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And people ask you how much you have lost and it isn't different from the two days before when they asked..I feel like a failure.

My mom (who did not support this decision) seems to think if I don't lose every day then I am doing something wrong. Sometimes I really want to just scream "F&$@ OFF"!!!

Okay rant off :)

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I used to have a few people that asked me everyday... Let me tell you telling them to f*ck off is really effective! No one asks anymore :)

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I felt like that during the stall I just got out of.. everyone always asked and I just want to hide, whereas before the stall I would've smiled and told them. It's kind of embarrassing to me, it's like I'm failing, somehow.

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[quote name="Heather86 :o)]I felt like that during the stall I just got out of.. everyone always asked and I just want to hide' date=' whereas before the stall I would've smiled and told them. It's kind of embarrassing to me, it's like I'm failing, somehow.[/quote']

I would just tell people politely, "Oh I just don't like to talk about my weight." You don't owe them anything but I don't think they're trying to be offensive so they still deserve civility, but I'm big on kindness over anything else, and am pretty mild mannered. If they've been royal pains and you've already told them to stop, then an f off might be more effective :)

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And people ask you how much you have lost and it isn't different from the two days before when they asked..I feel like a failure.

My mom (who did not support this decision) seems to think if I don't lose every day then I am doing something wrong. Sometimes I really want to just scream "F&$@ OFF"!!!

Okay rant off :)

I know the feeling! You could fib and tell them you only weigh yourself 2 times a month... I did!

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I just tell them I'm at a plateau and will start losing again when the plateau breaks. I know some successful people who stalled for 2-3 weeks while other successful people had 9-month plateaus. It is different for everyone.

For me, from the very beginning, I've been up-front and honest with myself and others. I've been on a very slow crawl ever since September, but seem to have NSVs often so my body is changing and the way people see me is changing even when the scale doesn't reflect these changes.

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