Did you keep your surgery a secret?

[MichiganChic 3,262]

I told my immediate family and a handful of close friends and co-workers. I wanted their support and encouragment. I have sworn them to secrecy. I don't want to be the topic of anyone's conversation, and it is a personal thing for me.

It's funny to me when I say that because I have my picture in my profile, and that's not very annonymous, but I just don't want to discuss it with acquaintances.

[MK1986 78]

I am aiming for a March date...so far my hubby knows. I don't know if my insurance will approve it so I don't want to get anyone upset until I know for sure. Then I will tell my mom and sisters and bff.

[MK1986 78]

it does seem to be.

My husband said' date=' "Why can't you just exercise?"

I couldn't even get into all the reasons why exercise isn't possible for me, between swollen, Fluid filled feet, arthritic knees, a compressed disc with shooting sciatic pain, and I'm only 31! Exercise = dangerous and painful. He thought I could just zumba for a few months and be fit. Uh, no!

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My hubby is the same way!

[dtay13 4]

I chose not to tell anyone (only my husband and best friend know) becasue I didn't want a lifetime of "Oh, are you allowed to eat that" everytime I put somethign near my mouth. I am 6 weeks out and my weight loss has progressed at a pretty good rate, but not at a shocking rate (-35)...so just now people are starting to ask me about losing weight and I answer that I have completely changed my eating habits and I am simply moving more, eating less. Its nobody's business except my own, it was a medical decision.

[kathrynb10 11]

This may seem crazy and I'm not quite sure how it will play out yet but I haven't told a soul - not even my Husband. I'm going in Feb to have it done after a business trip. I just don't want to hear anyone's input. My husband wouldn't like that I'm going to Mexico and I'm not sure how he would feel about the surgery. I just want to do something for myself. I'm not sure what I would say when I came home and I'm wondering if it's possible to say nothing at all. Crazy right? Or not? I don't know -

[Chellennunley 62]

I'm just started my 6 month diet. I am only told my hubs, my oldest son, daughter in law, mom, step dad and one friend. They are all very supportive. I know my sisters and nieces will be as well, and I will tell them, but probably after. I am not ashamed, I just don't want or need the added pressure. I am blessed, my family wants me to get this weight off and will be very supportive. I just need to tell them in MY time.

[Nicolanz 1,484]

This may seem crazy and I'm not quite sure how it will play out yet but I haven't told a soul - not even my Husband. I'm going in Feb to have it done after a business trip. I just don't want to hear anyone's input. My husband wouldn't like that I'm going to Mexico and I'm not sure how he would feel about the surgery. I just want to do something for myself. I'm not sure what I would say when I came home and I'm wondering if it's possible to say nothing at all. Crazy right? Or not? I don't know -

Way crazy!! Haha. He's going to see your incisions, right? Wow keep us updated!

[bethxxx 304]

This may seem crazy and I'm not quite sure how it will play out yet but I haven't told a soul - not even my Husband. I'm going in Feb to have it done after a business trip. I just don't want to hear anyone's input. My husband wouldn't like that I'm going to Mexico and I'm not sure how he would feel about the surgery. I just want to do something for myself. I'm not sure what I would say when I came home and I'm wondering if it's possible to say nothing at all. Crazy right? Or not? I don't know -

I think you'll have to tell him when you get back, won't he notice that for 2 weeks your having only liquids? And then 2 weeks of puréed foods, he will think that's really weird. And he will see your incisions.

[kathrynb10 11]

And there is my conundrum. Ithink I'll have no choice but to tell him when I get back. But by then I'll be asking for forgiveness and not permission. But that also feels strange. I don't know - I just don't need to hear all the negativity - I hate that more than anything.

[annabelle 76]

for the 3mts I was making up my mind I told no one, once I knew this is what I want I told my partner and 2 sets of very close friends, I only told my family before christmas but that was because we were told I would be having the op in January, with all the delays going on I wont be having it till June, I now wish I didnt tell them all as they keep asking when is it or you wont go through with it, i was stronger when no one knew,

[kathrynb10 11]

And I think that's part of it too. I never do anything for just me. There is absolutely nothing private in my life - and I just want this decision, experience to belong to me.

[MK1986 78]

This may seem crazy and I'm not quite sure how it will play out yet but I haven't told a soul - not even my Husband. I'm going in Feb to have it done after a business trip. I just don't want to hear anyone's input. My husband wouldn't like that I'm going to Mexico and I'm not sure how he would feel about the surgery. I just want to do something for myself. I'm not sure what I would say when I came home and I'm wondering if it's possible to say nothing at all. Crazy right? Or not? I don't know -

If I am not mistaken. Its state law for a person having surgery to have another person accompany them while in surgery.

[teachbearga1 18]

I am a very private person. I only told my parents. I do not want answer questions about the surgery.

[MK1986 78]

What r u telling your bosses?

[joatsaint 2,814]

I only told my immediate family and my best friend. Not that it's any big secret, I just don't want to be barraged with questions. If anyone ever sees the surgery scars, I'm going to tell'em it's a gunshot wound I got in a drive-by. Original Gangsta in the house!