No game 14,437 Posted March 30, 2013 Ok well please don't gain weight to do it!! That IS crazy talk!! I can only tell you my experience as a food addict.. And yes I've been in therapy about it for quite awhile. My relationship with food is so screwed up I don't know if it will ever be fixed.. Hell I went home and binged one day a few years ago after a really cute man who was giving a lecture for the tide pool docents. Came up to me afterwards I was in a group of younger prettier girls that where drooling over him during his speech. And he talked to ME?? And asked me out!! (I'm married) but the important thing about that long story is....I went home and was flattered.. But I binged! It's then when I realized fat or skinny I have a problem... I still have those issues and it is scary but I am a work in progress... I can't tell you what to do.. But I know there are many different aspects to our "healing" our food addictions. 2 Sadtosaygoodbye and *Dean* reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BigFrank 354 Posted March 30, 2013 You ARE doing something wrong!!! Jesus H., this thread is a train wreck and it gets worse every time you post!! You want to wait till you get to a 35 BMI in a year????? Holy moly, you SERIOUSLY need psychiatric help. The sad thing is that you are SHOUTING out for help in your actions and no one seems to be listening in your world. Maybe it's because you're to defensive and nasty when someone questions your hair brained ideas. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
No game 14,437 Posted March 30, 2013 I think there should be many apologies on this thread... Will they happen I don't know... I am weary now ... 3 Sadtosaygoodbye, *Dean* and rollargirl reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rollargirl 210 Posted March 30, 2013 Oh good god ... My weight creeps up by itself - even with my boxing fitness ... In a years time I will of definitely gained weight!! As I've learned from the last 10 years ... I'm tired of this battle and of the scales never going down ... I have an active job I don't sit at a computer desk all day - I'm an active person and its very hard to control my weight... I'm not going to purposely gain weight to make strangers feel better - get a grip 2 Afrodite82 and Dobeigh reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NewAshes 232 Posted March 30, 2013 I eat because food taste really good and makes my belly all warm and fuzzy inside...not sure if that can be helped lmao 2 rollargirl and LI Gemini NY reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rollargirl 210 Posted March 30, 2013 Ok well please don't gain weight to do it!! That IS crazy talk!! I can only tell you my experience as a food addict.. And yes I've been in therapy about it for quite awhile. My relationship with food is so screwed up I don't know if it will ever be fixed.. Hell I went home and binged one day a few years ago after a really cute man who was giving a lecture for the tide pool docents. Came up to me afterwards I was in a group of younger prettier girls that where drooling over him during his speech. And he talked to ME?? And asked me out!! (I'm married) but the important thing about that long story is....I went home and was flattered.. But I binged! It's then when I realized fat or skinny I have a problem... I still have those issues and it is scary but I am a work in progress... I can't tell you what to do.. But I know there are many different aspects to our "healing" our food addictions. That is an awesome story! I was going to use the excuse of all my friends are tall and skinny but there goes that defence! Lol Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rollargirl 210 Posted March 30, 2013 Ok well please don't gain weight to do it!! That IS crazy talk!! I can only tell you my experience as a food addict.. And yes I've been in therapy about it for quite awhile. My relationship with food is so screwed up I don't know if it will ever be fixed.. Hell I went home and binged one day a few years ago after a really cute man who was giving a lecture for the tide pool docents. Came up to me afterwards I was in a group of younger prettier girls that where drooling over him during his speech. And he talked to ME?? And asked me out!! (I'm married) but the important thing about that long story is....I went home and was flattered.. But I binged! It's then when I realized fat or skinny I have a problem... I still have those issues and it is scary but I am a work in progress... I can't tell you what to do.. But I know there are many different aspects to our "healing" our food addictions. Also my friend and I were just talking about finding a support group here for us after surgery .. I'm sure there must be an over eaters group of some sort? I do realise its not a switch and its all fixed. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
libbyb 17 Posted March 30, 2013 You qualify for surgery because you have shown every effort to get it under control through diet and exercise, it hasn't worked. Surgery is the last resort. Never should be the first and it clear it isn't. Let her (and me) be. We're here for support. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
libbyb 17 Posted March 30, 2013 and! I apologise for what I said to big frank.. it was low. I am trying to nip it in the bud now before I diet my self to morbid obesity. 2 rosehips and rollargirl reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rollargirl 210 Posted March 30, 2013 You qualify for surgery because you have shown every effort to get it under control through diet and exercise' date=' it hasn't worked. Surgery is the last resort. Never should be the first and it clear it isn't. Let her (and me) be. We're here for support.[/quote'] I have and my dr of 10 years said as soon as I mentioned the surgery "yes that's a very good idea" .... She's seen me struggle and doesn't want to give me any more diet pills.. She knows I'm active - Jenny Craig, WW, acupuncture, hypnotherapy, all my fitness ... "You can't out exercise a bad diet" and unfortunately for me I can control mine ... As none of us on here could. We are in the same boat but seem to be rowing in different directions Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rollargirl 210 Posted March 30, 2013 and! I apologise for what I said to big frank.. it was low. I am trying to nip it in the bud now before I diet my self to morbid obesity. Don't feel too bad if you've seen what he's said to me lately and that other lady. So uncalled for. I never personally attack them or anyone I was stating fact Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BigFrank 354 Posted March 30, 2013 the people that are giving rollagirl support are being disingenuous. They are NOT helping her, they are just trying to make themselves feel better about their own decision to get sleeved at a 30BMI or are just lying to her. Based on what she has written here, in simple terms she wants to get sleeved for "preventative maintenance." She is "planning" to gain 5 BMI points by the end of the year. Good grief.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
libbyb 17 Posted March 30, 2013 so she should rely on the diet pills shes been taking to keep her weight down? 1 rollargirl reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
libbyb 17 Posted March 30, 2013 What diets/exercise plans did you try Frank before your surgery? 1 rollargirl reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rollargirl 210 Posted March 30, 2013 the people that are giving rollagirl support are being disingenuous. They are NOT helping her' date=' they are just trying to make themselves feel better about their own decision to get sleeved at a 30BMI or are just lying to her. Based on what she has written here, in simple terms she wants to get sleeved for "preventative maintenance." She is "planning" to gain 5 BMI points by the end of the year. Good grief....[/quote'] If you're going to quote me get it right. I said I'm "thinking" and "a year" and I realise you can't read sarcasm but do you really think that some **** on a website is going to make me want to get bigger so he doesn't feel as offended about what I do to MY BODY?!? I think you rate yourself a little more than you should. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites