HURT BY COWORKERS

[SusieK710 130]

My guess is that you are the one with the loving, generous heart. Continue to be that person! Now is the time to center yourself. Let the petty people be petty. Focus on the joy of your fresh start and spend your time with those who bring out the best in you!

[SeriouslyChange 319]

I would be hurt by this too. Like others have said, I suppose this shows you who your friends are, and I am sorry it happened to you. Did you tell anyone you were having WLS?

[Wolfgirl1978 256]

We also collect money for surgeries, babies, and funerals to be able to send flowers, balloons, etc at my job

I have never received anything from my office for the surgeries, childbirth, or family funerals.

I no longer contribute to this fund at my office.

[fyre_storm 1,412]

Ok I'm just going to be up front because apparently no one here is willing to say it...... Go to your office and start pulling hair and slapping b*****s! Get some coffee milk and through it on them while screaming "bite my skinny ass" and then order flowers and slap em with it ...... Dang lol now I'm tired...... Ill do it for 5 bucks.

[JuliannaJ 83]

Thanks guys! You really have all helped me!

I am not usually the coordinator of the gifts because my boss is the one that holds all of the money.

It is funny because I told my family and REAL friends not to do anything (and I meant it) and I am not at all upset that I did not get any cards or flowers from them so why do I care about these "losers"? I never told them not to do anything though. Had I said that to them I would not be offended.

As far as the surgery goes, there was a medical reason behind it as well as the weight issue...I had some abnormalities and they knew all about it. They are in the healthcare industry so they do understand the surgery.

As far as the emails and such, I work under a grant and if the things don't get done, it risks our grant so I sort of have to answer the emails...just thought they could do more of it without me. But when I am on vacation I get emails and calls too.

I thought about no longer contributing to the fund but then that means sometime someone is ill, I would have to do something on my own.

I am just afraid when I get back to the office there WILL be tension as I am really hurt and angry. I don't want to hold these feelings in but I am not sure I can just do or say nothing and let it be at that. I want to have a good WORKING relationship with these people at the very least since they are obviously not friends.

[JuliannaJ 83]

Ok I'm just going to be up front because apparently no one here is willing to say it...... Go to your office and start pulling hair and slapping b*****s! Get some coffee milk and through it on them while screaming "bite my skinny ass" and then order flowers and slap em with it ...... Dang lol now I'm tired...... Ill do it for 5 bucks.

Yeah but I am not skinny yet! Lol

[sailorbrees 69]

I have worked in all male field and all female field and if I could go back to all male I would in a heart beat!

Amen! It's half the reason I quit teaching elementary school and went to middle!

[fyre_storm 1,412]

Give it a month and you'll be skinny! And I would also accept if you scream " kiss my soon to be skinny ass" or " kiss my ass which will be skinnier in a few months"

[flmama 105]

Ok I'm just going to be up front because apparently no one here is willing to say it...... Go to your office and start pulling hair and slapping b*****s! Get some coffee milk and through it on them while screaming "bite my skinny ass" and then order flowers and slap em with it ...... Dang lol now I'm tired...... Ill do it for 5 bucks.

Fyre ...I just LOL! You remind me of my brother!

[DivaNurse 171]

Ok I'm just going to be up front because apparently no one here is willing to say it...... Go to your office and start pulling hair and slapping b*****s! Get some coffee milk and through it on them while screaming "bite my skinny ass" and then order flowers and slap em with it ...... Dang lol now I'm tired...... Ill do it for 5 bucks.

ROFL Storm you have lost your mind.......ROFL....I will pay you 10 to do it for me ROFL

[JuliannaJ 83]

JuliannaJ - please send me your mailing address....I would love to make this right for you!

Sadly, you work with a bunch of insensitive a-holes. Not only would I no longer contribute to the office fund, I would tell EVERYONE you work with why you are no longer contibuting to the fund...because it's only for some of the people some of the time.

If they continue to call and email you, I would simply tell them that you aren't really in a position to help them right now since you took time off work specifically to recover from surgery.

JuliannaJ - please send me your mailing address....I would love to make this right for you!

Sadly, you work with a bunch of insensitive a-holes. Not only would I no longer contribute to the office fund, I would tell EVERYONE you work with why you are no longer contibuting to the fund...because it's only for some of the people some of the time.

If they continue to call and email you, I would simply tell them that you aren't really in a position to help them right now since you took time off work specifically to recover from surgery.

I love everyone on here! Perfect strangers are willing to do something! This means a lot to me and I thank you for your offer. Just being able to come on here and ask my questions and vent my feelings and get such warm responses means a lot! Thanks, you guys rock! I am thinking right now of hiring fyre_storm though because I am in the MAD phase...lol.

[Sdonovan78 6]

I had a similar thing happen at my job when I went out on maternity leave. I was the one who made sure we always gave cards, recognized birthdays and big events. I worked with mainly men and we even would throw them baby showers when their wives were expecting and I got nothing. Forget them! You are a good person and what comes around goes around!

[Geminidrive 389]

I think you should tell them and be done with it. Be nice.....just ask them did they forget you.

[HoosierGirl 780]

Fyre_storm really needs to go visit your officemates while you are out. Sounds like he would LITERALLY whip them into shape! Love it!

[Oliver's Mom 258]

I'm sorry for their insensitivity. You are right it doesn't matter why someone had surgery.....and if you send to one you should send to all. We here all are sending you love and well wishes!