dat_sweetmami 81 Posted February 28, 2013 AT FIRST WE CLICKED..2 1-2 YEARS LATER I GOT BIGGER AND SHE SORTA SPEAKS ON WEIGHT ISSUES AND BLAH BLAH BLAH...IT SURE BOTHERS ME BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE SHE HINTS ME ABOUT MY WEIGHT...MIND YOU IM BIG BUT NOT OVERLY BIG...IM 5'2 AT 217 POUNDS..I GOT MORE CURVES THEN ANYTHING..ANYWHOO THIS SUNDAYS dinner SHE MADE A COMMENT THAT IT WAS MY FAULT THAT HER SON DOESN'T VISIT OR CALLS HER..WHEN HE TOTALLY DOES WHAT HE AS A MAN WANT. WE GO SEE HER.EVERY SUNDAY WITHOUT MISSING ANY. WHEN HER SON TOLD HER THAT IT ISN'T MY FAULT ..SHE THEN BACK TRACK HER WORDS AND SAID..OH IM JUST KIDDING. THIS IS NOT THE FIRST TIME SHE'S SAID THIS TO ME. ...SHOULD I BE WORRY THAT SHE DOESNT LIKE ME? ME AND HER.NEVER HAD ISSUES AND WE ALWAYS TALKED AND ARE....I THINK ...IN OK TERMS. IM A GOOD WOMAN..I CATER TO MY MAN ...ME AND HIM BOTH WORK...WERE BUSY...WHY IS SHE BLAMING ME. WAS SHE JOKING? OR DID SHE JUST TAKE IT BACK BECAUSE SHE GOT CHECKED BY HER SON? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
donewithdieting 44 Posted February 28, 2013 It sounds like you are using your weight as a reason your MIL acts weird. It's too bad she has a problem, it sounds like you are a great DIL. Don't let her problem/ behavior change you. Good Luck. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dat_sweetmami 81 Posted February 28, 2013 It sounds like you are using your weight as a reason your MIL acts weird. It's too bad she has a problem' date=' it sounds like you are a great DIL. Don't let her problem/ behavior change you. Good Luck.[/quote'] THANK YOU...SHE AND I ALWAYS HAD A GOOD RELATIONSHIP...IM JUST TIRED OF HER ALWAYS MENTIONING THINGS ABOUT WEIGHT...ITS ANNOYING AND.COMING FROM HER...WHO IS 135LBS...EXTRA ANNOYING. IM UNSURE AS TO WHAT TO DO. I WAS THINKING ABOUT LETTING MY MAN GO TO HER HOUSE THIS SUNDAY ON HIS OWN AND ME STAYING ...JUST SO HE CAN SHOW FACE WITHOUT ME AND MAKE HER UNDERSTAND THAT HE STILL DOES WHAT HE WANTS TO DO WITH OR WITHOUT ME Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DivaNurse 171 Posted February 28, 2013 AT FIRST WE CLICKED..2 1-2 YEARS LATER I GOT BIGGER AND SHE SORTA SPEAKS ON WEIGHT ISSUES AND BLAH BLAH BLAH...IT SURE BOTHERS ME BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE SHE HINTS ME ABOUT MY WEIGHT...MIND YOU IM BIG BUT NOT OVERLY BIG...IM 5'2 AT 217 POUNDS..I GOT MORE CURVES THEN ANYTHING..ANYWHOO THIS SUNDAYS dinner SHE MADE A COMMENT THAT IT WAS MY FAULT THAT HER SON DOESN'T VISIT OR CALLS HER..WHEN HE TOTALLY DOES WHAT HE AS A MAN WANT. WE GO SEE HER.EVERY SUNDAY WITHOUT MISSING ANY. WHEN HER SON TOLD HER THAT IT ISN'T MY FAULT ..SHE THEN BACK TRACK HER WORDS AND SAID..OH IM JUST KIDDING. THIS IS NOT THE FIRST TIME SHE'S SAID THIS TO ME. ...SHOULD I BE WORRY THAT SHE DOESNT LIKE ME? ME AND HER.NEVER HAD ISSUES AND WE ALWAYS TALKED AND ARE....I THINK ...IN OK TERMS. IM A GOOD WOMAN..I CATER TO MY MAN ...ME AND HIM BOTH WORK...WERE BUSY...WHY IS SHE BLAMING ME. WAS SHE JOKING? OR DID SHE JUST TAKE IT BACK BECAUSE SHE GOT CHECKED BY HER SON? Hey sweet hope all is well with you aside from the problem you mentioned above. I'm am going to ask you a question and I pray you don't get offended by it. Why do you care how she feels or what she is blaming you for? You didn't marry you married her son and the only concern should be what your husband thinks and feels. And from what I am reading you and your husband have a great relationship. Any man that stands up to his momma for his wife is a great man. You do what you need to do for you and Jr marriage. If you are feeling bad about your weight talk to your husband about it what she says and feels doesn't matter. Here is a tip for you the next time she says anything negative about ur weight ask her when she would like to start walking with you because it sounds like you really are concerned about my health and I appreciate it so much, so when shall we start walking together. Thks is a perfect way to counteract someone who is trying to embarrass u in public. You turn her negative comments to u into a positive responds to her. And as the commercial says never let them see you sweat. She will either quit acting so childest and grow up or not fool with you at all which should be ok with you any way it goes. When she begins to accuse of and blaming you for something negative concerning her son you say nothing to her s you let your husband handle her, you never want to be accused of being mean and nasty to her. Hope I helped a bit. