my children are planning a BBQ family get-together. They will go to a lot of trouble and I will try to pretend that I am enjoying the day. I will eat (1/2 cup at most) try not to look like I am in agony then when no-one is looking find a private place where I can do lots of deep breathing and maybe even throw up. I will try not to faint because of my low blood pressure and make sure that I drink lots of Water to combat this, which will mean I will eat even less. This is my life at social occasions now or when my loving partner cooks or takes me to dinner.

Then I will go home and drown my sorrows with lots of alcohol and diet cola and maybe even a chocolate bar.

So, go ahead, I have given you lots of reasons to burn me at the stake. Tell me I eat too fast, or too much or or or...........I have tried it all. And now I will go and curl up somewhere that people don't want to burn me because I am a quitter. You are right, this isn't a comfortable place, I need to find a support group who gives those who are struggling most support.

As a VST Moderator maybe you should open your mind and heart to that concept.

And by the way, I don't see myself as a quitter, I played the game the best I could, but had to admit defeat.[/quote']

Reading this brings tears to my eyes. I really understand where you are coming from. Its a big pain in the ass to try and get all the nutrition in that helps our body and brain to function properly. So what happens instead we get weak and we cant think straight. So we end up severly depressed. I am asking you as someone who is in your shoes to please contact your surgeon and your Phys. and find out what can be done to ease these severe problems you are having. I have seen both and they are truely helping. I am here for you, anytime you need someone to talk to you can pm me anytime. You are worth so much more than what you are going through. It will get better.

[sharonintx 1,275]

So true but I would be willing to bet the people who give up probably say things like; I didn't get this surgery to be on a diet for the rest of my life , I don't have to set aside time to exercise my job is strenuous , support group is too far, too late,or not for me, long before they pack it in. P

Like this reply Aussie lady - pay no attention to the insensitivity and thoughtless comments. You have better things to do with your time than worry about it. Keep your chin up and know that you aren't alone.

[Ms.AntiBand 2,984]

I am very worried. It's not normal to have low blood pressure or to be vomiting. Have you been completely cleared of complications?

[janarae 93]

I am very worried. It's not normal to have low blood pressure or to be vomiting. Have you been completely cleared of complications?

I agree, I have a stricture and throw up, Aussie go to the dr, something is not right!

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[fyre_storm 1,412]

Your a strong caring women who has so much to offer. You need to keep your head up and be strong! I swear I will come down to Australia and kick some sense into you! You need to know your ok, that what ever your feeling is only a phase. I also think maybe you should talk with the doc. Your not alone!

[Drea..E 8]

O.T.R.' date=' I am trying to work out whether that advice was given as a VST Moderator or as a Sarcasm Specialist. Either way, it's sad to me because I have given up.

I tried damn hard but it was all just TOO HARD. Yes I am slim and at my goal weight. Can I eat, not really. Sunday is Mothers Day and my children are planning a BBQ family get-together. They will go to a lot of trouble and I will try to pretend that I am enjoying the day. I will eat (1/2 cup at most) try not to look like I am in agony then when no-one is looking find a private place where I can do lots of deep breathing and maybe even throw up. I will try not to faint because of my low blood pressure and make sure that I drink lots of Water to combat this, which will mean I will eat even less. This is my life at social occasions now or when my loving partner cooks or takes me to dinner.

Then I will go home and drown my sorrows with lots of alcohol and diet cola and maybe even a chocolate bar.

So, go ahead, I have given you lots of reasons to burn me at the stake. Tell me I eat too fast, or too much or or or...........I have tried it all. And now I will go and curl up somewhere that people don't want to burn me because I am a quitter. You are right, this isn't a comfortable place, I need to find a support group who gives those who are struggling most support.

As a VST Moderator maybe you should open your mind and heart to that concept.

