Social Lives?

[Cristin 73]

I'm a bit of a hermit these days. It's really hard for me to even go outside looking and feeling how I do. I don't do things with my friends, love life is nonexistent... Did anybody's social life improve after surgery & weight loss?

[Banned member 320]

Yup mine did! but I've also made other changes such as getting rid of Facebook. I found myself being more active and communicating more and wanting to make friends in person and not online. I've been attending more military functions and meeting other wives and just enjoying life and not living vicariously through my facebook "friends". In a couple of months I will be attending a military ball and I'm so looking forward to wearing a dress. I'm also a more active mom because my daughter is now enrolled in a all star cheerleading team and I've been meeting the other parents. Life has been great since having weight loss surgery and getting rid of facebook.

[TheCurvyJones 721]

Yup. I have way more energy so while I do enjoy hanging out at home, I mostly never went anywhere because I was tired and listless. Now I have tons of energy so I am up and out. I also started dating, which I hadn't been doing for a few years. This surgery is one giant step toward a new life.

[Cristin 73]

Thanks ladies!! That's really inspiring and hopeful news. I just applied the 2nd time to insurance and am nervous and excited, and a bit more hopeful

[Ms.AntiBand 2,984]

Absolutely!

[Cristin 73]

Yup. I have way more energy so while I do enjoy hanging out at home' date=' I mostly never went anywhere because I was tired and listless. Now I have tons of energy so I am up and out. I also started dating, which I hadn't been doing for a few years. This surgery is one giant step toward a new life. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />[/quote']

So how is the dating going, if you don't mind me asking?

[TheCurvyJones 721]

Dating is going okay! Lots of head issues to deal with. I met a very nice man that I've been seeing for about a month. i was fat for a long time so it's been hard to wrap my brain around the fact that someone finds me attractive now. I'm down about 50 lbs from my highest, the smallest I have been in years. He didn't know me when I was heavier, but he's dropped a lot of weight recently so he gets it. Thankful for that, because dating makes me CRAZY. Like totally neurotic and vulnerable and in the middle of all of that, I am dropping lbs and inches and it's messing with my MIND.

The biggest thing to deal with has been my head because I FELT so fat and unattractive, I really believed that no one would ever like me. He says he would have dated me when I was 273. I told him he was crazy. :wub:

The BEST part is that I love what I see in the mirror, and I like having people smile at me instead of walk right past me. I was tired of being invisible, having men look past me to see and talk to my (thinner) friends. I was tired of blending in with the wallpaper. I wanted to sparkle, and now some of that shine is coming out.

[Cristin 73]

Dating is going okay! Lots of head issues to deal with. I met a very nice man that I've been seeing for about a month. i was fat for a long time so it's been hard to wrap my brain around the fact that someone finds me attractive now. I'm down about 50 lbs from my highest' date=' the smallest I have been in years. He didn't know me when I was heavier, but he's dropped a lot of weight recently so he gets it. Thankful for that, because dating makes me CRAZY. Like totally neurotic and vulnerable and in the middle of all of that, I am dropping lbs and inches and it's messing with my MIND.

The biggest thing to deal with has been my head because I FELT so fat and unattractive, I really believed that no one would ever like me. He says he would have dated me when I was 273. I told him he was crazy. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/wub.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':wub:' />

The BEST part is that I love what I see in the mirror, and I like having people smile at me instead of walk right past me. I was tired of being invisible, having men look past me to see and talk to my (thinner) friends. I was tired of blending in with the wallpaper. I wanted to sparkle, and now some of that shine is coming out.[/quote']

That's awesome! He sounds like a good guy. I think just having the experience of being a heavy person makes you more compassionate. And in my opinion, an even better better half I hope it works out!

But oh my gosh I can really really identify with the head stuff. I tried getting back in the dating game a few months back and my self-esteem and confidence were so shot that everything ended up a mess. But I learned so much from it.

It's really heartening and inspiring to hear how you're taking everything on like this and finding your confidence again! I hope I'm able to do the same.

[TheCurvyJones 721]

Yeah I just couldn't do it when I was heavier. I really hated myself, i was depressed and because I hated me I couldn't understand how anyone else could feel any different, so any issue we had boiled down to 'well its cause I'm fat.' IT really wasn't... it was because I hated myself and I was self conscious and that's hard for a person to take, day in and day out. I stopped dating for a long time.

I told my guy that I am kind of neurotic and a little crazy and he would have to just shake his head and hug me, don't try to understand me. LOL.