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dat_sweetmami 81 Posted February 28, 2013 Hey sweet hope all is well with you aside from the problem you mentioned above. I'm am going to ask you a question and I pray you don't get offended by it. Why do you care how she feels or what she is blaming you for? You didn't marry you married her son and the only concern should be what your husband thinks and feels. And from what I am reading you and your husband have a great relationship. Any man that stands up to his momma for his wife is a great man. You do what you need to do for you and Jr marriage. If you are feeling bad about your weight talk to your husband about it what she says and feels doesn't matter. Here is a tip for you the next time she says anything negative about ur weight ask her when she would like to start walking with you because it sounds like you really are concerned about my health and I appreciate it so much' date=' so when shall we start walking together. Thks is a perfect way to counteract someone who is trying to embarrass u in public. You turn her negative comments to u into a positive responds to her. And as the commercial says never let them see you sweat. She will either quit acting so childest and grow up or not fool with you at all which should be ok with you any way it goes. When she begins to accuse of and blaming you for something negative concerning her son you say nothing to her s you let your husband handle her, you never want to be accused of being mean and nasty to her. Hope I helped a bit.[/quote'] OMG YOU ARE SOOOOOO RIGHT. YOU HIT IT RIGHT ON THE NAIL. HAHA IM GOING TO USE THAT. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR FEED BACK. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DivaNurse 171 Posted February 28, 2013 OMG YOU ARE SOOOOOO RIGHT. YOU HIT IT RIGHT ON THE NAIL. HAHA IM GOING TO USE THAT. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR FEED BACK. Your welcome girl anytime, thinking about expanding my nursing into counseling, because I really do like that part of my job. Check back with me and let me know commit goes. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dat_sweetmami 81 Posted February 28, 2013 Your welcome girl anytime' date=' thinking about expanding my nursing into counseling, because I really do like that part of my job. Check back with me and let me know commit goes.[/quote'] YES FOR SURE. HOW DO I ADD PPL TO MY CONTACTS ON THIS WEBSITE ? ANY IDEA? I THINK YOU SHOULD FOLLOW YOUR HEART...YOU ARE GOOD AT IT AND IM SURE THERE'S A WHOLE LOTTA PPL YOUR GOING TO HELP. THANK YOU CHIKA FOR YOUR WORDS Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rosehips 121 Posted February 28, 2013 Yea Divanurse that is good advice & it is awesome the way sweet mama accepted it. I will have this tucked in my back pocket for when I need it. I live with my 102 year old mil, today I wanted to eat cause of the dementia. I am forcing myself to just breathe and deal w/ the emotion, she is the most loving woman I know. Because I did not eat and instead prayed, I discovered part of my frustration/anger/impatience is cause the woman I knew is already gone and I am left w/ a shell of the prior woman. This is progress for me cause I thought I just could not stand her anymore. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DivaNurse 171 Posted February 28, 2013 YES FOR SURE. HOW DO I ADD PPL TO MY CONTACTS ON THIS WEBSITE ? ANY IDEA? I THINK YOU SHOULD FOLLOW YOUR HEART...YOU ARE GOOD AT IT AND IM SURE THERE'S A WHOLE LOTTA PPL YOUR GOING TO HELP. THANK YOU CHIKA FOR YOUR WORDS I think you go that persons profile and add from there Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DivaNurse 171 Posted February 28, 2013 Yea Divanurse that is good advice & it is awesome the way sweet mama accepted it. I will have this tucked in my back pocket for when I need it.I live with my 102 year old mil' date=' today I wanted to eat cause of the dementia. I am forcing myself to just breathe and deal w/ the emotion, she is the most loving woman I know. Because I did not eat and instead prayed, I discovered part of my frustration/anger/impatience is cause the woman I knew is already gone and I am left w/ a shell of the prior woman. This is progress for me cause I thought I just could not stand her anymore.