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I just been sitting were for last hour reading posts all over the forum...and came to realize im not as confident as i thought i was..... For years I've struggled n relationships and going out finding the right outfit....but i always said if a man could except me for me then to heck with him and i just don't go out unless im forced....but i just think its crazy that weight plans such a big factor and it took til now for me to realize that im realize not as confident as i thought i was...i look at some of my pictures and say "goodness im huge" some pics look nice but some look horrid....just blowing steam and sucking it up i know thing will get better but sheesh it sucks....im 27 young no children no man....this is no way for me to live!!!! Can't wait to start over!

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It's an amazing journey and well worth it! You are beautiful any way you look at it. Keep your chin up and head held high. You can do this! We are all on the ride with you!!

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I just been sitting were for last hour reading posts all over the forum...and came to realize im not as confident as i thought i was..... For years I've struggled n relationships and going out finding the right outfit....but i always said if a man could except me for me then to heck with him and i just don't go out unless im forced....but i just think its crazy that weight plans such a big factor and it took til now for me to realize that im realize not as confident as i thought i was...i look at some of my pictures and say "goodness im huge" some pics look nice but some look horrid....just blowing steam and sucking it up i know thing will get better but sheesh it sucks....im 27 young no children no man....this is no way for me to live!!!! Can't wait to start over!

In the end, you gotta do it for you. You deserve the best and you certainly deserve the best quality of life for yourself. Taking care of yourself first will reap the benefits you want. I wouldn't go through this for anyone but me. If it gets me that look from an attractive lady or two at the mall, I certainly won't complain!

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In the end' date=' you gotta do it for you. You deserve the best and you certainly deserve the best quality of life for yourself. Taking care of yourself first will reap the benefits you want. I wouldn't go through this for anyone but me. If it gets me that look from an attractive lady or two at the mall, I certainly won't complain![/quote']

You are absolutely right!!!! This is for me!!!! I don't want to do this for anyone else but myself...but thinking about my past just makes me down...i had a guy say to me "I dont date fat girls" wow what about my inside thats what i was thinking....i lost two children and can't have kids anymore the normal way.....but im alive and thankful for that :) thanks a lot

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It's an amazing journey and well worth it! You are beautiful any way you look at it. Keep your chin up and head held high. You can do this! We are all on the ride with you!!

Its good to know ppl are on the same trip to onederland with you:))))

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Thank you guys def needed a pick me up...

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You are absolutely right!!!! This is for me!!!! I don't want to do this for anyone else but myself...but thinking about my past just makes me down...i had a guy say to me "I dont date fat girls" wow what about my inside thats what i was thinking....i lost two children and can't have kids anymore the normal way.....but im alive and thankful for that :) thanks a lot

You should have said well I don't date stupid people!

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You should have said well I don't date stupid people!

I should have but i wasn't strong enough then but that is def a good come bk lol

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Hang in there honey and remember this the begining of your new life, your will have new dreams, new love, and new memories...say bye to that past life and don't look back

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Hang in there honey and remember this the begining of your new life' date=' your will have new dreams, new love, and new memories...say bye to that past life and don't look back[/quote']

Hey nikki how r u feeling??? Hope ur hanging in there!!!! I really feel that way too....I've started over completely and now ima just focus on that i can't to begin again....:) how's the sleeve life so far???? Are u still having gas pain??

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Hey new life...I'm getting a lil better, still having gas pains but I'm ok just taking eveything really slow. I just can't wait to feel normal. Its been a challenge to get in liquids, Vitamins and meds. I don't want to vomit so I sip slow. So I'm basically hanging in there following my dr's orders. Even went for a slow stroll outside today

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Hey new life...I'm getting a lil better' date=' still having gas pains but I'm ok just taking eveything really slow. I just can't wait to feel normal. Its been a challenge to get in liquids, Vitamins and meds. I don't want to vomit so I sip slow. So I'm basically hanging in there following my dr's orders. Even went for a slow stroll outside today[/quote']

That's great....Im glad ur taking it easy!! I know its challenging at least i imagine it is...and i know the feeling i def don't want to vomit i hate that but please keep me posted Im actually moving bj to jersey wit my mom Burlington nj....so she can help when i get surgery so the new me when Im better will have a new everything lol wow a stroll today that's great!!!! Take it easy lady!!!!!!!

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You are absolutely right!!!! This is for me!!!! I don't want to do this for anyone else but myself...but thinking about my past just makes me down...i had a guy say to me "I dont date fat girls" wow what about my inside thats what i was thinking....i lost two children and can't have kids anymore the normal way.....but im alive and thankful for that :) thanks a lot

I'm so sorry for your losses - just a thought: sometimes God means "not right now" but we mistakenly hear "no" - miracles are possible. And if he meant "not this way", there are many kids waiting to be adopted and I'd bet you'd make an excellent momma. Hang in there!

On the flipside of guys, I read here just the other day about a woman that told her man she was having the surgery and he told her "I only date fat girls" - you're right, if he's not considering the woman inside first he doesn't deserve you!

Don't dwell on your past - unless it's an uplifting memory don't waste your time on it. You have enough to keep your mind occupied learning this new lifestyle we're entering. Concentrate on the wonderful future that is waiting for you, the NEW IMPROVED happier excited-about-life you.

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I used to live in Burlington NJ back in the 80's. I'm from Ohio but I know reside in SW Florida!!

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I'm so sorry for your losses - just a thought: sometimes God means "not right now" but we mistakenly hear "no" - miracles are possible. And if he meant "not this way"' date=' there are many kids waiting to be adopted and I'd bet you'd make an excellent momma. Hang in there!

On the flipside of guys, I read here just the other day about a woman that told her man she was having the surgery and he told her "I only date fat girls" - you're right, if he's not considering the woman inside first he doesn't deserve you!

Don't dwell on your past - unless it's an uplifting memory don't waste your time on it. You have enough to keep your mind occupied learning this new lifestyle we're entering. Concentrate on the wonderful future that is waiting for you, the NEW IMPROVED happier excited-about-life you.[/quote']

Thanks so much!!! I needed to read this today and i feel a lot since posting this learning not to dwell and move forward i started a new life already right now before surgery even is here IM MOVING FORWARD!!! BEING POSITIVE AND GETTING READY TO REAP THE BENEFITS OF HARD WORK!!!!! THIS IS OUR JOURNEY CAN'T WAIT TO WALK THE PATH!!! TODAY IS A NEW DAY:)

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