Hi, New to Forum...working up for VSG in July

[Survivor1969 2]

Hi.

After many years of struggling with my weight, I have decided to get worked up for the sleeve surgery. Right now, in order to qualify for my insurance, there are several things I have to do in order to qualify...6 months worth! The longest thing is the work with a nutritionist. Im about half way thru everything....I am looking forward to being approved and changing my life!

I am 43 years old, divorced mother of 3, about to be a grandmom this month! I work from home and am an author.

My continual weight loss is decreasing my quality of life....and I have little to no support. No family, few friends.

I had my endoscopy yesterday and reached out to an associate...I confided in her about my plans...of course, she was against it.

She is on her own weight loss journey and has lost 15 lbs....I was happy for her. But at the same time, I was quite annoyed with her sharing horror stories of other friends she knows who had gastric surgery. I had promised myself I would share my plans with no one...except my daughter-who lives with me.

I decided to share with this associate only b/c I was asking her if she could be the pick up person for me when I am discharged from the hospital...again, I have no one here in this area that can help me and the hospital will not just let me go home in a cab like I asked. So she asked what was wrong, if Im ok.

So thats why I am coming here.

I don't need the negativity of other ppl's opinions or their projecting THEIR fears onto me about surgery.

I am not afraid of surgery like many (black) ppl are. I had to have a hysterectomy for fibroids a few years back and ran into the same issue...family and friends trying to discourage me from doing it. Imploring me to try other options before I do something so permanent.

I was having 2 week periods, couldn't have sex with my husband (we are now divorced), was severely anemic, couldn't work (I was passing out at my job!), and my quality of life sucked!

Having the hysterectomy was one of the BEST decisions I have EVER had!

So I feel the same thing will happen with this surgery.

I don't know how many believe in prayer on this forum...but I ask that you pray for me that I am approved for this surgery and that I can go on with the life I should have BEEN had almost 20 years ago!

Thanks!

[moregoodtimes 331]

Welcome! Are you in a local support group? Perhaps making that connection now would give you, not only support for you through this journey, but also a connection to a local person willing to give you a lift home, or at least ride in a cab with you. Best of luck.

[Survivor1969 2]

I am not. I am looking into some options now. I wrote down someone's contact info when I went to the seminar, but LOST the contact info! ARRGHH!

[isenbergl 13]

I can sympathize with you. I too struggle with who to tell that I am having the surgery, which should be happening in the next month. (I just completed my 6 months of dietician visits and received approval from insurance). I have received mixed comments from the people I have told, and unfortunately it is the negative ones that hurt the most. I don't want to tell everyone that I know that I am having the surgery, but I also don't want to be dishonest about how I lost the weight because I know the questions about how I did it are going to come. I also would appreciate any advice in this area. Thus far I have only told close friends, my family, and my manager.

[JustJacciO 2]

I am also in the process of the 6 month pre-op work-up... I will keep up with you through VST... I hope that all goes well and that you find the support and encouragement that you need and deserve!

[Survivor1969 2]

Thanks guys!

[lessofmeismore 1,405]

Sending prayers up for you!!!

Best wishes on your journey to health and happiness!!

Glad you're here