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That is exactly what I'm going through with my Dad & Father in law. Even my closest friends are saying things like that. It makes me feel alone. I feel like when I am sick, I won't be able to let them know cause I sure don't want to hear a told ya so. My surgery is Tue, 22nd & I'm so scared I'm making a bad choice.

Its your journey, not theirs. Its your body, not theirs. Its your happiness, not theirs.

Remember you are never alone. I considered this surgery for over a year, I read lots from experienced patients and I prayed. And I did NOT consider any input from "well meaning" friends or family. Best wishes to you LovinMe!!

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This is why only my mother (who is being sleeved next month) and my husband know. Good luck!!

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Good luck, you'll do great. Your focus should be on you for a while now, this is something you are doing for YOUR health. It's hard but just let the comments pass you by. They will change their tune when they see how healthy & happy you will be.

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So I'm out of surgery. I'm in a lot of pain and the morphine isn't helping much. I've been drifting out of sleep all day, waking up for 5 mins at a time to get more painkillers.

The plus side is that the staff are simply amazing. I've had every question answered and they are so friendly.

Anyway back to sleep

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Hang in there Beth! You are clearly a strong woman, you've come this far. Remember what the post-ops say that each day get a little easier (hey, that's you now - CONGRATS!). Keep us updated on how you're doing if and when ya can.

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Thanks everyone.

The surgery went well, I was in a lot of pain when I first came out but I have a button that releases pain medication into my IV which really helped. I woke up every hour through the night either in pain or just uncomfortable. I decided at 4am that I'm not going back to sleep because its just not working so maybe later on today I'll sleep.

The hospital and all the staff are amazing! All the nurses and the surgeon are so so nice, answered every question I had. The nurses on my ward make me feel really safe, they are just so kind!!

If anyone has any questions feel free to ask me and good luck to those who are having surgery soon xx

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So glad to hear you are doing well and receiving good care!

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I also know what it's like for everyone to try n talk u out of it. My grown kids say ill have saggy skin my guy friend says he wont talk to me which leaves me w one friend. I have prayed about this and though I wouldn't want it to go wrong n my family have to endure it I really am the one who has to deal with me if I don't. Congrats beth. Hope to b right behind u.

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I also know what it's like for everyone to try n talk u out of it. My grown kids say ill have saggy skin my guy friend says he wont talk to me which leaves me w one friend. I have prayed about this and though I wouldn't want it to go wrong n my family have to endure it I really am the one who has to deal with me if I don't. Congrats beth. Hope to b right behind u.

That's so horrible that someone said they won't talk to you anymore. Maybe you should try and educate him about, to show it's a tool for life and not some quick fix. I would have with the bfs mum if I thought there were any point. She is so unreasonable she wouldn't listen anyway.

If you know you want to do this then don't let anyone's words stop you!!

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So I am at home' date=' showered and ready to go. I'm pretty nervous... I was excited til I let my boyfriends mum get to me.

She keeps saying things like I'm a beautiful young lady and I don't need to do this and that because I have been losing weight lately I should be able to do it on my own. She says the side effects are extremely bad (she was researching the wrong procedure, when I pointed this out she just yelled that the side effects are the same). Last night my boyfriend went to her house and she said to him "just remember when she's sick, she did this to herself"

I know she is worried about me but I really don't need someone trying to talk me out of this days before I'm supposed to have surgery. Especially since I've known for a long time I want to do this.

Anyway it's 1 hour til I have to be at the hospital, it's only 5 mins away from my house so it's pretty good.

Wish me luck![/quote']

Good luck pls keep us posted

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I also know what it's like for everyone to try n talk u out of it. My grown kids say ill have saggy skin my guy friend says he wont talk to me which leaves me w one friend. I have prayed about this and though I wouldn't want it to go wrong n my family have to endure it I really am the one who has to deal with me if I don't. Congrats beth. Hope to b right behind u.

Well when you have your hawt smokin New bod and he comes a knocking on your door for a randevue, be like.ohhh I'm sorry.were not talking! Lol

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Either she is skinny and just dont get it...or she is jealous and wants the surgery herself

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