Getting family to understand

[malq1990 170]

I'm sure other people have had this problem. My dad was against the surgery thing before my lap band, so now, no matter what I say I can't get him to understand why I am doing this revision. I told him that there is no way he could ever fully understand because be has never been over weight. I don't know what else I can to to get him to see that this is what's best for me.

[ShrinkingBiker 121]

sometimes you can't.. you just have to do what's best for you.. Unless this is a case of him having to fund it..

I originally only planned to tell my mother, step father, one brother, and my sister. .. I know how my father is.. he's negative about everything. I just choose to go with the supportive side of my family, and show him with results that this was the right choice for me.

[JerseyGirl68 1,172]

Biker hit it on the head. If you believe you are doing what is best for you, you may just have to deal with the fact he is not on board. If it is really important to you, maybe bring him to your next visit with your surgeon. He will get the facts, but sometimes when someone's mind is made up, there is nothing you can do but stay as positive a possible.

Good luck.

[malq1990 170]

Thanks for the reply's!

[jlobyxmas 38]

i posted this same issue a few weeks ago, but the negative nelly was my DH. He didn't understand, and is scared for my safety, but after a few days of arguing, he realized I can't be swayed and now he is being supportive. Time will tell, but only I can make this decision, and only I can make this tool work for me. Good luck and do what you feel is best.