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He doesn't seem to understand that this journey is super hard for me. It's only been a couple of weeks and even though I don't talk about missing (junk) food that much, I do. He just eats what he wants when he wants right in my face. I'm so frustrated! Grrrrrrrrrr......

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I know that has got to be so hard, but you have to realize that you can't change his eating habits, or anyone elses. Remember you did this for you, not to change him, but to change your habits. As long as he is not rubbing it in your face saying look what I can eat you have to find a way to deal with it.

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Who does the grocery shopping?

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I know that has got to be so hard' date=' but you have to realize that you can't change his eating habits, or anyone elses. Remember you did this for you, not to change him, but to change your habits. As long as he is not rubbing it in your face saying look what I can eat you have to find a way to deal with it.[/quote']

I couldn't agree more Deb. Adding to that when I first had the op friends & family kept apologizing for eating yummy foods in front of me. The thing is it never bothered me & it still doesn't.

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I went from envy of junk food eaters to disgust watching them stuff their pig faces, (that's the way I felt, not saying they WERE pigs). Things change as you lose the weight and reap the benefits. Your love for the new you replaces your love for mass quantities of belt strainers.

Now when I watch volumes of chips and donuts go down necks I am quite indifferent. I have accepted the fact that I am an alien to the majority of my society.

Nanu..Nanu..:)

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He doesn't understand this journey is hard

labellaskorpio

this journey is hard enough without getting support from spouse or S/O :(

you've "discussed" your concerns/asking him not to eat in front of you

maybe in a little time he "might" become more considerate

for now, i don't think i'd hold my breath :mellow:

its not gonna be easy, but you must get past seeing him or anyone eat in front of you :(

you are very early post op - so its more understandable that seeing others eat is upsetting

truth is kiddo - you are gonna have to get used to seeing others eat :angry:

you'll be at work, or family occassions et al

i know there are others here that are lacking support - I feel bad for you and "them" :(

it would be nice, but we can't tell people not to eat in front of us :o

not gonna happen!!! :mellow:

take care and good luck

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Nanu..Nanu..:)

Shazzzbot! :)

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I tell them, "I hope you choke"

I laugh it off. I'm lucky it doesn't bother me and I don't really notice what others eat. Try to remember how healthy you're becoming and too bad for him... But maybe he will want to become healthier by seeing what it does for you

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LOL.. I tell my girls too!

I don't discriminate :D

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LOL.. I tell my girls too!

I don't discriminate :D

I'm still trying to figure out what happened..

You know pd man?

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No clue how why or what set things off :-/

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