So depressed

[gmanbat 5,889]

Lexib,

If you get a chance come over to Tampa and go to Busch Gardens. Get on Shiekra, sit in the front row. You may lose a couple pounds in less than 3 minutes but be sure to bring extra pants.

[nanaspez 58]

I am so depressed i want to be normal again. I wish i could go back and just get on a diet. I wanted to lose weight the easy way and i didnt care what plp said to me so many times and i didnt listen. They told me i dont need to do it but i did it without thinking im so stupid. I cant even drink Water like i want to im always thirsty and all i want is pepsi and food. I am going trough a lot right now the only thing that is keeping me alive and a lil strong are my two daughters i love them and dont want to leave them. I wish i could go back and not do this surgery god please help me.

I can relate….my doctor's nurse was calling everyday to see how I was doing, due to some problems I was having and I one day just starting crying and telling her how I regretted the surgery and how depressed I was. Fast forward 3 months later and my mind has changed It does get better, just hang in there. Your still healing give it time Keep positive!! Good luck and keep us posted!

[Beth K. C 0]

I had those same feelings. It was hard to eat anything, then I started Prilosec and I was able to tolerate soft foods. That dumping/ rock feeling went away. I eat them real slow or I vomit too. I am 5 weeks and really just know starting to feel decent. I miss foods too, it just pisses you off sometimes. Hang in there..

[jacquelynn.mclean 103]

Talk to your doctor. They can hook you up to an IV and get your fluids caught up. An acid reducer might help you eat some. I can't imagine having the regret, but they can help you feel a little better.

[Ms skinniness 3,003]

Right now U have a surge of hormones going through ur brain that has created a chemical imbalance. To lessen the depression start walking every day.

I admire that u decided to have the surgery bc u are going to be changing the future path for ur family. As u start eating healthier and exercising. I are role modeling a healthy life style for them. They will reap the benefits of ur decision to take better care of ur self. Congrats and remember it does get better.

[cinward2001 141]

For many of us, food is a love affair, an addiction, comfort when we're feeling down, a celebration when we're feeling good! Essentially, it's almost like you've lost a loved one by having this surgery and you're grieving. PLUS...you're grieving after having had major surgery, so you have the emotional AND physical changes to deal with.

But as others have said, you no longer have a choice! First priority...DRINK YOUR WATER! If you're dehydrated, everything else will be worse. Take tiny sips all day. If you truly can't do that, then you might need to check with your doctor...dehydration can kill you so if you need IV fluids, you need IV fluids.

Remember, food really isn't as necessary right now...you have plenty of calories in storage. No, it's not ideal to not get your Protein in, but you're still early in recovery...you're not exercising or pushing yourself physically. If you can get Protein IN your Water, that's even better though! So if trying to eat pureed or soft foods is causing irritation so you can't drink...focus on drinking!!

You can, eventually, get back to eating small amounts of the foods you love...and you know what? You might decide when you do that you really didn't love them that much anyway. They were a substitute for living a full, active, healthy life!

Last...let yourself grieve. It's normal, it's natural. You made a decision to lose weight..maybe you weren't expecting such a drastic change, but focus on the "little" things right now and it will get better!

[Sydney Susan 333]

OPs, there's an awful lot of wisdom in these posts and I'd like to second some:

1. Get to a dr and talk about both depression and dehydration

2. Get some action on both - not "if you can't do this we'll do that at some future time". You need help NOW. Say it over and over again to your dr. I'd suggest rehydration and anti-depressants at a minimum, but I'm not a doctor.

3. Have faith in those on this forum who tell you they went through dark Patches and came out the other side. They are not lying to you.

4. Personally, the cute clothes angle doesn't take away dark feelings, but knowing I have an increasing number of weight related health problems and a family history of death around the age of 60 (I'm 52), really does. I want to eat and drink more and more easily too... But I want to live more.

5. Remember, people experience huge losses in their life - stomachs to cancer, limbs and sight to accidents, fertility, children, partners - and 99.99% of them find a way forward. Even if you never stop regretting this decision, you will too. And I bet you do stop regretting it.

6. You made your decision on reasons that were important to you. No one else's reasons or decisions matter, and even if those reasons don't seem as valid now it's no one's business but yours. Don't let others beat you up.

Good luck.

Laura-ven and Gmanbat, would you please marry and adopt me... Your wise counsel is superb. I come with health insurance and superannuation.

[fran25 35]

Omg thanks to everyone and each one of you for real you guys made me cry and feel better thank you so much im gonna follow your advices im feeling a lil better. Is not easy when i shower i feel very dizzy but im going to try harder for my two beautiful daughters that are 3 and 2 yrs old. I really appreciate all of you taking your time to reply to me. Thanks alot i really needed this. God bless you all.

[NikkiC 37]

Omg thanks to everyone and each one of you for real you guys made me cry and feel better thank you so much im gonna follow your advices im feeling a lil better. Is not easy when i shower i feel very dizzy but im going to try harder for my two beautiful daughters that are 3 and 2 yrs old. I really appreciate all of you taking your time to reply to me. Thanks alot i really needed this. God bless you all.

You can do this Fran! Stay strong, be the role model your daughters deserve stick with us, you're in good hands!

