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Really this doesn't seem possible. What are you eating? Did you lose more but gain it back? The sleeve is just a tool for weight loss you need to put in the effort to be successful.

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well, I hate to be the bringer of bad news but what you probably need more than a mentor is behavioral modification and contrary to popular belief, only you can find the motivation within yourself tomake the changed you ALREADY know you need to make.

That being said, there is something to be said for keeping successful people around you. When I notice someone on the VST forums who has done exceptionally well and has reached their goals I send them a message to find out about their strategies and I add them as friends. I do not keep people on my friends list who are always first to jump into negativity.

What I find is that most people who have lost all or most of their weight have a few things in common, they don't have pity parties for themselves, they do not make excuses, and they take their guidelines seriously. I know its no fun to pull out a binder full of rules and boring food recommendations but people who do well stick very closely to their surgical guidelines.

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Hey U,

Can you give us someone information about yourself and what you have or have not been doing. I hope that all of us who have responded can provide some encouragement.

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Thanks a lot for everyone that tried to help me sorry for not replying a lot sooner and that's because the time difference I am from the Middle East I've done my surgery in the Middle East 16 months ago it was a reversion from gastric band to VSG my doctor have seen me twice after my surgery he said" my job is to do your surgery and your job is to loose the weight" we here do not have any nutritionist that deal with WLS surgery I have no information on how to eat or what to do my doctor told me I can eat what ever I want he asked only not to eat and drink at the same time I'm 5 feet tall my starting weight was 193 I lost 23 pounds I'm a single mom and I work a full time job if anyone needs any more information about me please let me know

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The same usually goes for every VSG patient.

1st you have to get Protein in. 2nd you need to get vegtables in 3rd you can have carbs if your not to full.

You should get as much Water as possible and take your Vitamins, that is very important.

You have a very low BMI so I think maybe that is why your weightloss might be slow. Good luck

Feel free to ask any questions we are hear to help.

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Thanks a lot for everyone that tried to help me sorry for not replying a lot sooner and that's because the time difference I am from the Middle East I've done my surgery in the Middle East 16 months ago it was a reversion from gastric band to VSG my doctor have seen me twice after my surgery he said" my job is to do your surgery and your job is to loose the weight" we here do not have any nutritionist that deal with WLS surgery I have no information on how to eat or what to do my doctor told me I can eat what ever I want he asked only not to eat and drink at the same time I'm 5 feet tall my starting weight was 193 I lost 23 pounds I'm a single mom and I work a full time job if anyone needs any more information about me please let me know

Hello - Since you are in the Middle East, I am not sure culturally how different our diets are. But, try to avoid breads, pastas, and even rice. Focus on meats, fruit, and vegtables for your meals. Make sure you chew reallly well, and if you have an area to take a walk, get your kid and go for a walk together.

Since we don't really know what you've been doing for these 16 months that has not worked well for you, it is hard to offer advice. But, I hope that maybe these things will help you. Also, as the person above said, you might lose weight a little slower if you have less weight to lose. What is your goal?

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my ideal weight should be 105 if I get to 120 I will be so happy with it our diet here mainly consist of rice and bread all meat are cooked with fat I wasn't doing anything for the last 16 months my doctor said go ahead and eat what ever u want and u will lose weight so I ate our food but I didn't loose weight I went back to him he yelled and said" its your problem not mine deal with it" I don't know anyone who had WLS there is no support groups or anything when I found this app I was exited

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