[/quote'] Rose congrats on the progress especially for not eating. Prayer is an excellent detractors. What I also would include if you don't mind. When u have those times were you frustrated with urban mil...step away and grab you a journal a book of somkind, and write down the wonderful memories you have her.when you do this find you a quite place where you can reflect about her and before long those things that were frustrating you are now a distance memory. This serves twofold s a distraction and a memory book that you will have after she is gone. I would find a favorite photo of her more than one would be fine to place on the book and it will serve as a comfort to you later on down the road when you are needing a loving fix of your mil. Hope this helps a little Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ms.AntiBand 2,984 Posted February 28, 2013 My MIL was a MIL from hell and I learned one very very important life lesson from her... How never to treat my future DIL. I'm going to be the bestest MIL ever there was. OP..my weight was a huge conflict also. Strange thing was I was never over 150 lbs, before she passed away. I know how you feel though.. Just the underlying comments were like lemon on an open wound. Once my DH and I got into an argument and she asked me if maybe we'd be happier if I didn't weigh so much!?! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vogue 310 Posted February 28, 2013 My MIL was a MIL from hell and I learned one very very important life lesson from her... How never to treat my future DIL. I'm going to be the bestest MIL ever there was. OP..my weight was a huge conflict also. Strange thing was I was never over 150 lbs, before she passed away. I know how you feel though.. Just the underlying comments were like lemon on an open wound. Once my DH and I got into an argument and she asked me if maybe we'd be happier if I didn't weigh so much!?! my ex-MIL gave me hell back in the day ( her son & I broke up 20 yrs ago) but I see her often..and she loves to throw in my face how tiny I used to be, especially in front of the ex's new wife.... I dont let it bother me.... I respond by telling her how her son kept me knocked up and my extra pounds are due to her grandchildren... shuts em all up every time Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tina zebner 6 Posted February 28, 2013 AT FIRST WE CLICKED..2 1-2 YEARS LATER I GOT BIGGER AND SHE SORTA SPEAKS ON WEIGHT ISSUES AND BLAH BLAH BLAH...IT SURE BOTHERS ME BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE SHE HINTS ME ABOUT MY WEIGHT...MIND YOU IM BIG BUT NOT OVERLY BIG...IM 5'2 AT 217 POUNDS..I GOT MORE CURVES THEN ANYTHING..ANYWHOO THIS SUNDAYS dinner SHE MADE A COMMENT THAT IT WAS MY FAULT THAT HER SON DOESN'T VISIT OR CALLS HER..WHEN HE TOTALLY DOES WHAT HE AS A MAN WANT. WE GO SEE HER.EVERY SUNDAY WITHOUT MISSING ANY. WHEN HER SON TOLD HER THAT IT ISN'T MY FAULT ..SHE THEN BACK TRACK HER WORDS AND SAID..OH IM JUST KIDDING. THIS IS NOT THE FIRST TIME SHE'S SAID THIS TO ME. ...SHOULD I BE WORRY THAT SHE DOESNT LIKE ME? ME AND HER.NEVER HAD ISSUES AND WE ALWAYS TALKED AND ARE....I THINK ...IN OK TERMS. IM A GOOD WOMAN..I CATER TO MY MAN ...ME AND HIM BOTH WORK...WERE BUSY...WHY IS SHE BLAMING ME. WAS SHE JOKING? OR DID SHE JUST TAKE IT BACK BECAUSE SHE GOT CHECKED BY HER SON? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tina zebner 6 Posted February 28, 2013 How old are? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dat_sweetmami 81 Posted February 28, 2013 my ex-MIL gave me hell back in the day ( her son & I broke up 20 yrs ago) but I see her often..and she loves to throw in my face how tiny I used to be' date=' especially in front of the ex's new wife.... I dont let it bother me.... I respond by telling her how her son kept me knocked up and my extra pounds are due to her grandchildren... shuts em all up every time[/quote'] hahahhaaa good one !!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
