So Hurtful

[NurseGrace 509]

Ugh, my husband did this once and it really set me off in a foul mood. It was a one time thing though, we are having some external stressors right now so I don't hold it against him, for the most part he is a sweety and we are good for each other.

I think you have to ask yourself basically the same thing. You said you guys argue but is it usually serious where you end up hurt or is it more minor things? If these people are truely causing you stress on a regular basis it might be time to pull away from them for a while. You have to get your mind right, and if you are being berated and told to "go eat" to me thats a sign that they see you as some kind of junkie who can't be pleasant without your vice, like the drunk who clearly has a problem but everyone lets it go because he's the life of the party.

[TrophyWife 11]

I read a book recently and I highly recommend it to anyone having surgery or thinking about surgery. It made me reevaluate my reasons for deciding to have surgery and also think about things I had not considered about the way the people in my life would react. It is called (I believe) " Emotional First Aid for Bariatric Surgery" It was a really great read and opened the door to some great discussions with my husband and children. I too have also chosen to tell only my husband, children and two close girl friend about my surgery. My husband is also having the surgery and has chosen to only tell same people. We are doing this for us and for our lives.