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I hate that this happens to us but it has become more common than we would like to believe. Although I appear strong at the time I'm called a fat bitch, it tears me up inside.

To the jerk offs calling me names, I have a myriad of comments:

"I may be fat but you're and asshole and I can always diet!"

"If you think I'm fat now you should have seen me a year ago."

"Sorry about your penis."

And of course my fave:

"Kiss my ass you MF!"

Guess I'm a little sick of the jerks myself. If it makes you feel any better, I bet he dates fat girls. You know we do tend to be the hottest things out here. He really just wanted you and knew he couldn't have you and it pissed him off.

Hang in there kid. I can't say it will get better right away but just know that you reap what you sow. He will soon have a problems times 3 due to his behavior. I believe in you and think you should keep plugging along. We shall overcome, one day!

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Wow.....wonder what goes through the stupid head of the person who wakes up next to him every morning?

How nasty, sorry you had to experience that. I've been laughed at by men and women because of past appearance but never verbally attacked like that.....so sorry.

Carol

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I hate that this happens to us but it has become more common than we would like to believe. Although I appear strong at the time I'm called a fat bitch, it tears me up inside.

To the jerk offs calling me names, I have a myriad of comments:

"I may be fat but you're and asshole and I can always diet!"

"If you think I'm fat now you should have seen me a year ago."

"Sorry about your penis."

And of course my fave:

"Kiss my ass you MF!"

"Your Mama" always seem to strike a cord, especially if you can say it calmly with one brow lifted, then smile.

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I hate stuff like this. I had one where these 2 little kids were saying all sorts of stuff, using most of the same words your offender used. The worst part was that their mother didn't do anything about it and just told me to ignore them.

I always think in my head about what I might say the next time something like that comes up.

Today there was a truck that drove by me as I was walking that honked a bunch of times. I have to wonder if he and his friend were doing that cuz I'm overweight, or because they thought I was cute, lol.

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I'm so sorry that you had to listen to some simple minded person. Please don't let it get you down, I know that's easier said than done, but if you let it get you down then he has won and there is no way in H... that he deserves to win. "HUGS"

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And other people wonder why we are fat. Just because we're bigger than other people doesn't mean we can't be hurt. As someone said before, hope he burns in hell. Linda

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I am only 20 lbs from goal but still regard myself as a big person because if it wasn't for the band I would be....and I never want to lose sight of how it use to be, it helps me to stay where I am today.

As a big person it hurts so much when these small minded ignorant creatures treat us like that. Why, because of size, do they think we are so inferior to them and deserving of that kind of treatment. Why do we get treated like second class citizens just because of size?

My overeating or choice of foods has never threatened anyone else's life...so what's the big the big deal. I never lashed out like that to a smoker who would blow smoke right in my face when sitting at bar or in a restaurant....but I would have more reason to then what this guy just did to you.

I could go on and on but this A-hole doesn't deserve my effort.

Carol

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I am so sorry for your devastating encounter. I can only hope that divine retribution will find its way into that guys life but never, never let someone else’s ignorance make you doubt who you are and what you are about.

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I'm with Spydr. I once had a lady call me a fat a$$ and I just turned and looked at her and smiled. I then told her that I might be fat, but it was her I felt sorry for because at least I could lose weight and what was she going to do about her ugly face.

Tricia H

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Sorry you had to put up with that friggin' "man" but I think Bullwinkle had the best comeback! :clap2:

I have often said I would love to have a "rammer" car. Would have come in very handy in that situation. Don't let him get to you. He's obviously not even worth it. What an unhappy ol' "man" he must be.

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first of all hugs to you!

secondly, i am reminded of fried green tomatoes when kathy bates rams her car into the one belonging to the teenie boppers! you may be fat but you have more insurance! :)

next, after watching one of my favorite tv shows, my name is earl, this man will be bitten in the ass by karma! one day he will do this to someone who is not as nice as you are and he will be beaten to a pulp, you will drive up in your truck, at your goal weight and be able to spit in his face!

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