Negative Boyfriend

[mandymae 28]

Are you sure he wasn't being sarcastic?? My ex husband was master of sarcasm, and that's exactly what that sounds like to me. I think it might have been a backwards attempt at a joke.

[lotti 154]

Mine gets moody and sarcastic as he stuffs his face with food I keep myself focused on healing myself after surgery

[sarahzamudio1091 185]

I think he just needs time to adjust . It's called insecurity on his part. People are too quick these days to give up on relationships. Depends if u truly love this guy or not. I've been with my man 15 years and nothing is easy , not to mention a life changing operation. Give him some time and tell him how this hurt you. If he doesn't change and there is no kids involved kick him to the curb. U deserve better.

[nanaspez 58]

You are just too damn cute!! I think you should tell your BF how you feel, just be honest. You look amazing and no matter what, be proud of yourself for making the decision to "Take care of yourself!" and you're doing a fantastic job!

[katsmeow 70]

Are you at kohls

[ragdoll 5]

I agree with everyone who has said something positive on here! You look amazing and should be proud! If he really cared about you he would be supportive. However none of us know the relationship the two of you have. he could just need time to adjust, or to figure out his own insecurities. i know a lot of people who treat others poorly when they really feel bad about themselves. which thats obviously not ok, but maybe he just needs to have a sit down with you where you both can discuss how you each feel. after that maybe you can decide if you want to stay with him. depends on if you think he is the right guy for you or not. But just know you're never gonna find the right guy who will support you and be there for you if you hang on to the wrong guy!

[fatrosie 176]

He wondered how she'd take it when he said goodbye.

Thought she might do some cryin': lose some sleep at night.

But he had no idea, when he hit the road,

That without him in her life, she'd let herself go.

Let herself go on a singles cruise,

To Vegas once, then to Honolulu.

Let herself go to New York City:

A week at the Spa; came back knocked-out pretty.

When he said he didn't love her no more, She let herself go.

Your boyfriends comment made me think of this. No, you don't take care of yourself like you used to. You're taking MUCH BETTER care of yourself.

Dump his butt and keep up the good work!

[amytug 996]

Even if you WERE letting yourself go, he has no right to say that to you.

That's not love.

[RebecaSparkles 247]

I think you need to decide upfront if you want to work through this or break up. As a serial monagomist I understand how hard it can be to walk away from a loong relationship. ( 4 yrs, 9 months, 3.5years, -4years~married the last guy)

I think in your heart you've made up your mind.

You just need the courage to do it. Either give him the pimp slap/ come to jesus/ fish slap/ reality check & get thinks in a better place or dump him.

I suspect he doesn't want to be the one to break things off so he's making it so you are against a wall & will be the bad guy. I think he's very unhappy/ insecure with himself & now that things for you are on the up & up he's feeling left behind in the shadows unable to do for himself.

I think that spouses/boyfriends/ girlfriends/ support person/ BFF's either " come along for the ride" and travel with you or they become anchors expecting you to sink & " wanting to cushion the blow".

I wish it wasn't like this but WLS/College/job status changes all affect relationships in that dynamic.

I hope that you get your head around this & do whatever makes you happy.

Oh and u look great in that swimsuit btw.

[Not Applicable 52]

You look fantastic!!

I wonder if your bf meant the exact opposite of what he wrote? Maybe he was (in an admittedly unfortunate and misguided way) trying to compliment you on all of you hard work and dedication and thought it would be funny or ironic to say the opposite....

To me, his failed attempt at humor would be lame, but forgivable. In this situation, intent matters. Was he intentionally mean spirited or just clueless?

[Fiddleman 4,376]

You have a beautiful personality and are a beautiful person. Some people may say this and say that, but in the end it comes down to what you believe in your heart, what you know is to be true. If someone close to you constantly belittles what you know to be true and right, then it is time to find someone that believes in you, and rejoices in all things about you.

[BigFatLoser 331]

I just wanted to respond to this with a very personal reaction.

I dated a guy who I thought was great. When I started going to the gym and taking care of myself more, he turned very verbally abusive. He didn't like the idea of me loving myself and taking care of myself so be tried to keep me down with insults and degrading comments. He would often cover I up with "I was just kidding" or " jeez take a joke" but he knew what he was doing.

If this guy doesn't knock his crap off and get supportive REAL SOON, dump his a$$.

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[Macy6 356]

You look beautiful! He obviously has some sort of hang up or insecurities with this. You keep doing great but most importantly do not let him hurt your self esteem. You do not want to look back in 5 years unhappy and overweight because of him.

[biggurlsneedlove 3]

You damn good you don't have lose skin,you working that swim suit take it from me he is scared of losing you reverse phycology

[biggurlsneedlove 3]

You damn good you don't have lose skin,you working that swim suit take it from me he is scared of losing you reverse phycology