Dr. Gerald Kirshenbaum - Considering Dr. Kirshenbaum

[Mal 0]

widow~oooooo, sounds like you are having a tough time. I felt the same way. I have been through so many atempts to lose weight and fail. When I researched the LB, I thought this is a great opportunity to give it my all one more time (we never give up on the weight battle do we?). There are times that I feel so hungry, I could eat a horse (and sometimes I do), but I try to look at why I ate that horse...was it because I bumped up my workout and my body is hungry?? could it be because I need more hydration? Could it be that I am actually thirsty and NOT hungry at all?? or maybe I need a fill? Being that the LB is a tool, we really need to find out what part of our routine needs "tweeking". It takes work to make it work. I am no success story by any means, I am deffinatly a "work in progress".

"Mentally resist eating", that is a big key! I stay at home also. I know it can be hard. One bit of advice I can give you is to make a daily schedule with your children. Be consistant, and stick to your routine. Have Breakfast at the same time each day, have lunch the same time etc. and have the meals preplanned. Make time for outside play, walk, go to the park..and my favorite...quiet time...aaaah make a scheduled time for "peace", I use this time to listen to positive affirmations, read a book, and of course come to LBT.

Believe in yourself, that you are making the right decision. you researched it, you know if this is for you. We all have second thoughts, this is a big important issue in our lives. Come here for support, that is what we are here for, to cheer you on!

There is much success with the LB and you will find it. I believe in you!:rolleyes2:

[GreenChrysalis 1]

Hey fatwidow.

I realized that I ate emotionally. food comforts me. The band won't let me easily eat mass quantities of food. But the band won't change my mental relationship with food. That's why I have started seeing a therapist to work on these issues and figure out why I eat like I do and how I can deal with stress and other emotions in a different way. If you can get some kind of counseling then that would probably be beneficial.

Hey guys, I am getting really nervous about my surgery on 2/13/08. I guess I am having second thoughts. I read about how so many people are still hungry after surgery. I read about the honeymoon period and wasn't sure if that applied to lapband surgery or gastric bypass. I have such an gi-normous appetite right now and I am a stay-at-home mom and all I do ALL DAY is eat. I am sooo afraid that I will not be able to mentally resist eating. I know that with any diet, you have to be committed. Well, I know that I want to lose weight but food as such control over me I am scared. I felt that lapband would help me NOT EAT and eventually my appetite would go down. But if people are still hungry after surgery, what is going to help me resist my strong desire to eat. Am I not ready????? I feel I will never be 100% ready. Do I have the surgery and then deal with it as it comes? Help!!

[GreenChrysalis 1]

I meant to post this earlier...

I was reading another thread here a few days ago, and I would link to it if I remembered which one it was (so much going on on this forum!). I also don't recall who said this although with some digging I could find it...seriously, I'm getting old. :rolleyes2:

Anyway, I saw someone say (realize I have not substantiated this in any way) that Dr. K places a "higher profile" port and that many people have to get it replaced with a "lower profile" port after losing a lot of weight. But Dr. K will place the "lower profile" port at the time of surgery for an extra $600. I haven't seen this mentioned in this or the other Dr. K thread and this is the first I've heard of it, so for your Dr. K bandsters, anybody know if this is correct?

[bahotmomma 0]

FW: I have no regrets. I feel great and am getting smaller by the day. You will do great as well and we are all hear to offer advice when we can. My appetite has increased over the last week, but I have not had a fill yet. I go next week for my first one. So right now I am trying to watch what I eat and remind myself not to eat to much.

[purplelady 1]

Bahotmomma: thanks for the reply. Sorry to hear about your mom. It is hard without her to talk to and my husband giving me advice. He was so good at that. Do you have any regrets? How is your appetite?

Fatwidow-seeing additonal help is good...you need to understand what food really means to you and realize when you eat and why you eat. Once you can begin to recongnize the events in your life that trigger emotional eating you can start to wrok on finding new ways to deal wth those events. This is a great site for extra support too.

[DynamoMini 1]

I had a break through in therapy, part of the journey. Part of my childhood trauma around weight was being marched down this long hallway at my (Dr.) father's office to get weighed weekly. I still have visions of that shame and underlying unexpressed anger. The scale was at the end of the hallway. When I was talking about not losing weight today, that image came into my mind. I think I have to heal my head and heart before my body will release the weight I have held to protect me.

