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I just been sitting were for last hour reading posts all over the forum...and came to realize im not as confident as i thought i was..... For years I've struggled n relationships and going out finding the right outfit....but i always said if a man could except me for me then to heck with him and i just don't go out unless im forced....but i just think its crazy that weight plans such a big factor and it took til now for me to realize that im realize not as confident as i thought i was...i look at some of my pictures and say "goodness im huge" some pics look nice but some look horrid....just blowing steam and sucking it up i know thing will get better but sheesh it sucks....im 27 young no children no man....this is no way for me to live!!!! Can't wait to start over!

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ive never been confident ever.. I never took pictures either.. I didnt want to face the fact that I was big... but clothes wise. .yes they told the story.. but now my clothes are telling me a different story.. I have been lucky to have my best friend/hubby with me on this journey.. he has been there thru thick and thin.. we have been together for 10 yrs now.. and married for 2.5.. Im 53 and not to late in life to find that one special person who loved me no matter what size I was.. but even with all that.. I still disliked myself..thinking all the time..how can he love me if I dont love me.. zero confidence.. but surgery changed a lot of things for me... Im still in a denial stage tho.. lol.. I mean I hold up the clothes and go.. that wont fit.. and my hubby is yes it will.. and I try it on.. and im like OMG what has happened to me.. people tell me I look great and call me skinny and of course im not that skinny yet.. but those are words ive not ever heard... has my hubby changed towards me.. No .. he is as supportive as ever.. ive lost 87lbs.. in 4 monthes.. you can do this too.. I see from your picture you are very beautiful.. you should not have any trouble finding a nice man.. one that loves you for you like you said.. like mine does.. inside and out.. best of luck to you.. get yourself a good support group.. like us here... the journey is a great one.. :)

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ive never been confident ever.. I never took pictures either.. I didnt want to face the fact that I was big... but clothes wise. .yes they told the story.. but now my clothes are telling me a different story.. I have been lucky to have my best friend/hubby with me on this journey.. he has been there thru thick and thin.. we have been together for 10 yrs now.. and married for 2.5.. Im 53 and not to late in life to find that one special person who loved me no matter what size I was.. but even with all that.. I still disliked myself..thinking all the time..how can he love me if I dont love me.. zero confidence.. but surgery changed a lot of things for me... Im still in a denial stage tho.. lol.. I mean I hold up the clothes and go.. that wont fit.. and my hubby is yes it will.. and I try it on.. and im like OMG what has happened to me.. people tell me I look great and call me skinny and of course im not that skinny yet.. but those are words ive not ever heard... has my hubby changed towards me.. No .. he is as supportive as ever.. ive lost 87lbs.. in 4 monthes.. you can do this too.. I see from your picture you are very beautiful.. you should not have any trouble finding a nice man.. one that loves you for you like you said.. like mine does.. inside and out.. best of luck to you.. get yourself a good support group.. like us here... the journey is a great one.. :)

Aw thank you....u def just made me cry :) congratz on ya loss!!!!! This forum has helped me a lot u guys are so nice and so supportive!!!!! Some days i feel like crap other days i feel like the pit of all craps lol but looking at the stories of ppl from a year ago till now there journey both scary but in the end very fulfilling it gives me hope!!! Thank you so much for responding and 87lbs i. 4 months omg that is major i hope to be that successful i need to lose 107lbs my goal is 177 but i decided to shoot for 170 instead....i been on a diet since Dec 30th went from 294 to 274 the gained 6.8 bk then lost 3.2 ugh its a pain in the neck!!!!! But all u guys give me encouragement my mommy is my biggest cheerleader she's scared but she supports me in every way even when she's to tired to hear my excitement lol she listens!!!!!! Thanks again and happy losing!!!!?!

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ive never been confident ever.. I never took pictures either.. I didnt want to face the fact that I was big... but clothes wise. .yes they told the story.. but now my clothes are telling me a different story.. I have been lucky to have my best friend/hubby with me on this journey.. he has been there thru thick and thin.. we have been together for 10 yrs now.. and married for 2.5.. Im 53 and not to late in life to find that one special person who loved me no matter what size I was.. but even with all that.. I still disliked myself..thinking all the time..how can he love me if I dont love me.. zero confidence.. but surgery changed a lot of things for me... Im still in a denial stage tho.. lol.. I mean I hold up the clothes and go.. that wont fit.. and my hubby is yes it will.. and I try it on.. and im like OMG what has happened to me.. people tell me I look great and call me skinny and of course im not that skinny yet.. but those are words ive not ever heard... has my hubby changed towards me.. No .. he is as supportive as ever.. ive lost 87lbs.. in 4 monthes.. you can do this too.. I see from your picture you are very beautiful.. you should not have any trouble finding a nice man.. one that loves you for you like you said.. like mine does.. inside and out.. best of luck to you.. get yourself a good support group.. like us here... the journey is a great one.. :)

Aw thank you....u def just made me cry :) congratz on ya loss!!!!! This forum has helped me a lot u guys are so nice and so supportive!!!!! Some days i feel like crap other days i feel like the pit of all craps lol but looking at the stories of ppl from a year ago till now there journey both scary but in the end very fulfilling it gives me hope!!! Thank you so much for responding and 87lbs i. 4 months omg that is major i hope to be that successful i need to lose 107lbs my goal is 177 but i decided to shoot for 170 instead....i been on a diet since Dec 30th went from 294 to 274 the gained 6.8 bk then lost 3.2 ugh its a pain in the neck!!!!! But all u guys give me encouragement my mommy is my biggest cheerleader she's scared but she supports me in every way even when she's to tired to hear my excitement lol she listens!!!!!! Thanks again and happy losing!!!!

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Sorry for the 2nd post my phone is acting up lol

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