Did you keep your surgery a secret?

[KanesMom 44]

Hi all. I'm new here to the forum. I'm just graduated the Tufts "Can Change" program and am finally finding out my surgery date on the 7th. I'm so excited! I was wondering how many of you kept your surgery a secret? So far I've told my family, my very best friend and my boyfriend. I was just wondering how others handled their situation.

Thanks in advance!

[Nicolanz 1,484]

Pretty much everyone that I told, told everyone else! That's ok though. Most everyone has seen me struggle with my weight and for the most part were supportive.

[vogue 310]

I told no one except my husband...

[LG1981 111]

Im on a need-to-know basis. Immediate family, close friends. I think eventually everyone will ask you how you lost the weight...

[DanaMomto3 145]

I told my husband, my mom and my 3 best friends and asked them not to tell anyone else. My surgery is the 31st

[deltadawn817 106]

I have told a hand full of people, Husband, oldest child 8, mother in law, step father in law, brother inlaw, sister in laws, I told my family mom, sisters, brother and My mother took upon herself to tell on of my aunts her sister and I had to have words with her.

There are a few people in my family I didn't want to know and I just made it clear to the people on my husbands side that I shared with.

[atPeace55 71]

Pretty much the same as everyone above mentioned I told my husband first and he knew I had been researching for a year then when I knew I was close to getting a date for surgery I told my family and a couple of very close friends. I didn't tell my job and my NP told me I didn't need to just to let them know that I have a major surgery that I will be undergoing and that I would be out for a few weeks for recovery. I also should mention that I work from home so know one from work would see my transformation so it was really of issue of having to come out and explain.

Good luck with starting your journey!!

[JerseyGirl68 1,172]

You will find many different answers to this, and the reality is - it's a personal decision. I told most of my family, close friends and only a few co-workers. Those that would be supportive and not judgmental. Much like any other personal information I go case by case. Not trying to hide it, but I don't share every detail of other aspects of my life with just anyone, so I used the same gauge. You'll know what is right for you.

Best of luck to you!!

[onelessfatgirl 103]

I've only told the inner circle - my husband, my sister, my two best friends, and my parents. I suppose more of my family and friends will know. If I'm asked I certainly won't lie but I'm not publicizing it all around.

[mel2643 68]

I told my Sons ( 20 yr and 15 yr ) my husband , mom and brother and that is it .... No one else needs to know in my opinion . I work out 4 times a week with a personal trainer and I eat well ... So I omit the surgery part and play on the workout and good eating habbits . Not too long ago my brother in law was talking about the lap band and saying I have no respect for losing weight that way ( with surgery ) which validated me not saying anything to anyone else .

[jessy1523 27]

Ur so right no one needs to know just like people don't post I'm getting my boobs or Tummy Tuck so No need to tell

[JessicaAnn 564]

The only people that know are my mom and my husband. I'm going to keep it that way until after the surgery at least, maybe not at all. I'll play it by ear.

[cls8402 26]

I'm just starting the process, but it's going to happen. (Whether I can get it approved now or have to go through another year of diet!)

I am not telling many people. My family (brother and parents), my grandmother (I live with her), my boyfriend and his family (he and his sister also had it done), and one friend (who lives far away and has nobody to tell). That's it. I'm not even telling my best friend. She's thin, athletic & healthy. She doesn't understand why I just can't lose it on my own. I'll tell her the day before probably, just so she can't try to talk me out of it. That's more or less why I'm keeping it to myself. I don't want people's opinions. I've done my research and know my stuff!

Our HR lady at work knows I want to have it done, simply because I was asking her about the coverages. I plan on telling my boss when I am ready to schedule surgery in case of complications.

It's a personal decision. This is hard for me. I'm an open book, and tend to tell everyone everything. I have to bite my tounge sometimes!

[Ms.AntiBand 2,984]

My husband and adult kids know. One niece- in-law accidentally found out because she's best friends with my daughter and saw a pic. My weight problem is very embarrassing to me and I tend to hide any issues related to it and it's very personal to me who knows

[misslady 130]

Only husband knows that I am planning to have the surgery, a friend that had bypass and 1 coworker. I do plan tell parents and siblings a few days before surgery.