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I have currently been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. He is worried I won't want to be with him anymore after I am sleeved. I tell him all the time he is the only one I want to be with. How can I reassure him that I will be with him with or without being sleeved

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You cant. That's his insecurity he needs to get over. He really needs to quit b/c that can be harmful to the relationship if he keeps doing it.

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omg i have the same problem with my gf she said im going to look more toner and attractive and she thinks if i find more hotter chick im going to leave i told her to stop because its gets irratating u really cant say what the futire has in store but during that time just show and tell him that he means alot and if he does love u and care for u he wont think of it at all

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I have currently been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. He is worried I won't want to be with him anymore after I am sleeved. I tell him all the time he is the only one I want to be with. How can I reassure him that I will be with him with or without being sleeved

No one knows what the future holds all he can do is trust you

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There is nothing u can really do or say. He will have to work out his insecurity issues in his own. I told my husband how much i love him and how great he was and how perfect we were together He was fine with my sleeve. He loved all the compliment he was get on me that was until all of his buddies kept telling him "Dude, she going to leave u". So he got sleeved too. Now we match.

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My husband is in the process also. I will be sleeved February 18th but he still has 4 months of the 6 month diet. I wanted us to do the journey together so we would understand what we were both going through.

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Your being sleeved the day before me. Good luck and hope you have a speedy recovery!

Thank you and same to you :). Me an my mother in law are going in together.

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