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This is a totally different type of thread than the inspiring ones I've been reading for the last month.

I want to see what people, if anything, will miss about being big / overweight. I think the immediate answer that comes to most people's minds would be "nothing". But, as I've been overweight since I was 6yrs old, and since it's been so much a part of my identity, there are a few things I think I will miss.

Please bear in mind that this thread is not intended to question my or anyone else's decision AT ALL. I am stoked about making a life altering change one week from today (surgery date 3/7). I will experience so many things in life that I've been missing out on. That said...

People remember me. Granted, the attention is probably not positive, but it's still there - not unlike a kid acting up for negative attention. In my job, I, more often than most, run into old faces from high school, and they remember my name. I was the fat kid, and by the, that is not a misnomer. There was probably one other person growing up in my school that had the same level of weight problem as I did. So, I stuck out like the proverbial sore thumb. But, I never go unrecognized. I think a part of me will miss that.

What I will definitely miss is not knowing whether any new friends I make in the future really like me for me. Would they still like me if I was 150lbs heavier? Because my current friends do. I've had steady friendships since elementary school, and though I'm sure they have been concerned for my health, they have never cared about the excess pounds. I think, as a fat kid growing up, I've actually been able to sustain tighter relationships with people because the people I identified with, and who me, were never the superficial type.

And, to end on a lighter (pun intended?) note, I'm really gonna miss my gut serving as a hand warmer!

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I miss being invisible. I am a bit shy, introverted, convinced that the first thing people notice about me is how fat I am.

Having lost even a bit of weight has me getting more attention. And I'm not really okay with it yet.

I'm working on it though, and happy, I try to speak up more, but old habits die hard

I also tuck my hand under my roll to warm it up. Now I can just put my tips under compared to my whole hand from before

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Sadly, I'm going to miss being able to make fun of myself. My weight has always been a huge comedic monologue for me

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I seriously do not think I will miss anything, I've said it before and will say it again, What you see is what you get. I'm basically the same person just smaller.

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