And by the way, I don't see myself as a quitter, I played the game the best I could, but had to admit defeat.[/quote']

Don't give up...and don't let what O.T.R bring you to that place. We are here for you and will always be here for you.. I know that there will be many hard days but you need is one good day at a time.. And those days will happen more frequently. I can be there for you if you need. If you want I can give you my e-mail and we can talk. I know we all need someone to talk to that can understand what we are going through.

[O.T.R. sleever 3,386]

O.T.R.' date=' I am trying to work out whether that advice was given as a VST Moderator or as a Sarcasm Specialist. Either way, it's sad to me because I have given up.

I tried damn hard but it was all just TOO HARD. Yes I am slim and at my goal weight. Can I eat, not really. Sunday is Mothers Day and my children are planning a BBQ family get-together. They will go to a lot of trouble and I will try to pretend that I am enjoying the day. I will eat (1/2 cup at most) try not to look like I am in agony then when no-one is looking find a private place where I can do lots of deep breathing and maybe even throw up. I will try not to faint because of my low blood pressure and make sure that I drink lots of Water to combat this, which will mean I will eat even less. This is my life at social occasions now or when my loving partner cooks or takes me to dinner.

Then I will go home and drown my sorrows with lots of alcohol and diet cola and maybe even a chocolate bar.

So, go ahead, I have given you lots of reasons to burn me at the stake. Tell me I eat too fast, or too much or or or...........I have tried it all. And now I will go and curl up somewhere that people don't want to burn me because I am a quitter. You are right, this isn't a comfortable place, I need to find a support group who gives those who are struggling most support.

As a VST Moderator maybe you should open your mind and heart to that concept.

And by the way, I don't see myself as a quitter, I played the game the best I could, but had to admit defeat.[/quote']

Firstly, I will clarify, the "burning people at the stake" comment was not only sarcasm, but also an observation of what does happen here from time to time. I can't say that I condone it, but it will & does happen.

As far as you giving up, I don't quite believe you have. Yes, I can see that you are frustrated, and you feel defeated, but, you are still here, you are still trying to "figure it out". I checked your profile for a surgery date but had no luck there. I know you've been part of the forum for a while, but when was your surgery?

[HatheryOnHerWay 603]

I was talking to my surgeon about this recently and he shared that he had recently done 10 year follow-up with a patient that had regained 50 pounds in the last 5 years...sounds like a lot (and it is) but when you put it in context, it is an extra 100 calories a day...or, as my surgeon said, a small bag or Doritos...how easy would it be to have 100 extra/empty calories a day??...additionally, he says that after we've lost significant weight our metabolism slows down...which is an added element to why we have to remain focused for the rest of our lives...for some people, maybe they were previously "maintaining" at 1200 calories a day...but after accounting for metabolism slowing, we might actually need to lower that amount in order to see the scale stay where we want it.

50 pounds over 5 years is a lot more tolerable than 100 pounds over 1 year (which is what I managed to do! Eek!)

[JessicaAnn 564]

Sorry if this is repeated, I didn't read all of the comments. Not I completely understand gaining from eating crap food and extra carries, but will the restriction ever loosen up? Because my problem now isn't the kinds of foods I eat, it's the quantity.

[No game 14,437]

Sorry if this is repeated' date=' I didn't read all of the comments. Not I completely understand gaining from eating crap food and extra carries, but will the restriction ever loosen up? Because my problem now isn't the kinds of foods I eat, it's the quantity.[/quote']

You know in all honesty? I don't think anyone can give an answer that will be "right" or "true"

Because it is different for everyone., no rhyme or reason no having anything to do with doing everything right or wrong. And nothing to do with you having a 32 bougie or a f**king 38 bougie

It's the luck of the draw.

Aussie is as far as me for instance and CAN'T eat

I definitely can eat. I followed the rules, example? no soda. Aussie did not, example? soda.

One person can't eat a banana at a year out one can.

So what's the answer?

Luck of the draw.

I guess it's just like clothes... "One size fits all"

Or does it...