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Hello, my apologies... And little "ranty"

So this has been on my mind lately. I am coming up to my year plus wait list time and am almost there to meet with my surgeon. They have a lot of programs people hVe to do to be granted acceptance into being able to have their surgery. I am a full time nursing student, i work part time and i am with my husband during his chemotherapy, driving to and fro. I worry that because i did not do these classes 2 hours away that he will not even look at me. I fear that he may not think i am worthy of getting the surgery soon. Since my referral was made i gained 24 lbs last year, while yo yo dieting. My menses have been incredibly irregular and i fear i have pcos. I don't know how i can convince my doctor to let me have the surgery.

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That's rough. My prayers for your husband and you, too.

Just present your case and hope for compassion. Don't give up!

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You are under a tremendous amount of stress. I pray that your husband goes into remission soon. You need time for yourself, to focus. There is so much on your plate, your a full time student, your husband is ill and you're making a life changing decision for yourself. I'm sending you my best wishes.....

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Thank you both for the kind words. I am being really strong considering, and his illness has confirmed that i really want to live my life too. I feel that my weight has trapped me so much, and like so many, a sleeve would really give both of us our life back. I fear that if i have to wait another year i will become so depressed. I still have so much life in me, i would hate for that life to get sucked out of me. After all, i am only 28.

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