Impatient and FRUSTRATED!

[JennyBeth 127]

So I know I probably sound like a big whiner, but I am feeling really frustrated at the moment! A week and a half ago I got the call that I was approved (this was a Friday). I was so excited! On Monday I went to my PCP to pick-up the original referral (I have *** insurance) and noticed that the referral was just for the consult appt! Talk about the wind getting knocked out of my sails! Then there was some run-around with the surgeon's office and my PCP regarding the referral. The bariatric program that I am using normally has you see the surgeon, bariatician, nutritionist and psychologist all in the 1st appt. so since my referral was just for the surgeon my insurance required a letter from the surgeon's office stating how exactly their program works. OK fine. I called yesterday to verify and I have a referral for the surgeon and an EGD to be done. I guess I have to complete all of the "clearance tests" and then if the surgeon recommends that I'm a candidate for surgery then my insurance will approve me for the surgery and refer me to see the other specialists. I know this is all formalities, but I'm frustrated because I am afraid I could be denied. Thinking I was approved already was such a great feeling and now I feel like I am in limbo! I feel very fortunate that my insurance covers WLS and I will jump through whatever "hoop" they tell me to, but it just stinks when you're so excited and then you feel discouraged! I am just so scared that something will go wrong and I won't be able to have the surgery. Financially I can't afford to go to Mexico or be a self-pay.

[JennyBeth 127]

That should read H M O not *** insurance!

[JennyBeth 127]

I know . . . quit my bitching, right?

[Vicki0618 123]

JennyBeth, I totally know what you are saying. I saw the surgeon, nut and psych and now I guess I'm waiting for the psych report to come in so the surgeons office can submit to insurance for approval for surgery. I checked today and the psych report should be in this week. I should be happy because my surgeons office is on top of everything, but I just want to stomp my foot and get a surgery date.

For me my frustration comes from not being able to do anything. (I have a few control issues ) I have done EVERYTHING they need, and now it's out of my hands. And all I can do it wait! UGH!!!

[JennyBeth 127]

That's my issue, too. CONTROL! I like to know exactly what I need to do and then do it. I don't like feeling like I have to hand over that control to others because it's not as important to anyone else as it is to me. If there are mistakes made I'd rather they were my mistakes and not someone else's (although who am I kidding? I don't make mistakes! Just like you I also don't like not having dates set and feeling like I'm in limbo!

Deep breaths! I just need to RELAX and let go! (Unfortunately easier said than done!)