Enough said. Things are good. Does anyone remember whether we were going with the first Thursday or third Thursday in February? The 2nd one was Valentines and we voted to not meet that night.

Hugs to all,

Michelle

[Lap_dancer 8]

This will be my THIRD attempt to post on here...this touchpad laptop sux as I keep losing my posts I can't wait for my computer to be fixed!

Mal my daughter is doing awesome. The baby is now four weeks along. I saw an ultra sound she sent to me via cellphone text. WOW is the baby getting definition. I'll not be able to call it my 'grandBEAN' any longer. thanks for asking

[Lap_dancer 8]

Shelbi how are ya!!! Thanks for the photo kutos and I will post new ones soon.

Oh God Michelle...what a horrid memory. No wonder. Yeah, to all the childhood memories that are crippling :puke: and an extra

Be well friend. You are so loveable and I can't imagine you being a horrid paternal influence...be your best motherly influence to yourself.

[Lap_dancer 8]

Time for some Maya

To Michelle , Dynamo Mini, because you are!

by Maya Angelou

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies

I'm not cute or built to suit a model's fashion size

But when I start to tell them

They think I'm telling lies.

I say

It's in the reach of my arms

The span of my hips

The stride of my steps

The curl of my lips.

I'm a woman

Phenomenally

Phenomenal woman

That's me.

I walk into a room

Just as cool as you please

And to a man

The fellows stand or

Fall down on their knees

Then they swarm around me

A hive of honey bees.

I say

It's the fire in my eyes

And the flash of my teeth

The swing of my waist

And the joy in my feet.

I'm a woman

Phenomenally

Phenomenal woman

That's me.

Men themselves have wondered

What they see in me

They try so much

But they can't touch

My inner mystery.

When I try to show them

They say they still can't see.

I say

It's in the arch of my back

The sun of my smile

The ride of my breasts

The grace of my style.

I'm a woman

Phenomenally

Phenomenal woman

That's me.

Now you understand

Just why my head's not bowed

I don't shout or jump about

Or have to talk real loud

When you see me passing

It ought to make you proud.

I say

It's in the click of my heels

The bend of my hair

The palm of my hand

The need for my care.

'Cause I'm a woman

Phenomenally

Phenomenal woman

That's me.

[BellaPerdente 0]

Thank to all who responded. I needed that. I admit that I need counseling. I have dealt with two major tragedies in less than three years and I am also having trouble with two teenage girls who think that I am a wimp and they can push me around. Constant fighting. I also have a three year old son who is being influenced by all the fighting. I have tried some counseling but didn't stick with it. He didn't seem to say much at all and I didn't think he was doing any good. I was talking to my brother (he is my best friend...we are twins) and I told him that I am still so emotional that maybe i wasn't ready, but I think this surgery will make me finally face my problems head on instead of feeding them. Who knows. I am going to go with my gut and have the surgery.

Thanks for listening!

[BellaPerdente 0]

i wanted to know how you start a blog like L.A. Can anyone help me?

[Mal 0]

widow~so sorry to hear about all you are going through. Can I reccomend a book (for the teenager problem). I call it my Bible. Yes Your Teen is Crazy by Michael Bradly. He also has a website/forum. It is a good read and I like to reccomend it to any one that has teens. I actualy read it when my oldest was 10 or 11. Teens are tough! Bless all of us Mothers!

Finding the right therapist can be half the battle. I hope you can find a good one.

My heart goes out to you and your family.

[nicnaknut 0]

Viridescence.... I also read about the high profile port and the $600 additional that was posted by WasaBubbleButt.... That was the first I had heard of it too and wondered if it is true....

[Mal 0]

Dynamo~Let us know how your appointment goes tomorrow!

It is very quiet around here today...how is everyone?

[GreenChrysalis 1]

Oh, it was WaSa! You'd think that I would've remembered it was her considering she is very prolific here. Yeesh. Well, I'll either wait until someone mentions something or I'll call up Dr. K's office and ask. Seems strange as I've never heard of that before. Even in talking with Don Mills at Inamed about the different types of bands they sell, he didn't mention different types of ports. Then again, I didn't ask. :Dancing_biggrin:

Viridescence.... I also read about the high profile port and the $600 additional that was posted by WasaBubbleButt.... That was the first I had heard of it too and wondered if it is true....:wink2: