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I had the vertical sleeve on Monday 1/14 and was ok the hospital for four days. It seemed so easy to do the liquid diet there and get the essential fluids and Protein, but now that I am home I don't feel like I am getting enough of either.

On top of that my boyfriend and I live together, and I know that he has to eat (lol), but the smells remind me of the foods I used to love. It's torture. I am now constantly questioning my decision to have the sleeve surgery in the first place. Should i have let my love of food consume me? I am so uncertain right now. Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.

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your having "buyers remorse" its perfectly NORMAL... My surgery was 12/28, i was also in the hospital for 4 days, and i went threw the SAME thing... i would cook for my family and CRY over scalloped tators and Ham... i was a mess. Im just starting to get past that point. at just past three weeks out my foods have more variety and i KNOW now that i cant tolerate most of what smells so good anyway. the trick is to find what you can eat.. and enjoy it!

Hang in there... it will get better.. promise:)

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My surgery was 1/15/13 - I too, am wondering what in the hell have I done? Will I ever get to eat like a "normal" person again? Will I ever get to enjoy a normal meal? And will food continue to consume my thoughts? I am most certainly questioning my decision

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It gets better! Not to say some days aren't challenging.. Today its football day in our house my husband and son are eating chips and dip!! The cool thing though is I grabbed a Protein Shake just now because I haven't eaten yet today and a few sips later I'm full and looking at those chips like, "so what" you will feel that more as time goes on.

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I felt the same way after surgery. I had a very rough time getting stuff in - it's pretty standard post surgery.

Now that I am a ways out (8 months) I almost wish I could go back to that time :) looking at the ticker, how dramatically the clothing sizes drop, being taken off all meds, cpap, how people no longer even recongize who I am make every bit of initial pain, fear, and doubt worth it.

We had to really alter things around the house with our teenager - she can eat junk out of the house or on here and there if she has a friend stay over - but generally the house is clean food only. My husband also had the surgery so this makes things infinitely easier - but for those times when something yummy is being prepared and I cant eat it - make some Protein Soup or eat a string cheese and I am sated. Eating the old way (food addict - fast food junkies) simply doesnt work and doesnt taste the same at all. Hang in there - it is really hard but try to find thing your like and always have them on hand :)

Since this started my husband is 130 lbs down, I am down 126, and our daughter has lost 26 lbs from Protein first, no processed carbs, soda, etc. it is hard, but so worth it.

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As the others have said it gets easier as time goes on. Remember eventually you'll be able to eat what you want but in smaller quantities, hopefully while making healthier choices but to each is own. It would have been easier to get your requirements in while in the hospital because that was all you had to think about, now that your home you are probably trying to get back to your normal life and it takes time to find the proper balance to get the things in and get everything done. Good Luck

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I had the vertical sleeve on Monday 1/14 and was ok the hospital for four days. It seemed so easy to do the liquid diet there and get the essential fluids and protein' date=' but now that I am home I don't feel like I am getting enough of either.

On top of that my boyfriend and I live together, and I know that he has to eat (lol), but the smells remind me of the foods I used to love. It's torture. I am now constantly questioning my decision to have the sleeve surgery in the first place. Should i have let my love of food consume me? I am so uncertain right now. Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.[/quote']

So I was right where you are a few weeks ago. If you look at my past threads, you'll see that you are not alone. Keep your head up, you just have to get through the next bit of time and you'll feel so much better about food. Just keep following the plan, and one day soon you will realize it isn't so hard. One thing I learned after the fact that no one ever told me, is that ghrelin stays in your system for about 30 days post op so don't plan on food cravings changing overnight, but they will change! Good luck!

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Just remember you have probably added YEARS to your life. I am barely making it on my preop diet, but am getting better each day at being strict. I know the misery since I had the lap band, but I seem weaker after all; these years. I just have to remind myself of the miserable arthritis pain and lack of mobility and look forward to a healthier me. Good luck!

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