[melodymouse 196]

OPs' date=' there's an awful lot of wisdom in these posts and I'd like to second some:

1. Get to a dr and talk about both depression and dehydration

2. Get some action on both - not "if you can't do this we'll do that at some future time". You need help NOW. Say it over and over again to your dr. I'd suggest rehydration and anti-depressants at a minimum, but I'm not a doctor.

3. Have faith in those on this forum who tell you they went through dark Patches and came out the other side. They are not lying to you.

4. Personally, the cute clothes angle doesn't take away dark feelings, but knowing I have an increasing number of weight related health problems and a family history of death around the age of 60 (I'm 52), really does. I want to eat and drink more and more easily too... But I want to live more.

5. Remember, people experience huge losses in their life - stomachs to cancer, limbs and sight to accidents, fertility, children, partners - and 99.99% of them find a way forward. Even if you never stop regretting this decision, you will too. And I bet you do stop regretting it.

6. You made your decision on reasons that were important to you. No one else's reasons or decisions matter, and even if those reasons don't seem as valid now it's no one's business but yours. Don't let others beat you up.

Good luck.

Laura-ven and Gmanbat, would you please marry and adopt me... Your wise counsel is superb. I come with health insurance and superannuation.[/quote']

Trust me, I know all too well about those dark feelings. I was there myself for way too much of my life. Unfortunately, having a "pity party" doesn't dispel them either. It just intensifies them. When someone is super depressed, sometimes it takes something simple to get them started because more complicated things, are just too hard. We all know we need to eat right, and drink our Water and talk to a health care professional when things seem to be getting worse. Those things are a given. What I hear when I read some of these threads is people asking for immediate help, something they can do right now. My suggestions of looking at clothes, dreaming about future activities, making plans, are just simple examples of things that can boost your moral right now and restore hope. Hope that our life is going to get better because once you lose hope, its game over. Those things may not work for some people, but they did work for me and maybe they will work for Fran or others who are out there struggling. You just need to keep trying different things until you find out what works for you. I have had great success with my WLS in spite of the complications, so I must be doing something right!

[melodymouse 196]

OPs' date=' there's an awful lot of wisdom in these posts and I'd like to second some:

1. Get to a dr and talk about both depression and dehydration

2. Get some action on both - not "if you can't do this we'll do that at some future time". You need help NOW. Say it over and over again to your dr. I'd suggest rehydration and anti-depressants at a minimum, but I'm not a doctor.

3. Have faith in those on this forum who tell you they went through dark Patches and came out the other side. They are not lying to you.

4. Personally, the cute clothes angle doesn't take away dark feelings, but knowing I have an increasing number of weight related health problems and a family history of death around the age of 60 (I'm 52), really does. I want to eat and drink more and more easily too... But I want to live more.

5. Remember, people experience huge losses in their life - stomachs to cancer, limbs and sight to accidents, fertility, children, partners - and 99.99% of them find a way forward. Even if you never stop regretting this decision, you will too. And I bet you do stop regretting it.

6. You made your decision on reasons that were important to you. No one else's reasons or decisions matter, and even if those reasons don't seem as valid now it's no one's business but yours. Don't let others beat you up.

Good luck.

Laura-ven and Gmanbat, would you please marry and adopt me... Your wise counsel is superb. I come with health insurance and superannuation.[/quote']

Trust me, I know all too well about those dark feelings. I was there myself for way too much of my life. Unfortunately, having a "pity party" doesn't dispel them either. It just intensifies them. When someone is super depressed, sometimes it takes something simple to get them started because more complicated things, are just too hard. We all know we need to eat right, and drink our Water and talk to a health care professional when things seem to be getting worse. Those things are a given. What I hear when I read some of these threads is people asking for immediate help, something they can do right now. My suggestions of looking at clothes, dreaming about future activities, making plans, are just simple examples of things that can boost your moral right now and restore hope. Hope that our life is going to get better because once you lose hope, its game over. Those things may not work for some people, but they did work for me and maybe they will work for Fran or others who are out there struggling. You just need to keep trying different things until you find out what works for you. I have had great success with my WLS in spite of the complications, so I must be doing something right!

[lmlimo2010 0]

you will be ok i promise. i felt the same way soon after my surgery but eventually it went away. after 1 month you will be able to eat soft food in after 3 months you can eat regular food you just wont be able to eat much. in when you look back at your life you will wonder why people eat so much food any way its not healthy. the gastric sleeve is good because you can eat your regular foods you just cant eat much. in you will get use to it. just think if you did the bypass, it the worse thing to do. you will be happy you did this in the long run. GOD BLESS

[lmlimo2010 0]

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[aquitenonnymouse 206]

I'm sorry you're feeling depressed right now. Full liquids are hard. I have two suggestions. 1- go to a counselor. You've changed the body, now you need help to change your mind about food. Most people on here have food addictions. A counselor can help you with what you're going through. 2- get more protein! Start drinking Protein shakes. Put Protein powder in your Soups that you're eating. If you are getting seriously under your Protein amounts, that can really affect mood swings for me. You're also probably consuming too much sugar from the straight apple juice. Try iced tea or crystal light or vegetable/fruit juices, etc. Get some Vitamins in there!

Do you have a support network?

[gmanbat 5,889]

@ Sidney Susan

Laura-ven and Gmanbat, would you please marry and adopt me... Your wise counsel is superb. I come with health insurance and superannuation

Laura is pretty cool but I don't think it would work. My wife is from hillbilly stock and would eventually give Laura a shotgun facial.