sweetie2003 36 Posted January 23, 2013 Just curious how your signifigant other has responded to your surgery?? My hubby doesnt say much at all. He knows i want this but will remind me he loves me no matter what size i am. I think he thinks im doing it for him??? Im doing this to make my self happy! What kind of feedback are yall getting? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ms.AntiBand 2,984 Posted January 23, 2013 My husnad didn't want me to do the surgery, but only because of risks. I have a bad history of complications so it was natural for this reaction. Ha also doesn't say much and I think it's because a spouse is in the " damned if I do and damned if I don't" situation. They want to encourage you, but does that mean they don't like the way you are or think you need to lose weigh in their eyes, etc? Sensitive area there! Just recently, I told my husband Ive lost 25 lbs now and I could see the look of entrapment on his face... lol, I bailed him out and changed the subject. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
candice1218 22 Posted January 23, 2013 My husband didn't really want me to have the surgery but I think it's more because of his own in securities. Everyone at his work that spouses have had it they have gotten a divorce. The night and morning before surgery he was a complete jerk! I guess he's coming around though and he actually went on a diet too of course he is losing so fast and is already down a pants size! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
No game 14,437 Posted January 23, 2013 My husband has always loved me big or small. I had a woman ask me once " what does your husband say about your weight gain" I told her "he loves me the same" she said "oh what a good man he is to love you after gaining weight" what??? Like he's a saint for sticking around?? Lol.. But he is a great man for many reasons . He wasn't really thrilled when I told him about the sleeve. But I asked him please come to a consultation with the doctor with me. At the doctors I let him see how much I weighed and laid everything out on the table for him to see. I mean I was big enough to qualify! I think he really didn't want to believe I was that big but I was. He is now my biggest supporter and likes seeing me happy! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CoCo41 54 Posted January 23, 2013 My hubby actually helped me make my decision. I had been on high blood pressure, and diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. He said baby I want you here a little longer, so I think you should do it. Now everytime he see's me he gets excited. I was blessed with a great husband no complaints here! 1 Livinglifeout reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Randydec27 23 Posted January 23, 2013 Me and my wife did it at the same time so we are on this trip togather !!! 1 rxtine reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ms skinniness 3,003 Posted January 23, 2013 My husband didn't say much. Just that he loves me no matter what. Later after my major weight loss and no more diabetes, he started talking about how this vsg would help my niece who has issues with her diabetes, bp, and eyes. Wanted me to talk with her..... Now that saids it all..... 1 CoCo41 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SoonToBeThinKAT 67 Posted January 26, 2013 My hubby was not thrilled with the idea initially bc of lack of info that he had on it. He knew I wanted to do this for myself to get healthy bc of many failed attempts in the past. I took him to a free wls seminar with one of the drs I was considering and with his research he changed his mind. He has always said he loves me no matter what. We have been together for 15 yrs and when we first met I was much smaller then gained a lot of weight so he has seen me at all different sizes. I think he was more ok with it bc he saw how I wanted and needed it. 1 sweetie2003 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SleeveNZ 219 Posted January 26, 2013 My partner paid for the surgery himself!!! This was after I came up with the suggestion of getting WLS.... very much for it, he wanted the sexy girl back that he met 4 years ago!! We plan to get married next year and I'm gonna look damn good walking down that aisle!! 2 sweetie2003 and Livinglifeout reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gaye jarvis 751 Posted January 26, 2013 My husband is the one who brought up the idea of WLS, he has watched me go thru so many complications from being overweight. Thank God I listened to him! 7 months out and 107 lbs down my wonderful husband is getting his sexy wife back and believe me, he's enjoying every minute of it! Sent from Gaye's iPad Mini using VST 1 sweetie2003 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Livinglifeout 217 Posted January 26, 2013 My husband is the one who brought up the idea of WLS, he has watched me go thru so many complications from being overweight. Thank God I listened to him! 7 months out and 107 lbs down my wonderful husband is getting his sexy wife back and believe me, he's enjoying every minute of it! Sent from Gaye's iPad Mini using VST This is how my husband was. He said as long as you've done your research, so it was off to Mexico we go. He has tried to eat like me and although he only needed to lose 10lbs he has, and brings no junk food in our house in order to help me. He never really complained about my fatness, but now he is so happy for me and I can tell he loves the new clothes I get, and that I don't wear Baggie ugly clothes anymore. He loves that i can do so much now, and talks about the energy I have now. He really loves the new wife he has, since I'm getting back to the women he married 29 years ago:) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
curvyweezie 62 Posted January 26, 2013 My husband has been so supportive from day one of my decision. I have a 6 month diet requirement and he helps me every day. My husband and I met when I was 245 pounds 13 years ago. So I know he doesn't have a problem with a bigger woman, but at my current weight of 340 its a bit out of his scope I'm sure. He would never say, he tells me every day how beautiful I am. But just recently admitted he hates to see me in pain how Im walking. He's so amazing, I can't wait to give him a sexier woman he's never had. We are high school sweethearts and have only ever been with each other. He deserves it. Can't wait!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bittahoney 12 Posted January 26, 2013 My bf has been so supportive every step of the way. He went to the info session and every dr appt since. I was sleeved 7 months ago and I am down 85#. He has adopted my way of eating and has dropped 30#. We exercise together and he was excitedly surprised when I said I wanted to start running. He is absolutely amazing and I am so lucky to have someone so supportive as he is. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites