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My surgery is Thursday and I finally decided to tell my Dad today . His reaction was less than thrilled. He actually cut me off when I was trying to tell him about the surgery. I think maybe he is just nervous about the surgery but it kind of hurt my feelings. Anyone else in a similar situation?

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I'm sure he's just very worried. Also there may be some guilt as well. I know for me as a father I have one of my daughters (I have 8 yo twins) who appears to have a similar relationship with food that I 'had'.

I feel pretty guilty about it. If it is genetic, it's not the gift I would have liked to have given her. I don't know if you were over weight as a child, but maybe he feels like he contributed?

With a BMI of about 60, this will be a fantastic thing for you. Your Dad doesn't have all the information, so really is basing his opinion on a lack of information (I was going to say ignorance, but it sounded bad!! :) )

All the best on Thursday,

Deano

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Your Dad is not very informed as most people are about how our body image affects us as well as the medical complications that come from obesity. He is most likely scared that something horrible will happen and he will lose you. Having said that, this procedure is one of the safest between the RnY and the Lapband. So no worries, do what you have set out to do and trust that everything will be ok. :)

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I went through something similar with my Mother. She was also against me having the surgery. I suggest Educate them as soon as possible. Be kind. Let them know that it is laparoscopic surgery too. A less invasive surgery and more safer than than RNY surgery. And that the Lap band has problems so sleeve surgery is better and why. I just had this conversation with my mother. The conversation should have happened sooner!

I educated her and she was okay but, first she strongly disagreed!

Things will be okay. Keep your head up!

Good luck!

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my dad was thrilled as he suffers with arthritis like i do, but he knew i would not be allowed to have my knee opp, my mother and 1 of my sisters were very negative about it, i was taken the easy route till I sent them youtube videos and made them watch the procedure, my mother is ok now but my sister who is a size 10 still thinks its the easy way but i dont mind cos i can change with this new tool but she will always be negative, every one here is here for you, you can do it and become the person you crave to be xx

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