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[muneca1029 117]

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[megancd 48]

I'm going through the same situation. My mother is very anti surgery and she most recently said that if I go through with it she does not want to know. I'm saddened by this as I would like her to be part if my support system pre- and post- surgery. I know and understand the complications with any surgery but I feel as though losing and gaining 60+ pounds on three separate occasions before the age of 30 has its own complications too!

[lacifer90 46]

My mom was the same way when I started the process. She tried to scare me with the leaks and deaths and all that. I've been on Phentermine multiple times because that's what she wanted me to do and have almost had to go to the hospital on them. They can cause heart attacks faster then my weight problem can. I had to start the process and go thru most of it without her support. I go for my last weigh in next month and she is finally on board. Once she realized this was the best option for where I am in life and that the hospital I'm using hasn't had any deaths or anything she has accepted it and is actually encouraging me now. I decided at the beginning of this that I was going to do it with or without her support because I have to do what's best for me. That's the way you have to look at it. She hadn't quite been in my shoes because she was skinny and healthy all of her life until she started having kids whereas I've been overweight for as long as I can remember. I think that is why she was anti surgery when it all started. Didn't mean to ramble that much but I hope it helps!

[muneca1029 117]

My mom was the same way when I started the process. She tried to scare me with the leaks and deaths and all that. I've been on Phentermine multiple times because that's what she wanted me to do and have almost had to go to the hospital on them. They can cause heart attacks faster then my weight problem can. I had to start the process and go thru most of it without her support. I go for my last weigh in next month and she is finally on board. Once she realized this was the best option for where I am in life and that the hospital I'm using hasn't had any deaths or anything she has accepted it and is actually encouraging me now. I decided at the beginning of this that I was going to do it with or without her support because I have to do what's best for me. That's the way you have to look at it. She hadn't quite been in my shoes because she was skinny and healthy all of her life until she started having kids whereas I've been overweight for as long as I can remember. I think that is why she was anti surgery when it all started. Didn't mean to ramble that much but I hope it helps!

Phentermine those are the pills that this doctors uses and I hate them! They give me headaches and my mood changes I can't sleep.. They are really bad... My mother herself was never heavy either but as soon as we came to this country she started gaining weight an she started takin diet pills I was always heavy but when I came to ny I got heavier, to the point where my classmates would call me names and at the age of 11 I started taking diet pills an ever since I've been trying to loose weight.. Now that I'm thinking about it and go back this may be the problem I'm over weight now. I never learned how to eat right rather my mother and I would always look for diet pills and until this day she is on them. I don't want to leave taking diet pills all my life.. Thank u Lacifer your words made me realize a lot!!

[muneca1029 117]

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[muneca1029 117]

I'm going through the same situation. My mother is very anti surgery and she most recently said that if I go through with it she does not want to know. I'm saddened by this as I would like her to be part if my support system pre- and post- surgery. I know and understand the complications with any surgery but I feel as though losing and gaining 60+ pounds on three separate occasions before the age of 30 has its own complications too!

I believe I just made up my mind and going thru with surgery. It's going to be a bumpy ride but sure Magen that whatever decision we make our mothers are goin to be there for us. Hell I know they are going to keep on trying and scare us but we have to remember is all for us and what we have been through.. What part if the process are you on now?

[muneca1029 117]

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[tigerbelle 328]

Thank u tigerbell!!! it gives me peace to know that someone out there knows how I'm feeling... I'm going to start going to support groups maybe that will ease my insecurities.. Where are you and your doctor located?

I am in Baton Rouge, Louisiana...as is my surgeon

[megancd 48]

Hi Muneca. I'm in month 4 of my insurance required 6 month medical diet. I'm hoping for a late June surgery date.

[muneca1029 117]

Hi Muneca. I'm in month 4 of my insurance required 6 month medical diet. I'm hoping for a late June surgery date.

I'm in my third month of the 6 months as well.. I'm hoping for something around Late August or probably even September. Keep me posted on your progress my doc told me they could try and submitted with 4 months

[muneca1029 117]

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[iontash 25]

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I agree. I took phentermine off and on during my 20s and it did help me stay between 125 to 135 pounds. But they also gave me the urge to smoke, i was never was able to sleep, and I was irritable and depressed. I gained MAJOR weight after I quit them for good. I would NEVER recommend them to anyone. I'm getting the gastric sleeve and I realize there may be complications.... But the alternative of being so overweight that simple tasks like sweeping the floor and bending down or doing laundry are cumbersome is just untenable to me. I will take the risk. But if you feel apprehensive, take your time. I came to this decision after two years of seeing a dietician and trying to lose the weight without surgery.

[muneca1029 117]

I agree. I took phentermine off and on during my 20s and it did help me stay between 125 to 135 pounds. But they also gave me the urge to smoke' date=' i was never was able to sleep, and I was irritable and depressed. I gained MAJOR weight after I quit them for good. I would NEVER recommend them to anyone. I'm getting the gastric sleeve and I realize there may be complications.... But the alternative of being so overweight that simple tasks like sweeping the floor and bending down or doing laundry are cumbersome is just untenable to me. I will take the risk. But if you feel apprehensive, take your time. I came to this decision after two years of seeing a dietician and trying to lose the weight without surgery.[/quote']

Thank u! I also think they are really bad pills and as it is I see my mother fighting with her weight when she stops the pills.. I don't want that anymore I want a normal life and also think this is the best decision but my mother thinks otherwise, than again when I let her know of my decision I hope she respects it and stays on my side. My husband just tells me whatever u think is right for you is ok with me but to please make sure you research your surgeon and are comfortable with him. That's my Job now

[muneca1029 117]

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[aquitenonnymouse 206]

I just sent you a message with my surgery center information. I wasn't sure if you were saying you were from NYC or NY state.