toy27 62 Posted April 26, 2013 I had my surgery April 3rd 2013 & u can see that I'm loosing weight now all of a sudden my husband is starting 2 act a ass I'm already going through a lot sometimes wondering what did I do 2 myself but then 2 have 2 worry bout him keep saying things 2 me about what I did is really nerve wrecking & on top of that I ask him not 2 tell any 1 about my surgery & he told his boss that talks 2 everybody about everybody I am really feeling some kind of way this is beginning 2 feel like 2 much Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LanaMae 24 Posted April 26, 2013 I'm sorry to hear this. Your spouse is supposed to be your biggest supporter. Have you talked to him and let him know how you feel? It sounds like you need to have a heart-to-heart conversation with him and let him know exactly how he is making you feel and it's not ok. Maybe he doesn't realize how it's affecting you. ((Hugs)) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
toy27 62 Posted April 26, 2013 I've tried & tried he just don't understand he feels like he can say whateva he wants & do whateva he wants because he's the bread winner but I'm the one that has 2 take him every where he wanna go cause he don't drive which is more work and stress on me he even threaten me b4 the surgery 2 have me removed off the insurance so I couldn't have it done I love him but I'm starting 2 feel like love isn't enough & thanks 4 the hug I really needed that 1 LanaMae reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kortolano 100 Posted April 26, 2013 i am sorry you are going thru this however, if you read the threads it is very common. Your husband sees the changes that you are making and it is making him uncomfortable. My husband had the surgery with me but before surgery he used to say "yeah you are going to get skinny to find a new man." "He was teasing, of course" but I think that was a concern of his. Then one day he said it and I said My new man is in the making with me as i become a new woman. It shut him up and he never said that again. I think in your case your husband is just scared that you are going to get all hot and sexy and drop him. You have to make him understand that you love him and only him and you are not going to leave. 3 FeeIsMe2, Butterthebean and toy27 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LanaMae 24 Posted April 26, 2013 Sounds like your husband is very insecure and scared. I hope things get better! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ms.AntiBand 2,984 Posted April 26, 2013 Oddly, I think it's your husband, who really needs the the support. Some of us forget we're not the only ones struggling with a new lifestyle. Think hard about how it is to be in his shoes. Make sure he knows he's still #1 and let him know things aren't going to change.. It's only going to get better Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
toy27 62 Posted April 26, 2013 Thanks every1 for your help Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
