Milk Duds got the better of me!

[ISleevedIt 380]

Arrgggghhhh! I've been trying to eat right, but a box of Milk Duds was calling my name. It kept saying "eat me, eat me..." I was hypnotized by it's words and I found myself buying the box. I then told myself, only a few. Well, I kept "only a few" to myself until the whole box was gone. It's a might discouraging. I know I have to control my portions and cut out the junk food. I am so afraid that after getting sleeved, I will continue with my bad eating habits. I can go for months being good and eating right, then once I fall off the wagon, I stay off for months and can't seem to get back up. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to pick oneself up and continue forward rather than spiraling downward into the junk food pit?

[VSGKirk 855]

Instead of beating yourself up over this, maybe dig deep and ask yourself what emotional need were those Milk Duds filling? Our sleeves are successful only to the extent that our minds will allow. If you're not already, see a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. It's happend to all of us, otherwise we wouldn't be here, ya know? Be strong :-)

[O.T.R. sleever 3,386]

I know exactly how you feel. You have identified a weakness. The only way to fix it is to not have it around.

For example, I have found that I can eat a bit of dark chocolate here & there, and I'm totally fine with it. Well a couple weeks ago I bought a ghiradelli sea salt and almond bar. I FOUND A WEAKNESS, I ate the whole damn thing. 500 calories in 1bar. I looked at my wife, and said, "I can never buy one of those again.". Well, since my wife loves to see me happy and because I'm always a smart ass, she assumed that I was kidding. A couple days later, what do I get, a card from her & 2 of my demon bars. That's right, she bought me 2 of them. 1000 calories that you can bet I ate.

I know she did it because she likes to see me happy, and for many years I got most of my pleasure from food. So it was really hard to tell her how much I appreciate the fact that she loves me & that she wants me to be happy, and to also say at the same time that she simply cannot put thos kinds of temptations in front of me anymore. After all, we're only human. Right?

[goldenraisin214 142]

I agree with OTR. First of all, I know the sea salt/almond bars you're talking about, and they are YUM! I've fortunately been able to limit myself to 2 squares at a time, but I know the feeling of not being able to deal with certain foods in the house. I've thrown away perfectly good homemade mac & cheese to keep from eating it every.single.day. It may not seem like it at the time, but it is a lot easier to say "no" at the store than to try and avoid something you (or a loved one) has already purchased and put in front of you. Slips happen, life happens, but now that you know, you have to be aware next time and not bring them home with you. You may get to the point in the future where you can buy those "fun size" Halloween packs and just eat one pack (maybe 5 milk duds) vs. a whole full sized box. It's a process. Some foods you will be able to modify, others you may have to say goodbye to--but what's done is done, now you know--take the lesson and keep moving forward--you can do this. Good luck!

[SerendipityHappens 1,594]

I'm preop, but have been on a very strict diet for the past two months. I work in a convenience store and those foods call to me all damn day. I HAVE had a few moments when I cave and eat.. Two weeks ago I ate 1800 calories in 10 minutes. YIKES. BUT.. I counted all those calories wrote them down.. and went on to have a Protein Shake for dinner. Now the old me would have said.. oh, well the day's ruined now... I'll get pizza... And I would have really felt guilty for a long time.. The new me recognizes that this isn't about "perfection" It's about progress and I am progressing.

[ISleevedIt 380]

Thanks all! Sometimes I just need someone to knock some sense back into my head.

[VSGKirk 855]

I'm pretty sure the sense is always there...this time it just had to wade through a little caramel

[12345 80]

I had NO willpower before surgery. After surgery, it wasn't like - BOOM - instant willpower. BUT I haven't had any sweets because I'm afraid to eat stuff like that. I still hear milk duds calling my name, but I'm too scared to even think about eating even one! I imagine my staples popping out and that's not good for anyone!

[Annie B 89]

The only thing that has ever worked for me is staying away from the things that are yummiest to me. One bite and it's like falling dominos. I'm just working on focusing on the Protein and volume and figuring the foods that brought me to diabetes and surgery should probably stay out of my new stomach.

Having said that, prior to surgery I deliberately ate every food I figured I'd miss after surgery - not in huge amounts, just getting in the tastes. I think that worked well for me because the surgery is serious, and the first 6 weeks are focused on not injuring your stomach. So, now, in the 7th week, I don't feel the desire for those foods, and really don't think they're worth it at all.

That's my experience so far...

[desertmom 297]

Tonight I celebrated my new house with half a piece of carrot cake.O and I mourned everything I will have to give up tomorrow because my cholesterol came back with LDL tripled in 3 months and HDL dropped 20 points with another half a piece of carrot cake.

What Im trying to say is sometimes we fail but then we get up and just carry on the right way!Immediately!And no self condemnation,it makes me go for that other piece of carrot cake thats still left...lol

A lady on another board said to me,she has to slap herself senseless sometimes and then make good choices again...lol.You will learn what to have in the house and what not.What you can eat a little of and what not.What your triggers are and how to replace the food when the triggers happen...MOST OF THE TIME,but not always!We are human,we fail sometimes,it is in our nature.

The victory is in just getting back on track immediately!

Good luck with your sleeve journey!