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Okay, I'm a newbie, I'm 20. But I have a question! Is it mean to want all the guys I knew while I was fat to hit on me? BUT I want them to hit on me just so I can blow them off. Lol. Kinda like I was there before and no one said anything, but now that I'm looking good it's different. I'm kinda bitter about it. That's why I've decided to not date anyone I already knew.

Is anyone else feeling like this? Not that I'd lead anyone on, but I might some of the a**holes I knew. ;) lol

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Haha I have thought the same!! There is an ex of mine that I would love to rub it in his face how good, I hope I look in a year!! I want to just walk into a bar and have him see me and think "DAMN"! I wouldn't say a word to him but I want him to think! I'm happily married now with a little one and wouldn't change that for the world but it'll still feel damn good to rub it in my ex's face when I loose all the weight!!

Nope your not crazy at all!,

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Haha! Exactly! Yeah I have an ex like that too. ;)

Yeah not that you'd ever want to date them or anything but just make sure they know they missed out! I'd just love to be able to laugh and turn them down. Lol! :P

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Okay, I'm a newbie, I'm 20. But I have a question! Is it mean to want all the guys I knew while I was fat to hit on me? BUT I want them to hit on me just so I can blow them off. Lol. Kinda like I was there before and no one said anything, but now that I'm looking good it's different. I'm kinda bitter about it. That's why I've decided to not date anyone I already knew.

Is anyone else feeling like this? Not that I'd lead anyone on, but I might some of the a**holes I knew. ;) lol

I literally just had a convo like that with one of my friends..... I thought I sounded so juvenile and crazy. But it makes me feel sane that someone has the same exact thought!! "Oh I'm so glad you want to date me now... Oh i'm sure it has nothing to do with the fact that I lost a lot of weight" But I have totally sworn off the guys that are around now.... They had their chance, my personality isnt changing just my outside....

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I dont think your mean at all. In fact, I think we're well deserving to say "hey, f**k you." And then you go find another guy.

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I don't hold that grudge - heck I didnt like how I looked not sure why I'd expect someone else to. In fact, I am amazed at the people who did lovingly accept me at my 300#, emotionally closed off self....

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I'd let the past be the past. Excpecially if you were atracted to any of them before. Remember you changed not them. Meaning just cause you look GOOD don't mean that they look BAD now. Lol. But I have thought the thoughts to =)

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Okay, I'm a newbie, I'm 20. But I have a question! Is it mean to want all the guys I knew while I was fat to hit on me? BUT I want them to hit on me just so I can blow them off. Lol. Kinda like I was there before and no one said anything, but now that I'm looking good it's different. I'm kinda bitter about it. That's why I've decided to not date anyone I already knew.

Is anyone else feeling like this? Not that I'd lead anyone on, but I might some of the a**holes I knew. ;) lol

I wouldn't call it mean... Its being bitter. You cant be angry at people because they aren't attracted to you. I think its worse what your planning to do because they aren't out to get you, just not attracted. You might miss out on a great relationship not wanting to date any of them. Lastly, why do you hang out with assholes?

Great first thread/post :huh:

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Every person who didnt Like you when you were heavy , doesn't deserve you now that you are skinny !! Drop everyone of those assholes !!! Move on to better people that love you for who you are and don't lower yourself to those that wouldn't even look your way !!! Screw them !

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I wouldn't call it mean... Its being bitter. You cant be angry at people because they aren't attracted to you. I think its worse what your planning to do because they aren't out to get you' date=' just not attracted. You might miss out on a great relationship not wanting to date any of them. Lastly, why do you hang out with assholes?

Great first thread/post <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/huh.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':huh:' />[/quote']

Hate to burst your bubble but assholes are everywhere !

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Hate to burst your bubble but assholes are everywhere !

Yes "a*****e are everwhere" but the difference is I don't hang around assholes and don't make friends with them. I also look forward to put an a*****e in his/her place. I dont lower myself to their standards and play mind games with them.

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Take my advice from a 'been there, done that" girl - if the opportunity does occur, be classy and hot, and polite. But if they ask you out, reply that you've changed in appearance only, you've always been beautiful. They, however, are shallow and ignorant. Was then and still are. Sorry, I deserve better. Nice see'in ya! Believe me, sweetie, the right guy will notice you!

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