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Is anyone having problem with family (jealousy) for example comparing your vsg surgery to their diabetes or lil digs about your weight loss,like your losing but you still have a ways too go Really.I know in our nut groups they said this would happen but Damnnn!!! REALLY PEOPLE HAVE SEVERAL SEATS :angry:

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Haters suck ! You will find it everywhere! There just jealous people. Take it as compliments instead, and dont let it get to you

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I was getting little digs from my mother-in-law, now I limit our conversations. I don't want the negativity.

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My aunt told me just today she didn't like anyone skinnier than her ????

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I have been criticised and made fun of for many things during my life: red hair, freckles, too skinny, long hair, looking like a hippy, for being a druggie, for being a Christian, for being a preacher, for reading my Bible, for driving junk, for being old, for being fat, ...you get the picture. Sometimes by family, sometimes by strangers. Somewhere along the way the opinions of others cease to matter so much. The fact is...it is your life, not theirs.

People love power. Affecting you is a demonstration of their influence which makes them happy. Acting is a vital skill. If you listen attentively and seem to take to heart their advice you can go away and do what you were going to do anyway. Unless they have a 357 Magnum pointed at you you don't have to implement their wishes.

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I always think, how sad it is that the only way for some people to feel better about themselves is to try to make someone else feel bad. And omg how truly miserable they must be if that's all they've got to make themselves feel better! You know the best way to put them in their place? Ignore them! gman's right -- people love power... the power to make you feel badly. Don't give them the satisfaction of seeing you get upset. Just see them for what they are and see how pathetic it is that they feel they have to act that way.

Keep on rockin'!

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No, nothing but support from family and friends. Ignore what they say, don't give them the power to annoy you. As long as they aren't being disrespectful ignore them. I've learned that some people like to compare their situation to yours and sometimes like to one up you, I just ignore the foolishness.

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Let your haters be your motivators!!!

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Is anyone having problem with family (jealousy) for example comparing your vsg surgery to their diabetes or lil digs about your weight loss' date='like your losing but you still have a ways too go Really.I know in our nut groups they said this would happen but Damnnn!!! REALLY PEOPLE HAVE SEVERAL SEATS :angry:[/quote']

Thanks everyone for your encouraging words!!!

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Jealousy is a horrible thing and it is unfortunate that we reside in a society where that trait shows in many places. Family members, best friends, strangers, and even spouses. Spotting them are easy as they will try to devalue your surgery and weightloss success. Remember that they talked about Jesus... So people will talk about you... No matter what you do.

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My sister in law is the same way. As soon as she knew I was having this done she immediately started dieting and exercising a whole bunch. She is also overweight but I have always been bigger. Now that I am alot smaller she makes comments about she's losing weight naturally and how I'm looking so "skinny". Come on!! I still weigh over 200lbs! So you know what I do? I say thanks! I'm feeling pretty skinny lately and move on to the next subject. Brush your shoulder off and keep moving forward! We are healthier of mind body and soul. And our opinion of ourself is the only one that should matter

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My sister in law is the same way. As soon as she knew I was having this done she immediately started dieting and exercising a whole bunch. She is also overweight but I have always been bigger. Now that I am alot smaller she makes comments about she's losing weight naturally and how I'm looking so "skinny". Come on!! I still weigh over 200lbs! So you know what I do? I say thanks! I'm feeling pretty skinny lately and move on to the next subject. Brush your shoulder off and keep moving forward! We are healthier of mind body and soul. And our opinion of ourself is the only one that should matter

What funny is that today I was asked did I eat something in the kitchen really with 3 oz LOL:-) :-) :-)

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