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I have 2 girls aged 13 and 10 so they are not babies and I can't completely fool them. But 7 yrs ago I lost a lot of weight through diet and exercise and got a Tummy Tuck which was a big surgery, they visited me in hospital and were both very upset about it and made me promise them I would never do that again!

Well sadly I've regained a lot of the weight I've lost and I'm certain the best solution for me is the Gastric Sleeve surgery. I'm thinking of scheduling the surgery and just not telling them but not sure how I'd explain a 3 night absence when I'm a stay at home mum who's always with them??! Did you tell your kids?

I just can't bear the thought of my youngest crying and begging me not to have it done as I know she will so I think I need to do this without then knowing its going to be hard to keep it from then though!

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I told my kids. I started the conversation about my weight and my health and how important it is to me that I am around when they are older and there is nothing I wouldn't do to make sure that happened and then talk about your options and which you decided to do. From there I would educate them on the surgery. For you I would talk about what you have tried and validate their feelings I would have your husband there as well so they have both parents support and he can show he is supporting you. Seeing all of that will teach them alot even if they get emotional they know they have the both of you and after awhile they will see what you are willing to go through to be the best mom you can be. I think it will be fine on the long run.

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My little girl is to young to tell now ,but I will later when she is older.

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